If your husband won money

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Would he tell you?
I'm talking in thousands. Or would he hide it from you?

Is he trying to recover his losses?

I think you need to speak to him about this asap - agree with pp he is trying to win back his losses.

You might find he is in an awful situation financially.

Thanks for all your replies.
Financially we are secure, we have one joint account and then we both have separate accounts with our own money to do as we wish with but I'm still surprised he hasn't told me about this. I have access to all bank account statements as I do his books for the business.
I do feel though that he's probably been doing this for quite sometime without me knowing.

I would be very suspicious about any secret bank account/credit cards he may have after this behaviour. Do some digging and see what you can find.

A friends partner has recently been found out to have gambled away £40k+ of family/company money and she had no idea. They are all a very close family (her parents do the admin and accounts for his business) and they only found out by slight chance. He had hidden it very well.

My dh was a gambler, when I knew he was having small bets then the money came and went from our joint account.

When the gambling got out of hand (after I bollicked him on wasting money when I had a hole in my trainers) he gambled 5k overdraft on our joint account, another 3k on joint credit card and roughly 20k on secret credit cards. Would he fuck deposit the money back onto the cards. I'm now in debt due to him.

Vicious circle.

Call him out on it op, now! And get rid of that joint account, for your own safety.

hi just a thought but it might be there for 'safekeeping' as long as he gambles a little every so often it'll stay there and no-one will know about it.

Could someone explain what 'total deposits' mean is this what he's spent or the 'winnings'

Spent

You have access to all the accounts - yes the ones you know about, he could have opened multiple more without you knowing, also taken out credit cards, got payday loans, loans from mates. Gambling is a horrific, all encompassing addiction.

It means the amount that he has paid in.

Fuck! Really?? That's the amount he's put into it?
Then the amount I saw is not 'winnings' the amount I saw said total deposits! Fuck. £12,000 fucking grand!
Are you sure it means the amount he's put in!? If it helps it's the Betfair site.

Yes deposits is what he has deposited into his online account with the gambling site. I know this as I've used that site twice in my life. So sorry to hear this

You need to ask him asap .

Shit!
I'm going to have to do some digging when I can. Can't believe he's been so fucking reckless 😡☹️ even if it is his own money and not jointly owned but still....12,000 what the actual fuck!
Apologies for all the swearing!

Holy shit.

So sorry. No wonder he didnt want you to see. Sounds like there may well be a credit card that you dont know about :(

If you can get hold of the device he is using then he may have it auto signed in. Then you should be able to see at least the last 4 digits of the card he has been using to pay in with to see if it is a card you recognise.

Also on that device there may be more in his browser history for checking an online credit card or bank statement that you dont know about.

What device does he use?

Oh and you will also be able to see total withdrawals to see if he has taken out any winnings.

I can't believe this.

I am so sorry. Is there a current balance tab?

Oh shit. That doesn't look good OP. You need a proper sit down chat.

Does that mean he has lost the lot?

I know nothing about online gambling but would the total deposits include all winnings that he has put back in? Ir he has put in £100 from bank account but over time has won and kept putting that money back in which totals £12.5k rather than has spent £12.5k from his bank account if that makes sense?

My husband won 18K on the lottery - he didn't tell me and didn't give me any.

We are divorced now thank god!

I'm a bit confused by their help page.
I can't get back on the iPad till tomorrow afternoon now. But now I know his login and guessed his password (not very original!) I can probably log into the account via my phone if needs be. Though I'm feeling sick with it all to be honest.