So I got left at a wedding today

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Dp of 3 years was moody before going, I asked him several times if he wanted to go home and he said no
He didn't drop his bags at the hotel and then didn't want to drink so I kind of think he knew what he was doing

He didn't speak to anyone at our table and made people feel quite uncomfortable

I said too much water had gone under the bridge between us and he said 'shall I go then'
I replied 'if you like'

And that's that, now in a hotel room alone!!
What a bloody disaster!

Nothing more attractive than a moody, sulky man child!

Yes I've definitely had enough!

Isn't this the point where you have a quick whore's wash, slap on your loopy and get back downstairs to have a crack at the Best Man?

*lippy not loopy!

Get back to the bar and have a jar with the rest of the wedding party who will undoubtedly be downstairs tying one on!

No need to feel shit lying in a hotel room alone - enjoy it, relish it, starfish in the bed etc

You deserve to be cherished by your partner, not treated like shit. If he cannot act like a sensible normal person then you are better off without. I speak from experience unfortunately.

His controlling actions brought this to its conclusion, you just need a little time to see him for what he is - and with that comes the realisation that you can actually do better than this

Er no the best man was married to a lovely lady and sat on our table with their fab children
There were no eligible men there

And quite frankly I could do with a rest, I don't need one, if one comes along great, but I won't be seeking dates anytime soon

Yes to pp who said being with someone crap stops you from meeting the perfect man, I believe that

Dd is under no illusion about my poor life choices, she reminds me of them regularly

I'm still sad it's over I initially put my heart and soul into that relationship but he gave nothing back for so long I think I just became disillusioned

Is there not s party going on somewhere you could join in on?

Sorry, missed the updat, clearly you're not in a party mood. Two years is too long to put up with it being shit!

Nooo the party's over for me, I've been drinking since 12.30
I like sleep & bed as I'm an old lady

I kind of feel like I ended it so that makes me the bad person
He manoeuvred you into feeling that way.
Being a martyr about attending was setting the scene for his exit. Other guests noticed he was in a strop.
Using somebody's wedding for that whole performance was as lame as it gets.

As for resenting time you spend with your DD, well that says it all really.

OP - you know deep down that this relationship is over don't you? It's not been making you happy, you don't live together so presumably there's no joint finances so it sounds like you can just walk away. So walk, get a but of distance and then RUN! Life is just too short to be stuck in a crap relationship. He has humiliated you at a public event, I'm sure you will agree that you would have had a better time without him. Get yourself a new haircut or a new lipstick, go out for lunch with your daughter and tell her this waste of skin is not going to be a part of your lives any more- I'm sure she will be delighted and supportive. Close the page on this chapter of your life and move on. Good luck!

Hey you

I didn't realise you'd got back with him after last time. You're worth SO much more than the way he treats you.

I know it hurts, really hurts, but we BOTH know you'll be ok. You've got DD, friends and yourself - and you're pretty good company! 😊

TRY to see this as a fresh start - who knows what the future brings. just not him again. Ok! plan something fun x

I live with someone who can put a raincloud over any social occasion! You may not think so right now but you have had a lucky escape. Enjoy your breakfast in the hotel !

You seriously need to let this one go. He managed to put on a good act for the first year... that wasnt really him tho was it. THIS is him. Fuck the twat off, you lve had all this before x

Why arent you angry with him, he's totally embarrassed you today too and ruined your day

I think this has well & truly run its course. He's clearly not happy, he's ruined your day. Instead of ending things like a decent human, he's behaved like a cock

I wasted three years of my life with someone like that. Time to move on and enjoy doing what you want, without him.

Mozzchops,

re your comment:-
"I'm still sad it's over I initially put my heart and soul into that relationship but he gave nothing back for so long I think I just became disillusioned"

Well you would be sad and this is a typical reaction to any relationship ending even a pants one.

But he manipulated you thoroughly and used someone else's wedding to strop at. He was ultimately not worth all your time and over investment in subsequently. He gave nothing back to you and perhaps you got stuck on the sunken costs fallacy (all this about putting your heart and soul into this) particularly after the first year. Abusive types seem to behave "well" for a long time but its an act they cannot maintain. Their true nature always emerges and his certainly has now.

What do you want to teach your DD about relationships here?. He was no ideal male role model for her either to look up to.

I would also consider what you learnt about relationships when growing up; what did your parents teach you?. That I think has a great bearing on why you have chosen men so badly (also I seem to recall that your mother is a very difficult person).

What a nasty jealous git, he timed it in order to embarrass you and ruin the whole wedding for you. I used to have a DH like that, it was lovely once i finally got up the nerve to get rid of him.I hope you enjoyed the wedding, you are well rid.

That really is a low move, ending a relationship at someone's wedding and he had clearly planned it in advance. You really are well rid of this charmer.

Oh dear. How crap but you're well rid.
I split up with my ex in similar circumstances- he was a twat too and it took me far too long to realise. Anyway It all felt horrible at the time but I got over it, and met my husband a few months later.

You're well rid of him, OP.

I've read your other threads and he's not a nice person. Please don't take him back again - you're so much better off without him and you deserve SO much better than that.

Go and enjoy the hotel. What a lucky escape.

You've had a really lucky escape, if people you hardly know at a wedding reception are telling you how difficult/moody he is then he really must be a dick of the highest order.

Enjoy your freedom .