Devastated at unexpected news

[Whereismumhiding2]

Im sat out in my garden necking strong sweet tea trying to get mt head round terrible news. My sister who was diagnosed with cancer 6 weeks ago and has undergone a brutal op, has gone into ICU as it's spread so aggressively they've stopped all cancer treatment. She's in hospital miles away so I'm driving up tomorrow. It's all happened so fast and is such a shock. I can't tell my children til Sunday as I don't want them to be alone with this news (they're at their dad's from tomorrow overnight) til im back but she has very little time now. They thought I was being weird asking them to draw her a picture or to write more in her card.
I guess I'm just wanting to.talk as I'm so in denial and numb, I'm at a loss of what you do or say, except to go up there and hold her hand.
I've rung round all the relatives for.my parents and i didnt feel any of the words I was saying, like someone is going to tell me it's all a misunderstanding. Some of my friends are arranging to meet me at a friend's house who.lives near the hospital to keep me company in the evening (am.staying over so i can see her sunday too) . I guess

That's so sweet thankyou. Xxx

I've started to feel I'm being diary like ... I first posted last Friday as that was what sis told us, she'd only just been told the terrible unexpected news. Then I had loads of support from MNs-
(tho I have fab RL friends and family too) - as I couldn't get my round it, felt v alone, and was frankly scared . And since then I've been up twice, once last weekend all weekend on my own and yesterday with my children to their beloved auntie xxx and had fab supporting MNs help and it's all gone v well.tjabks to you good folks, we've coped and had our helpful heads on. I'm waiting up now as machine is drying some uniform for.tomorrow so it'll be a late night for me as so hectic with travelling to hospital a distance at weekends. I'm sat out in garden again listenning to silence and feeling a tiny bit of the enormity of what my sis is facing. I'm trying to sort out things to get her down to me.

*Friday 16th may.

I am so so sorry. Be as strong as you can and tell her how much you love her.

Im mistyping, *when sis told us.

It has literally been a week and almost 3 days now to get our heads round these rapid changes after recent first diagnosis that seemed so surmountable after surgery, to now.

So sorry to hear about your sister Such challenging times ahead for you all but can I just say well done to you for how lovingly, constructively and with strength and empathy for everyone involved you are setting about facing into this new reality. More

You and your sister sound like you have a lovely relationship - it must be so hard for you all. It is such a nice idea to plan for her to come down to spend time with you. I bet the thought of that is very comforting to your sister. Wishing you all lots of strength for the difficult days ahead (and also more good times together too)

whereis - you are a fabulous sister, and your sister is obviously fabulous too, my thoughts are with both of you

Both you and your sister sound like amazing women.

I'm so sorry you've all received such terrible news I hope you make amazing memories together.

My DDad passed away without warning on Wednesday and mine and my brothers and our childrens memories of what a lovable old toad he was is whats getting us all through.

This will serve as a diary of sorts and hopefully we can help you a little as you work through some of this.

Planning and doing are good. Knowing that you are providing such enormous support now is great. Just remember to take care of you in all of this.

She died, 2 weeks 3 days after I first posted. In 2 days we have her funeral. We managed to get her to a hospice near home so she could say goodbye to friends and family. I stayed by her side night and day and I miss her already.

Thankyou MNs for your support when I needed to get my head round it. I'm not sure i yet have but at least I knew what to get on with x

I'm so sorry where

So sorry to read your thread, clearly so full of love for your sister, and then read your sad update. You obviously made a huge difference to her final days.
I suppose that's what we would all hope for in her situation, love and compassion from those we hold most dear to us.
Sending you strength to get you all through this.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry to hear your news, I remember the shock you felt in your original post, and this has been a very quick and sudden thing for all of you. You have been such a good sister in her hour of need, I'm glad she was in a hospice and able to say last goodbyes and spend so much time with you at her side. Take care of yourself now as this shock will continue for a long while.

Very, very sorry for your loss, where. Your sister knew how much she was loved by you - and through your efforts of getting her to a hospice where her friends could come to visit her, that was a huge thing to be able to do for her.

So so sorry for your loss

Whereismumhiding2
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
I first read your thread when you found out the sad news. The love for your sister shone through.
Take care of yourself.

This is so awful for you. Hugs and

Oh, where, I'm so sorry

It's just devastating. My heart goes out to you and your whole family.

I'm so so sorry OP
hugs hugs and more hugs to you.

So sorry for your loss.

Hugs

Whereismum, so sorry to read your update, losing a sibling is very hard, you have so many shared memories together.

Ohtheholidays I am sorry for your loss too.

Condolences to both of you and your families.

I m so sorry for your loss. Your sister sounds wonderful, amazing auntie and sister to you all. No doubt you ll miss her forever. Wishing you strength and peace at this time x

whereis Hugs and condolences from me too. There is really nothing anyone can say to help at this time, is there? But knowing there are people wishing you well I hope helps you a little.

i am so sorry .