So I got left at a wedding today

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Dp of 3 years was moody before going, I asked him several times if he wanted to go home and he said no
He didn't drop his bags at the hotel and then didn't want to drink so I kind of think he knew what he was doing

He didn't speak to anyone at our table and made people feel quite uncomfortable

I said too much water had gone under the bridge between us and he said 'shall I go then'
I replied 'if you like'

And that's that, now in a hotel room alone!!
What a bloody disaster!

You poor thing. What's the back story about the water under the bridge, and why did you say that? Were you having relationship difficulties?

Make the most of the hotel facilities, mini bar etc. .
Unwind before you go home and deal with him.

He sounds awful - sorry he put you through that and at a wedding too. Try and enjoy the freedom and space of a hotel room all to yourself. I hope you're okay.

Yes of course he knew what he was doing, Do you suspect OW? I would.

We don't live together so I won't see him
He's driven home and has messaged some nonsense about me using him

It's been a very turbulent relationship, I ended it in April and he upped his game a little but I kind of felt that I'd given all I could prior to that
It was too little too late

I'm sad as I loved him so much for the first year, I would've done anything for him
But the last 2 years have been a bit pants

Otherwise why else would he leave you at a wedding. He now knows where you are and can do as he pleases.

No no OW

I think you've had s bit of a lucky escape op!

Dear god, you sound like you are dating my ex.

Many many nights out ruined by his childish sulking, I have a hobby that I love and if I ever spoke about it, even if a friend asked a question about it, he would storm out of the room. He eventually turned round and said he didn't love me.

It was a huge relief for my friend's and family who had been worried about his controlling ways, he would just go very noticeably quiet if he wanted to go home and just came across as quite rude. He hated me getting tipsy with my friends.

Ten years later and I am happily married in my own home with two children, a large investment in the hobby he hated and a fancy car (he would always boast about his nice cars).

He lives back with his parents, apparently has lots of debt (including to friends) and drives a crapper car than me.

Enjoy your night off, order a large glass of wine and have a relaxing bath and watch what you like on the box!

He accused me & dd of showing off in front of each other, he says we're awful together
We're just silly

A few people later in the evening were quite vocal about how he'd come across

Tell him to kick off on the high road.

My DH is singing 'Always on my Mind' to me thinking it's lovely. It's not.

Well, he sounds like he was cruising to pick a fight for the occasion. You're well rid.

I think you should end in now. Otherwise you will be in for a lot of years of misery dealing with his moods and tantrums. Don't be the one to do this. Because even if he apologises there will always be a next time.

It's such a public occasion to behave so badly at, isn't it? Anyone with any sort of decency who wanted to split up would do it privately and with more sensitivity and consideration.

This is horrible for you but you really are well rid. A good, decent man, wouldn't behave so badly and nastily.

Sounds like a knob, sorry Op.

Next!!!

I kind of feel like I ended it so that makes me the bad person
But it was unbearable for others too

Exh was a prize sulker and could ignore me for weeks on end
I won't be putting up with that nonsense again

Some people literally cannot bear their partner letting loose and enjoying themselves with anyone else. You must have been so embarrassed by him. Relax in the morning, have a good breakfast and don't even contact him to tell him what a dick he is. Seriously, I would be hard pushed to grant him 5 minutes of conversation after such rotten behaviour.

Of course you're not the bad person. He sounds like a total knob.

You were assertive and know what you want: not his bad behaviour. Good on you. Don't feel bad about being strong.

Sounds like you've had a lucky escape to be honest!

Thanks for the support

Feeling a bit shit lying in a hotel room alone

How Were you showing off with DD?

And what were people saying about him?

Sounds like a prize knob!

Ending a relationship because the other person is a knob isn't right for you is strong not bad. Women are conditioned to be passive, nice, peacemakers, social smoothers etc which often means putting up with really bad behaviour. Fuck that, well done you, have a great sleep starfishing across that big bed, and give yourself a pat on the back for not putting up with his shit.

Mozzchops I see this so much, women being treated Badly but not feeling they are allowed to end the relationship.

You have now said this is the second time you have been treated like this, you really don't have to tolerate this behaviour, you are definitely allowed to remove him from your life, if you need permission, I give you it.

I always think when you continue these 'not quite good enough' relationships you are preventing yourself from meeting someone right for you. Please don't settle for being treated like this. Think about what you are teaching your daughter about relationships.

He says we show off together, but we're just very close and have a laugh and get on well
We've been away twice together this year and I think he finds that odd

The elderly couple at our table asked another couple if they'd done something wrong as he totally ignored them
Then the groom said to me 'he's a fucking dick, not only did he not want to talk to anyone here but he didn't talk to you either'
And another guest later said we didn't seem well matched as im quite loud and chatty after a few drinks

He moaned about the parking, the beer, the hotel, everything!!!!!