My DP can change to a completely different person within seconds . I am so confused and it drives me to depression. I dont know whats real anymore and i keep thinking that i should leave but then he becomes so nice and it makes me think that its all my fault. It makes me think thats something is wrong with me and i cause all these problems and i will end up leaving a great guy because of whatever is wrong with me
He can be this nice attentive guy , he will spend all his time with me, he will put me first and be so loving and sweet.
And then he can be the guy who will go from 0-100 within seconds and he can turn very nasty and vengeful. Example i took two days off work so we can spend sometime together but because i hadnt discussed it with him first he was certain that i took these days for other reasons . He gave me hell to the point that i fell ill and made me promise that i will "give him the two days i own him" by calling sick at work and replace those days for him. Also because i took those days off he kept secret from me that he was going away for work until the last day, so he can "teach me a lesson"
He can express his opinions and whatever bothers him and i will listen. If i disagree he will get annoyed and angry. If i try to talk about something that bothered me i will "have to be quick" and "let go" and "stop ruin the night ". I feel that its ok for him to say anything no matter how hurtful it is (he mocks my accent for a year now, i can take a joke no problem but its a whole year and its got tiring especially when he tries to mimic everything i say, he watches tv programs and he will compare me with the most unappealing characters, he will say hurtful things about my life choices etc) but when i try to talk about something that bothered me he doesnt give me the option. It just seem that i can never have problem.
Then he will be that great guy again and i will think that something must be wrong with me and i cause all the problems. I am so so sad and confused