DRY 18

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Link to old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2841743-DRY-17

Hi Blessings. How do you feel today?

Whatsthisbear- I felt better because I wasn't hungover but woke up earlier (because I had better sleep). Maybe your body is going through withdrawal a bit or maybe it's unrelated? I hope you get some rest this weekend. Maybe try and go out and get some fresh air.

Sober40 - it is horrible when there are kids involved and that's why we stick at it for so long and try, but the way I see it is that it will be massively better for them not to grow up in a toxic or alcoholic home.

Whatsthisbear- yay that your dh has jumped on the wagon - that will be a massive help. And the first week I bought myself lots of tasty and indulgent food and juices. I didn't restrict what I ate although I found that I was naturally eating healthily because I wasn't having the munchies or hungover. But my goal at the beginning was just to get rid of the habit of drinking. So enjoy those chipsticks :)

Hi everyone.

Welcome Blessings.

Day 6 here. First day 6 in a long while.

My kids were being really funny (deliberately) and I laughed so hard I found myself crying - really crying, sobbing. I remember doing that a few times in my life when I am laughing sober. It feels like a kind of sudden relief, a blessing like a desperately needed thunderstorm, to laugh with abandon when there is no booze or drugs in your body.

So tired now. It's been a busy day but all good. all very good.

it isn't always going to be this easy but today was a benediction.

Good luck everyone

Yeahcorvid- that is wonderful to hear. Yes we can and do have a brilliant time without alcohol and yes we can and do cope better with things without alcohol.

3 weeks sober here. I've got a date on the 31st Sept so I will have a drink then. Going to be strict about no drinking at home though from now on.

Good morning (from Aus). Thank you for the warm welcome 😊. I did it. Day 1 AF and now onto day 2. Feel happy with my decision.

How are you all going? Xx

Well done @Blessings5 and good morning!

All good here thank you. We're away for the weekend with kids and my parents for said husband's birthday. Weather is horrific. I spent part of yesterday in floods to my lovely Mum. Honest tears that brought release. Not hungover, self-pitying tears for once

Drinking hasn't entered my head for which I am grateful. I understand that would only make things worse.

Hi Blessings and sober40- yay! And lovely to hear that you're away with your parents and letting it all out to your mum helped. I did the same with my parents this year and their support and help made a huge difference.

Yeah You are doing brilliantly. I’m still in wonder at you going AF just before having a birthday. I haven’t had a sober b.day since I was a teen!

Blessings the time difference always throws me, end of day 2 for you now!

Sober glad you have been able to share with your mum, such a release for you to get it all out there.

Musti Hi, I feel like I’m sitting on a dirty secret. Glad telling people helped, not sure I’m ready for that.

Day 5- I would usually have polished off around 20+ units over the weekend.

Whatsthisbear- I told my parents about my relationship not the alcohol. But I'm very honest with my friends about my drinking and that helps.

Apologies @Musti got the wrong end of the stick.

Hi everyone. Hope you're all having a good weekend.

@Blessings5, welcome, good luck!

@Musti - ooooh, date...?

@whatsthisbear - thank you! It wasn't thought out at all to have a sober birthday and it would have been tricky had I made plans. But it worked out well, it was what I needed, and I was physically in no shape to put it off when Monday came around.

@sober40 glad you had a good chat with your mum.

I've messed something up at work. I realised on Friday but didn't have time to confess on a very quick call with my boss. She knows something has gone wrong but doesn't know yet it was my fault - I only realised it myself after talking to her when I had time to look into it properly. I'm just going to go into her office first thing tomorrow and tell her what happened before it hangs over me any more. I wouldn't have let it go if I hadn't been hungover most of the time. Someone did something for me while I was on holiday, they left out something important (not their fault) and I didn't check properly when I came back. Now part of a project is late.I feel like when you're on a drinking jag you seem to get away with things that surface later and it's just a matter of time waiting for them to surface. I am feeling ok to deal with it though - it won't be pleasant but I'd rather do it this way then shaking with a hangover.

I thought I'd put a few things in a charity bag; then before I knew it, I've cleared out so much rubbish I can barely lift it. I don't know why I had all this horrible stuff that doesn't suit me and never did.

