I have just discovered today when my husband left his phone open next to me that my husband of 15 years (with whom I have three children) has been texting another woman.
I never look at the phone and a message had popped up and I saw it then scrolled through whatsapp and there were so many messages. Some saying miss you baby ❤️ And some photos - I didn't see anything beside a headshot but this girl looks in her Twenties. My husband is 40.
I never thought for a minute he would do something like this and I feel so betrayed and so confused.
I don't know the extent of it he says they go back 6 weeks.
I showed him the phone and asked if he would like to explain it to me. He immediately panicked and deleted everything so I can't see anything. I couldnt see much as it was all in Spanish as ahe is South American. He is English. But had.l been writing in Spanish using google translate.
I asked if they have met or done anything together and he furiously denies anything and says it was just chatting and that he wanted attention. What if I hadn't found it today?
He told me he bought her a months gym membership at pure gym that she asked for money.
We have a pretty normal relationship for a couple with three children with what id consider to be a healthy regular sex life. I am jus let baffled and don't know what to do or what to believe.
I really would appreciate advice from anyone who has been in this situation or also what others think about what I've found. Thank you.