Is he having an affair #2

[worldupsidedown]

Continuing on from 'is he having an affair'

23:03 and still not home.

Lineys...yes it is. It changed me as a person and made me very ill...I will never forgive for that

Obviously not the posting live on MN - I mean the misery of the situation. It's awful.

Good luck OP

De-lurking, I think that's the MN term.

I've read both threads and my heart goes out to you. I left my ex-DP many moons ago and neither of us handled it well. We both did and said things that were unnecessarily hurtful because I descended to his level.

@WorldUpsideDown, stay strong, don't be riled. Don't say something you'll later regret and that gives your DP a chance to get the upper-hand.

Decide what you want and set out your cards - if you want to give the marriage a chance then do so. And if you change your mind, that's your right.

If it's the end then stay as calm as you can, given the emotional turmoil. Don't be bounced into making decisions.

And above all, a very big hug.

Yes, Fluer. Just terrible gaslighting.

Good luck

Still not home and I've run out of laundry

Ffs. This is ridiculous. You must be beside yourself. hugs

Should he have been home by now ?

OP how far is the train station to your home?

Sending you hugs! You're so strong.

Perhaps he finally read your text properly and has gone off somewhere to shit himself

Good post EthelMerman.

I really need to go to bed but I feel like I can't until this is sort of resolved, at least for tonight. I feel terrible for you OP and can't believe how you are coping with it all. Sending flowers, hugs and strong vibes to you tonight

Would you consider packing yourself an overnight bag just in case you need or want to get out? Do you have your own car?

Stay safe. Keep your phone nearby. I don't want to frighten you but the adrenaline in your body might tell you to fight or flee the situation.

I went to a hotel; I brought the corkscrew and a bottle of wine

Yes, Liney, it is. It changed me too fluer and yes, that makes me angry, still.

As tempting as it is, I don't think you should hit the bottle.
Try and keep a clear head.

Agree dont drink

Do you know if the 22.59 was delayed

Thinking of you OP

OP, my OH is on that train every day for work and got off at bookham which is 4 stops after Ewell. If he got off 3 steps after I'm assuming it was the stop before his normal one which ive seen got in at 11.45 so 15 mins ago. Do you live far from station?

Thinking of you

Thinking of you OP

Stay strong op

Do you have anyone you can call tonight?

Whatever happens think about what is right for you , try and focus on your breathing and let him do the talking but he'll probably minimise and lie, say he's tired and has work tomorrow so needs to sleep.

🙈🙈 just read both threads......

You must be mentally exhausted.