Open relationship - worth asking?

[undercoveragent]

Name changed obviously.
Bit of background - married for 25 years. Don't want a divorce until the youngest is an adult as dh is a good friend and father. No tension between us - even a fly on the wall would not suspect that I ultimately want out.
We've not had sex for 2-3 years now. My doing. I haven't fancied him for a long time now - maybe 10 years and he got fed up, understandably, with my lack of responsiveness My libido is sky high though.
I would really like an open relationship. I think we could both benefit. Selfishly, I know I would.
Has anyone done this? How did it come about? How did you ask (if it was you that asked). What was the reaction? Did you go ahead? How has it worked out? Any men had their dw ask them, how did you feel to be asked?
So many questions.

OP you will tear down your house with your own hands by doing this. Please don't pretend its for your children, because 'opening up' a relationship out of dissatisfaction will risk their home more than anything. You are being very naive thinking you will find a convenient sex buddy (unless another married man) who will demand nothing in return, and you will develop no feelings for. Newsflash emotions aren't linear.

Neither do I get the impression that a person who has been stalwart regardless of this treatment all this time, will find much fulfilling in a series of fuck buddies. He will find someone and fall in love, mark my words.

I think you've treated your husband appallingly. And if you were a male poster everyone else would say that too. You mention him letting you down ten years ago as reason you've gone off sex with him. Even if he had an affair, if you couldn't forgive him you should have moved on instead of cruelly holding it against him for ten years, or at the very least if you couldn't control your aversion, suggested counselling or moved out.

You have a decent marriage. Consider what throwing away the fidelity between you will mean.

I find it amazing you're willing to give to someone else, a stranger, what you refuse to give to a someone who by your own admission, has been good to you all these years. Just end it cleanly and stop trying to have your cake and eat it too.

Hi op
Can you please answer one question for me ?
Is your DP aware of your desire to end the marriage in the future ? . I think the answer to that would shape my view/reply as it would for many others.

I think it's massively naive to imply an open relationship is better for your children. What a load of rubbish. You'd rather have it off with different men - where I come from that's called a slut. You break your marriage vows by sleeping with other people end of story. Using your kids as an excuse makes you a coward