Help - husband has been texting a woman

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I have just discovered today when my husband left his phone open next to me that my husband of 15 years (with whom I have three children) has been texting another woman.
I never look at the phone and a message had popped up and I saw it then scrolled through whatsapp and there were so many messages. Some saying miss you baby ❤️ And some photos - I didn't see anything beside a headshot but this girl looks in her Twenties. My husband is 40.
I never thought for a minute he would do something like this and I feel so betrayed and so confused.
I don't know the extent of it he says they go back 6 weeks.
I showed him the phone and asked if he would like to explain it to me. He immediately panicked and deleted everything so I can't see anything. I couldnt see much as it was all in Spanish as ahe is South American. He is English. But had.l been writing in Spanish using google translate.
I asked if they have met or done anything together and he furiously denies anything and says it was just chatting and that he wanted attention. What if I hadn't found it today?
He told me he bought her a months gym membership at pure gym that she asked for money.
We have a pretty normal relationship for a couple with three children with what id consider to be a healthy regular sex life. I am jus let baffled and don't know what to do or what to believe.
I really would appreciate advice from anyone who has been in this situation or also what others think about what I've found. Thank you.

So it's gone from "texting only" to "meeting 5/6 times for lunch" to "booking a room but doing nothing". In other words the classic script, which I'm sure you know isn't true. I alsoI think the £100+ withdrawals and her dismissiveness on the phone suggest something more here - something like a prostitute

I'm really sorry but you're not going to get the truth because, to him, there's no point in telling it. If he gives the whole story he thinks you'll leave and he doesn't want to risk that, and if you leave with what you know already there's no point in telling you more

Definitely a prostitute

Have you lost your mind OP? This is as clear as day. She is clearly a prostitute whether in the traditional or non-traditional sense. In what world would they go to a hotel room to kiss FFS? I think you need to remember your self-respect and realise what has happened here.

Ffs it's doesn't matter about her and her intentions. His were clear and you're falling into the trap of him distracting you from that by making himself out to be the victim. He was after a fuck with someone else, that's all you need to keep in mind.

She's a prostitute and he cheated on you repeatedly

He's trying to lie his way out of it but it's so obvious that he's talking shit. Went to a hotel room but only kissed? He must think you're stupid to try to make you believe that

I think it might be that she did everything except kiss. He's just turned it around.

Strange as it sounds he may be speaking the truth. I saw something very similar man was American), where the woman from Brazil (and living in Brazil) was just after his money.
She didn't want sex as she had a BF, but pacified him with kisses.

Unfortunately in this case, the man fell in love with her, but she kept asking for gifts /money etc which he gave and she stole from him too.

In the end her and her BF killed the man, who was single, and not cheating.

There are many scammers out there and many gullible men too.

So he's not only a liar and cheat (he'd intended to have sex with her whether or not it actually happened), he's also not very bright. He's like the world's most inept adulterer.

Him deleting the messages showed he had a lot to hide.