Hi, new to this so please bear with me. I'm desperate to try and make sense of the situation i'm in. It feels intolerable. My husband (married 7 years, together 14, 2 dcs under 5) recently admitted to a 6 month affair with a work colleague. He had been acting weirdly for ages, was emotionally distant. It all blew up when he blurted out (mid-row) that he didn't know how he felt about me anymore. Weeks of shitty behaviour followed. He was so vile that I asked him to go to a b&b to sort his head out which he did for a couple of weeks. He eventually asked to come back but was clear that he still felt differently, didn't know if we could work anymore but that he wanted to at least try. Hurtful as it was, I agreed and we booked a Relate appointment which is in a week. But a few days after coming back he admitted to the affair. It was full on, weekends away etc and was ongoing very recently. It only ended because her boyfriend found out. Bizarrely he claims they never had sex. He saY's he is sorry but he is not grovelling. He just keeps coming back to the point that he feels our relationship broke down for him to get to that point. Meanwhile, he works with her every day and still continues to chat to her. I am completely broken, paranoid and acting like a jealous and suspicious wife. He is getting increasingly hacked off. I feel like I can't take much more. Any advice from anyone who has been there? Thank you