YeahCorvid oh no! Glad you feel ok about dealing with it though. A work error would have (been my excuse to drink) kept me awake all weekend. Hope it’s easily sorted. You sound like you have had a productive day

Good morning 😊. Day 2 AF over and done with and now onto day 3.

sober40 - So pleased to hear you were able to share with your mum. I agree with Musti and have told my brother and SIL - even though they do drink they have been very supportive and I notice that they also seem to have cut down over the weekend (they live with us in our granny flat). I do hope you had a nice weekend despite the weather!

Whatsthisbear - congrats on day 5. Go you!

YeahCorvid - Good luck today with the work situation. I am a stress head and work issues / mistakes have also kept me awake all night. I hear you on the cleaning out. I have been on a mission this weekend too. And I agree about keeping things that are ugly, no longer useful, too small or just not wanted. Out they go.

Have a happy Monday everyone xx

Whatsthisbear - no worries! One of my brothers is on his 4th month of being af. Being told this also helped kick start my af.

Well done everyone. Without sounding patronising I'm proud of all of you (and me) and loving hearing all your stories about how you're taking charge of your life and dealing with difficult stuff.

Yes - a date. He seems to be on the same page as me (we both have very busy lives so just meet a few times a week etc). I'm still living in the same house as my ex so only been half heartedly looking.

Hey, this is my day 8 so I'm feeling good about that.
I had the calmest Sunday I have had for ages yesterday. Got some ordinary useful stuff done and then watched TV drinking tea feeling ok about stuff for once. God booze is a headfuck. I can't believe the tizz I was always permanently in.

Wish me luck for dropping this bombshell on my boss. I'm hoping she's in when I get there and I can just make a beeline for her office and deal with it.

Morning @Blessings5 and good luck this morning @YeahCorvid

6 weeks today here

Musti dating must be tricky still sharing a place. Are you on friendly terms still or silently sharing a roof until you can both leave? YeahCorvid how did it go with your boss?

Hi @whatsthisbear - didn't do it! She was out at a meeting, then back to back, and the first time I sat down with her all day was at 6.15 in the evening to talk about a far more difficult problem that has come up with this project - one that completely renders the delay due to me moot. I will tell her because she is the kind of person who wants to do a full wash up and understand everything, but there was no point today as it would have been a massive distraction from fixing what we need to fix. She won't be happy that it was my fault BUT the outcome will be the same as if I never made the mistake (due to other factors)

thanks for asking! Hope you are ok. Hope everyone is ok

Oh blimey, sounds like a nightmare! Hope you get it all sorted soon.

Not a nice atmosphere at all living in the same house. He's controlling, jealous, emotionally and financially abusive etc so this was never going to be easy. It's been over a year now but I can see the end now. He doesn't know I'm dating though or at least I haven't told him. Yeahcorvid - If your mistake makes no difference to the outcome be sure of what else is going on then she won't be angry surely? Do you have to tell her if it's no longer relevant?

Be sure should be because

@Musti that sounds horrendous. Poor you.... and well done for not drinking 

I suppose dating or doing anything that gets you out of the house must be a good thing?

Glad the date went well anyway!

@YeahCorvid be gentle on yourself. You made a mistake and you're doing your best to fix it. There isn't anything more you can do

Have a good day all.

Xx

Thanks sober40. I can't wait until i move out, hopefully in Oct/Nov. How's everyone doing? (for some reason my return button isn't working). My ex and I had another toxic exchange and as I was starting to make dinner, I must admit I naturally thought of pouring myself a glass of wine (as has been my habit for very long). I didn't though. Whilst the food was roasting, I did a workout.

Hello there! Proper chuffed here...
Sipped at 1/2 a glass of wine and didn't enjoy it, so didn't drink it.
Stuck to fruit juice and then went on to water (was too sweet). Have another "challenge" this evening with after work drinks. But still feeling confident and will most probable stick to fizzy water.
Thank you all again for your positive stories and for the negative ones. They make me realise that we are all human and that mishaps can happen.
I hope that you are all having a good day. xx

Musti that sounds awful. Well done you for managing not to drink having to deal with all that! A workout instead of wine -fantastic. Roll on moving day!

Nowstrong brilliant, well done. Good luck with this evenings challenge, sparkling water sounds like a good plan.

Day 7 today & Tuesday is normally a 10+ units night because I’m off on a Wed. I’m stuffed full of cold & DH would normally be saying that if I’m ill I would feel better without a drink, it would do me good etc etc & I would be telling him I would sleep better, kill or cure, I feel so awful its medicinal
he actually just asked if i needed anything from the shop and I didn’t even mention alcohol.

How is everyone else doing?