New boyfriend....hmmmm.....

[CokeZero]

Bear with me, I've never posted here before!
I've come out of a very long term relationship (18 years) and have started seeing somebody new. Very early days - couple months in.

Now. I really like him and he's made it clear he feels the same. We've been pretty much inseparable since getting together and I have met friends and some of his family already!! Just how it's panned out.

I'm never usually paranoid (promise). But there's something just not sitting right and I wanted some opinions .... whether I'm being crazy basically....
the main issue is He is VERY secretive with his phone. Now I'm not sure if it's just because I was used to the complete opposite with my old partner .... but it's the usual case of - always turns on silent when with me, never leaves it in a room if he's not in it, phone screen is never visible if reading messages, god forbid if I was to see the screen whilst he was on it!
I don't even want to, but it's the feeling of being secretive that I hate. He is on social media but I am not so can't have a look on there...

However, everything else is perfect.

I am useless at seeing red flags and listening to my gut as been with one person pretty much my whole life! But obviously this is not something I am prepared to bring up with him as such early days!

Everyone should password protect their phone in case you loose it or it's stollen. Your daft if you don't.
I will pass my phone for my OH to look at something or use if he has no signal but it's my phone and I'm allowed some privacy.

I'd still keep an eye. Just going from previous experience....

Cool Coke Zero. These things are always better in than out x

I could have written this myself, know exactly how you are feeling and I don't know how to approach it anymore than I have already x

Becky - it's really hard isn't it. I do feel better now he knows how I feel though! X

I have had the conversation it improved a bit but not much, suppose it's cos I'm like an open book, my phone does have a password but I'm totally open and quite happy sit there on it with nothing to hide x

trust your instinct, you're suspicious because he's behaving suspiciously with his phone.
It is very early days in your relationship though so I would suggest it's something to keep your eye on for all the reasons you're already considering but it could be a real romance killer to talk about it yet

Are you 'official'? If you haven't had the chat it may be that he's seeing other people too.

But most people have passwords on their phones; with the amount of personal info most store on them it would be ridiculous not to.

My boyfriend said the same about me when we were first going out. I wasn't hiding anything dodgy. I just didn't want him seeing text messages between my friends about him, or him seeing all the celeb gossip pages I look at! I was still trying to look cool at this stage!

Becky - I'm the same as you, which is why I think it bothers me even more. Suppose some people are more private with their phone - and when it's someone new you don't know if it's just the way they are or not.
We are definitely official. He even went as far as to say "go through my phone and see for yourself" but I'd never go through someone's phone x