DH and drugs

[orchardroad]

DH has gone abroad for a stag weekend. Just used his iPad and emails were open, saw a message from his friend saying 'you can ask a guy at xx bar about getting the cocaine'.

I'm 7 months pregnant and we have a 3 year old. When we were younger we did take drugs from time to time but now we have a family I just feel it's inappropriate. He's 37 and a managing director of a big compnay ffs.

I am also very worried about him cheating after taking cocaine.

Feel rubbish and let down.

Thanks for replies.

I'm not worried about his mental health. I'm worried about what rararaa said. Cocaine make people horny and impulsive and lose their usual judgement - I am worried that he would not be able to resist cheating, especially when with friends who have been known to cheat. I know... they all sound like a real catch. They do honestly have good qualities but when they get together they revert to their student days and go off the rails.

Anyway... have a lot to think about and will have a discussion with him when he's back. Will ask him outright what he's been doing and tell him I'm not happy. Will also ask him to consider his feelings if I were to do the same.

I do feel more mistrustful of him at the moment as I have lost of lot of confidence in myself as he is not affectionate towards me during pregnancy. Whereas I'd usually plan drinks with friends when he's away and enjoy some time out; this time I feel like I'm stuck at home with all the responsibilities all whilst feeling low in myself. I do understand that that's another issue altogether.