DRY 18

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Link to old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2841743-DRY-17

Hugs..... lemon tea and a bath for you!!

Better today thanks BGJ43!

Taxi service for kids tonight- now they are not older think it will happen more and more.

Hello why and welcome.

It can be a bit quiet over here but I prefer it as its a dry thread .
Im on Day 86 today -woke up feeling happy and best of all no terrible guilt and self loathing.
I slipped up after over a year AF with "just one" but got back AF quickly.
Take each day at a time and get lots of sober plans in place.
I dont think about it now but early days the minutes before dinner were the worst.Always have a plan, something AF to drink and lots of nice AF treats.
Ive lost weight ,have a healthy bank but the waking up feeling alive and positive is the best.
Good luck,keep posting and checking in.
Its Sober October today so a great way to get started and at the end of Oct you can say you so so much better and just continue.
Think of all the lovely things you can do with no hangover and more cash

bank balance
Feel so much better

Hello all and happy October :)

Doesn't have to be sober forever - just sober for now.....

I haven't said forever (even if I know it probably should be) - it's too overwhelming to say forever, but I can manage today, and that's enough. Today, them tomorrow, then the day after - all just chunks of manageable time, and they vary from person to person, and from day to day...

Chocolate milk October doesn't have the same ring to it somehow but the sentiment is the same...

Loving it...

For me forever is easier.
I dont then have the daily "shall I ?"going on in my head.
I posted about this a couple of years ago and it made sense but then we all have ways of coping that suit us.
I dont drink and Im not going back to checkout that decision daily because my decision is made.
That was one of the worst things for me -the daily bargaining /voice in my head .
Life is good for me without it

Hello lovely people, just checking in xxx

Checking in too- hope everyone is ok.

Just back from a USA road trip- I wasn't meant to be driving but ended up covering 900 miles in 5 days! Best thing felt fresh and alert and had amazing trip with no drink.

Just thought I would share my support. I have been AF now for 390 days. After drinking heavily from age 21-31 including drink driving, drinking in the morning, at work etc I have finally got to a place where I am confident I won't ever drink again.

To everyone still at the beginning of their journey keep going. My life has changed for the better, as has that of my beautiful children.

Maddie that's amazing love a good success story!

Hi, is this the current Dry Thread?

I think so... it’s oh so quiet, shh, shh

Crikey. Hello BG and Dingle. Dunno if there's going to be a Bjorkie intervention, but I'm fairly fed up drinking. How about you two? (Have we wandered onto the wrong set?)

Durgh I’ve been fed up of drinking for years and years.
I don’t enjoy it. I hate it.

I’ve stopped. I’m on only on day 2 (or is it three? I will have a think, I’m on my way to a lecture) and I’ve had enough.

I’m sober and I have no intention of touching a drop again.
I realise that I will need a lot of help to address the issues I’ve been hiding with the alcohol but the actual quitting alcohol in some ways is the easy part.
Dealing with what alcohol numbed will be the difficult part.

Dingle - you've done the hard part, getting over the initial inertia... WELL DONE!!

It starts with 2 (or 3) days and then 4, then a week, a month... and the time passes, and some days you won't think about it, and other days it will be all you can think about...

I'm approaching 365 days and it's crept back into my mind more recently - not in a direct craving sort of way, more a feeling that i'm missing out on something, somehow.... But will keep reminding myself all I am missing in reality is poor health, anxiety, expense and shame... The positives are so much better. Just some days it's harder to see them!!

Keep the faith, keep reinforcing why you have made this decision, why you don't want to go back, play the tape forward, tackle one minute at a time... there's a lot of tips on these threads, and I would loe to see DRY 18 get back to it's former glory as I took so much strength and comfort from it initially...

The 'counter culture' rocks.....

Waves to everyone.

Nice to see this thread again, I had been wondering where it was.

dingleberries congratulations on your decision, and well done on the first couple of days. I'm now 615 days sober, and although dealing with the emotions I spent YEARS drinking to subjugate; life is better AF ..

one days at a time x

Oh, remembered another positive - my BFF says I am much harder to beat at Scrabble when I'm sober!!

There a loads of great things about being sober
never ever waking up not sure what you did / said the night before
always being able to drive home
my youngest says I am much more relaxed
no more written off weekend days
loss of anxiety about so many things ,...

Is there anyone else still around ?

Hi everyone, glad to see this thread again! I was on it a while ago but still struggling. I drink, feel shit and swear I’m done with it, but by day 4 AF I’m back to square one. I’m 40 now and still can’t do moderate drinking so my goal is stop all together. Day 2 today

Hi whatever - do you know what makes you lapse ? Have you identified triggers ?

I think it often takes a few false starts to be able to commit to being AF and stick with it. The worst part is doing the early days again and again., It really does get easier. When I started my blog I had the aim of not WANTING to rink as I knew this was the only way I could stay long term sober. Honestly now I dont WANT to drink and would actively refuse alcohol even If i knew there would be no consequences ...
what support do you have ?

I’m 11 days away from a year, and would never have thought that possible 354 days ago.... NEVER

But here I am, heading to my second sober Christmas and feeling much more relaxed about it... those around me are more relaxed about it too

I’ve never said forever, but it’s still for now... and that’s enough :)

Evening all. I've been a sporadic lurker on this thread - also on the Brave Babes threads, where I've posted but only every once in a while. Anyway, I have been grateful for the commiseration and inspiration I've found on both threads, so wanted to share some news. I was an increasingly heavy drinker for many years - after twelve or thirteen years, I was a daily drinker who could put away at least a bottle of wine a night plus a very strong mixed drink or two or three. That's every single day. I felt pretty wretched all the time, very tired, nauseated most mornings, my weight kept going up and up, my skin looked increasingly terrible - and I was terrified after a point of going to the doctor. My GP had no idea how much I drank, and I was certain that even routine bloods would reveal bad news. In any case, I've now been dry for nearly two years and finally screwed up the courage to see my GP for routine tests for which I knew I was well overdue, including an abdominal scan. Much to my amazement, my liver looks completely healthy. I know how much I was drinking, so this seems remarkable to me. It just illustrates how amazing the body is at repairing itself in the absence of alcohol, even at my age (I'm in my fifties). Anyway, I hope this might inspire other people to keep going, and not to be afraid of seeing your doctor if you are able to stop drinking for a while, as the news might be better than you would expect.

Hi all.

Has anyone tried Antabuse or the like?

The pill that makes you hurl if you even wink at a glass of wine?
I’m starting that in December.