DRY 18

[vxa2]

Link to old thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2841743-DRY-17

Hi all, hope you're all doing ok.
@Whatevermaybe we sound like peas in a pod!
I've taken a couple of days to get my focus on this drinking thing after falling off the wagon at day 3!!! It's so frustrating as this time last year I'd decided I wasn't going to drink over Christmas and quit for 4 months.

I think I'm struggling with the fact that I can't drink sensibly and therefore shouldn't ever drink. I think I'm still trying to convince myself that I can do this in moderation like normal people but I know that once the bottle is open, I have to finish it.

I have family round this weekend so won't be drinking as I don't want to be a mess in front of them so day 1 starts here. Will need much hand holding to get through day 3 and 4.
Husband still doesn't give a flying fig about drink consumption. He came home with a bottle of gin last night even though he knows I'm trying to stop. I resisted right up until 10pm then had 1 and then went back on to tea.......I guess there's a tiny bit of progression there at least.

Well done everyone, I keep reading your posts for inspiration and motivation. I know I can get a grip.

Morning everyone, I had a bottle of wine last night so day one again. I don’t feel too bad thankfully but just going to get my DRY head back on. Anyway hope everyone else doing better than me.

Good morning....

A completely self indulgent post, but also a positive good news story....

Tomorrow I’ll reach 365 days sober, one whole year!!!! A year ago I never thought that would be possible, I thought I’d make the right noises for a couple of weeks and then carry on slowly drinking myself deeper into a dark hole. But I didn’t, and it’s a year and I’m still going...

For me (and everyone’s journey is different) it’s been a case of focusing on one day at a time - forever is too long to contemplate, so I’m sober ‘for now’. Of leaning on a few select friends, the ones who ‘get’ why I’m doing this and ignoring what any/everyone else thinks. Of reminding myself often of why I’m doing this and also taking time to reflect on the daily small pleasures in life (I.e. the ones that don’t come with an ABV!!)

And final indulgence - looking for ideas to mark the milestone... budget a bit skimpy but think it’s worth trying to find something....

We are all amazing, even when we don’t feel it....

Onwards, the counter culture awaits us all...

That’s amazing BGJ43 Seriously you should be super proud of yourself. I’m not feeling well today (not drink related, dodgy tummy) so drink the last thing on my mind. Hope everyone else doing ok x

Congrats BG thats amazing. I hope to be posting the same update next year.
I mentioned in my brief hello that I'd been here before. Since my last period of 'dry' I've been fairly controlled in my drinking and proud of that (I realise its nothing to be proud of it was my skewed thinking) but I had a bit of a wake up call 10 days ago.
I won't go into now. Nothing hideous happened but it made me quit immediately.
I don't think I can actually drink again physically.
My head is in a good place. I do get a bit restless between 6 and 9pm but good books and study are helping with that.
I wish you all the best of luck. You need to add in a bit of determination too!

@BGJ43 well done!

Back on day 2. This is beginning to feel life me a big ole game of snakes and ladders. 3 steps in the right direction, 5 back.

It seems, from reading everyone's posts that it's just best to take it minute by minute, literally.

I shall do this!!!

Second by second if you have to....

Evening everyone, doolaa we seem so similar just now. Day 2 here again but because I’m not feeling great I have no desire to drink today. I think between 6 and 9pm is dangerous territory for me but going to keep posting and fingers crossed I nail this x

BGJ43 Congratulations - I remember when you first joined the thread. You have come so far. That's a huge achievement. 🎉🌟🎈⭐️

Treat yourself tomorrow. I bought myself a bracelet. It cost about £15 on Etsy but it holds huge meaning for me.

dona Welcome back. I remember you from before. You can do this - keep posting.

Waves to everyone else. In case there is anyone in Birmingham I am still running my group, Club Sober so if you want to come along let me know.

Hi vxa I'm wondering if there have been a few name changes on this board?
I'm actually feeling pretty marvellous. Not pink cloud marvellous I hope!
I have had so many changes. A new college course, new friends as a result. Many of them don't drink and I wanted to be like them. I've also moved house.
So at the moment I'm feeling ok about not drinking. I'll keep posting though. I'm sure I'll have my dark days.
Fortunately for me the festive period has never been a big booze fest for me (well no more than my usual evenings wine anyway) so I have no big temptations in that respect

Feeling oddly non-celebratory about reaching a year off the booze and can’t decide if I think that’s a good thing (like it’s become normal) or if I’m a little down about the whole sobriety thing.....

Reaching 100 days seemed like a real milestone at the time, much more than a year feels today...

Perhaps I’ll buy some cheese cake... or good old chocolate milk!!

Tomorrow is 366 days...

Hi everyone, hope everyone doing ok?! I’m on day 4 and this is usually danger time (early evening) Feeling ok and no thoughts of drink. Will check in again later x

Hi what! Well done on day 4. I am on day 11 and feeling oddly ambivalent about not drinking. My OH is drinking Baileys and I would love a glass but thats because I love the taste.
I've taken a tip from these boards and am drinking lime and soda from a wine glass and oddly enough it does feel like a treat. Onwards and upwards to us all.

That’s great dona I can only dream of getting to 11 days. Day 5 tomorrow and fingers crossed i do not cave. I am just doing a day at a time and hopefully I make it to double fingers this time

I'm also on the Jason Vale book what it really helps.

I’ve read Jason Vale and Allen Carr (not the comedian ). I must admit I’m struggling but going to have a bath soon to get me through this. How’s everyone doing?

Hi all
I just typed 'I can't stop drinking wine what can I do ?' Into Google and it directed me to Mumsnet and this group. I'm quite desperate now. I've gone from 3 alcohol free days per week to 2 to none to half a bottle of wine a day every day ... I keep looking at AA but can't quite admit to myself that that far gone. Help !

what hello! I'm doing fine. Are you hanging in? Trust me it gets so much easier. I'm not really thinking about alcohol too much. Only a little I'm very much enjoying waking up hangover free.
I keep telling myself that I'll enjoy the first drink but I know I'll end up struggling to be able to see straight by the end of the evening and passing out rather than drifting off to sleep. Then I would wake up dehydrated, looking like and feeling like shit. I believe they call it 'playing the tape forward'

Hello car and welcome. You are in good company. I'm 12 days alcohol free and without AA. I'm not knocking AA because I know it helps a lot of people but its not an option for me due to family.

Have you been drinking this evening? If you decide you want to stop please check in here.
There are many supportive posters on here who are just of the start of an alcohol free life and others who have done over a year and more!
I was drinking daily too and big amounts on nights out. I just couldn't do it anymore

Thank you for replying! Yes I have been drinking this evening- half a bottle plus. However just reading this thread seemed tr

Oops !

... seems to have helped and I am now on my ssecond cup of tea 😊. It's incredibly helpful to know I'm not alone. I've been feeling such a loser. Your posts are a real inspiration! X

Just downloaded the Mumsnet app but can't find this thread on there. Where do I look folks ? X

I've no idea! I use it in my browser but the mobile version.

Sorry, fucked up and having wine! Got to say 5 again and back to square one. X

I really don't want to put anyone off posting, (and I'm NOT the thread police!) but please, could you not post if you have actually been drinking at the time of posting? It's really triggering for some people.
Please do come back the next day and talk to us if you've actually had a drink, we agreed a long time ago that, post if you are actually wavering and need support, but if you've already had a drink, come back the next day to talk to people because it can make people uncomfortable, who are staying sober.
I do hope this doesn't offend and it's not meant to upset anyone but it is what we agreed.