Why can't people accept some people just don't want kids??

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This is meant to be more light hearted friendly thread so if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it please

I'm late 20s and am yet to ever have any desire to have a child of my own. I'm not a child hater and I'm well aware my feelings can change, but as of now and the past almost 30 years I'm yet to have any desire.

Why do friends and strangers have to challenge this? Why cannot people just accept it?

Twice in past 36 hours I've been told 'But you'd be such a great mum' (I'm not sparking the conversation by the way),

I know everyone means well but it's getting to the point where I'm considering lying just to get people to back off and so I don't have to continue trying to justify/explain.

Feel like I've got another 10 years of this!!!! 😂

I wouldn't comment either, although I am not sure about the jealousy comments... I always get asked "are you having anymore kids?" because I have 4 and I find that pretty annoying..

However I don't assume that it's because people are jealous, just nosey and a bit rude.

I think I know exactly the type who asks. I'd be so tempted to reply "Well I would loved to but all the men from my community have been knocked off over the years so not happening. How many have you had?"

My childfree friend is a bit tired of me living vicariously through her, so she knows I'm a bit jealous! I keep telling her to go on exotic holidays out of term times and sometimes she just takes time off work just to go to the gym and paint her living room

'I am convinced that there is a significant number of people with children that are envious of those without them'

I think there probably are. I know a couple of people who clearly should never have had kids and obviously don't really enjoy it. That's a tragedy.

I think there's also that sort of wistful 'oh man I remember when I could just bugger off backpacking round the South Pacific between work contracts' wistful sigh kind of thing too. Even for those who are content with kids.

I love my son, I love being a parent and I genuinely don't want and would never want my previous life back. But I'm happy for friends who are enjoying exotic holidays , lies in etc (genuinely happy, not jealous) because I used to enjoy those things too. And they're fun.

I strongly believe that all children should be brought up by people who love and want them. Some people don't want kids and that is perfectly fine and absolutely none of anyone else's business