So I got left at a wedding today

[MozzchopsThirty]

Dp of 3 years was moody before going, I asked him several times if he wanted to go home and he said no
He didn't drop his bags at the hotel and then didn't want to drink so I kind of think he knew what he was doing

He didn't speak to anyone at our table and made people feel quite uncomfortable

I said too much water had gone under the bridge between us and he said 'shall I go then'
I replied 'if you like'

And that's that, now in a hotel room alone!!
What a bloody disaster!

Lucky escape there. Now today is the first day you are entirely free of this energy-sapping man-child. Rejoice!

Also drink plenty of water and take 2 paracetamol.

Your better off without him OP. I wouldn't even bothering contacting him again after that

Hello! You will feel rubbish for a while but if he behaved like that and you haven't exactly found the relationship uplifting, I'd be glad it's finally over. It sounds like you deserve somebody better. Learn to enjoy your own company and being a single gal. You'd be surprised at how much power you have! A the best of luck.

Wow I do love MN

Yes have posted about this god awful relationship before, how he made me feel worthless, criticised my parenting, kept me away from his family blah blah
And yes my mother is hideous and I have repeatedly chosen wankers throughout my life

So I think it's time to focus on me, my dcs and having lots more fun without him

Ps I took analgesia and water and feel ok breakfast with dd then I'm off to a party with lovely friends
It'll be a nice weekend

My ex acted like this at my sisters wedding. I saw family I hadn't seen in years and was so looking forward to it. He sucked the joy out of it for me and although I had a good time ever it tarnished that occasion, and many others. We were together 21 years, it's on end thing I feel I could never forgive him for. Dump him, it'll only get worse.

Sorry about the typos, on my phone!

Yes I totally believe it would get worse
He's acted like this before, totally ruined my birthday last year in front of my dcs behaving like this

Sounds like you have more to look forward to with joy than look back on with regret.

He engineered the situation just so you would feel guilty and he would feel the injured party - but, as you said, he didn't unpack or drink, so he was always intending to go. He just needed you to say it, like a lot of cowards out there.

Welcome to the rest of your life!

And yes my mother is hideous and I have repeatedly chosen wankers throughout my life. So I think it's time to focus on me, my dcs and having lots more fun without him

And indeed you need to do those things.

But why have you chosen wankers to date throughout your life; that thorny subject needs addressing properly for your sake as well as your DD's who is also learning about relationships here from you as her mother.

I think it may also help you to reaffirm and reassess your own boundaries in relationships and to that end enrolling on the Freedom Programme by Womens Aid could be of great benefit. It will also help you further better identify red flags a lot earlier on.

Your own upbringing too has also played a role in making you a beacon to attracting lowlifes like these chancers particularly if for example you were told by the parents, "you're not good enough" and or "you're not loveable enough for any man".

I actually work with an IDVA so i think doing the freedom programme is a possibility and I had actually discussed it with her a few weeks ago

He sounds a right dickhead.

Go celebrate getting shut of him!

I do feel like a bit of a weight has been lifted to be honest
Today I've pleased myself, I can wander around at my leisure with no one huffing
It's very nice

I'll give him 48 hours before the messaging starts

he sounds foul - sucking the joy out of everything. If you can't do it in person, do the Freedom Programme online. It is brilliant.

And when the messaging starts... ?

I'll ask him to stop then block him if it continues
I have no intention of engaging in any conversation
There's nothing to say

I know it'll be 'can we meet up and talk in person' and 'I just need to get things straight in my head'
Blah blah blah I've heard it for the last 2 years
I'm actually quite excited about being on my own

He managed to reel you back in last time you ended this. I strongly suggest you block him now while you're feeling strong and positive.

He didn't leave me alone at a wedding last time
Or leave me with 2 rooms to pay for
Or leave dd having to get the train home
TWAT

Good for you, Mozzchops. He sounds like a moody pain in the arse to be honest! Well rid.

Enjoy some time with your DC this weekend and make plans to see some friends. And have fun!

Agree with Not - Block him now - enjoy the thought of him trying to reach you and find that you have already eliminated him from your life without a second thought .

Yep. Another vote for block him now!

What if he turns up at my house???

I'll just leave it for now, I think if someone blocked me after a 3 year relationship I'd be pissed off
Any nonsense though and his sorry ass will be well and truly blocked

You're too lovely for a fuckstick . You even know his moves lol.

Please enjoy the hotel room I'd fucking LOVE it, bed to myself do what I want eat what I wanted he's a complete cock you are well rid

Omg it's started already!!!!

He's lost his best friend which is a new one

He sounds just like my ex. Took the joy and fun out of every single social occasion. It was exhausting as I spent every time worrying if he was ok. He just used to sit staring into space whenever anyone spoke to him, even children. Constantly criticised everything and everyone, tight with money. Urghhh you're well rid