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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Swinging Into Sobriety!

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Mouseface · 19/04/2017 00:57

Hello there,

I'm Mouse, one of the Brave Babes travelling far and wide, stopping off here and there to collect lovely folk, just like you, for a natter all about booze and the blues that come with being a drinker of whatever quantity.

We don't wear or sell judgey pants here, although a G-string or two (Oooh Matron!) has been known to sort the fan belt out on the Bus as we've been driving for such a long time now!! Grin

In short, we've regular posters here, lurkers, those who have managed to keep their drinking to 'social' occasions, some who are really struggling on an hourly basis and some who are completely dry!

Whatever your drinking 'status', you're welcome here in the new bigger Battle Bus, (as requested) whilst we head far and wide, listening to one another, as we face each day that comes our way, whether it be good, bad or downright ugly, we really have seen it all and don't mind one bit. Lurk or chat, it's up to you but one thing you will always find, is a warm welcome, Opal Fruit wrappers (Looks at Ma bosom push up! ) and of course, in complete confidentiality. Smile

So, if you'd like to look what happened on the last thread (a bit like catch up TV) you can look at this link which will take you there - JUST HERE

And, if you would like to see where we started driving this wonderful Bus, over seven years ago, you can have a look at this very honest thread - RIGHT HERE

Hope to see you soon,

Mouse xx

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theansweris42 · 25/05/2017 12:57

I've been to my home town twice this week for work. The first day the meeting was cancelled and I drove to the house I lived in from 8-17 when I left as soon as I could.
It was awful then (a whisker away from a flipping modern day slum) and it is still awful now. It was dreadful growing up there with depressed mother.
Then the next day the meeting was in the town centre and I was really early.
So I walked around all the places. All the early history of drinking is there.
And I realised again that I first started drinking to make the crappy child and teenhood more fun/bearable/manageable.
And it's helped, in that I feel I know myself a little bit better, and I don't need to drink to blot that out anymore, I've escaped it.
I've not been back there for a long time.
I've been to the other side of the world rather than go there Smile

thingscanonlygetbetterrrr · 25/05/2017 13:15

Trying to keep up with everyone is hard but I'm reading all the posts. It sounds like the pp who revisited their home town has managed to get some 'closure' (I know it's an awful term!) which must really help address the drinking. I have found that since I spoke to the talking therapies lady on Monday who suggested I likely have ptsd, that a weight has been lifted. It all makes sense now (well a lot of it) as to why I drink to excess at times and how through my career it has got worse due to exposure more and more traumatic stuff with less and less support. I'm day 3 AF, last night was hard as it's WWN (Wednesday wine night) but I did it. I think tonight will be ok and I've ordered a selection of good quality (I hope!) AF wines to be delivered tomorrow to try and see if I can reduce what I have over the weekend. I'll feedback if any of them are any good! Enjoy the sunshine folks x

MintToBee · 25/05/2017 14:37

Something lovely just happened.
A Swift just flew into my front room, perched on the back of the sofa, chirped at me and flew back out.
And then I poured fabric conditioner on my Muslie. Blush

MintToBee · 25/05/2017 14:40
Grin Beautiful weather. Hope you are all able to enjoy the day.
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theansweris42 · 25/05/2017 16:25

hee mint that made me smile Smile

CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 17:01

ma hope all goes well today quine Flowers love your photo, what a beautiful child,

still chips then yoga? Sign me right up for that diet plan. Grin what are you up to on this bonny day?

mint surely that is a sign of something good coming to you? Either that or you are secretly Snow White. I'll be the grumpy one any news from your friend re shifts? I'm sorry you haven't heard from the vets, I bet you really miss your nursing, I hope upon hope someone gets back to you, that they've just been busy etc. I don't drive either, it is a pisser and I'm sure I've lost out on a couple of jobs because of it. I keep thinking 'this year I'll learn' and then I don't.

It is gloriously sunny here too, not a cloud. I am sitting on that wayward lab of mine to stop her bouncing. 6 days post spey now, we have switched from the cone to an inflatable, now I'm on anticoags again the backs of my legs are navy blue from her battering into me. The inflatable has cheered us both up.

made I've just bollocked her for breaking a plate, I was sat on the floor having some pasta and she dropped her massive nylabone into the bowl. I had to throw her into her crate as there were pasta and china shards everywhere. She had her beadies on the pasta so I had to move fast. Hmm what a treat for you on Friday, have you been googling the menu to see what you fancy?

I know what you mean about the world feeling less safe. I'm off to London a week on Saturday for a concert, I'd been looking forward to it for an age. Now I feel slightly unsettled about it. It's a venue I haven't been to before so I'm not familiar with layout or anything.

elf hahahaha there is no way ma will be giving you the green ones. Grin you might get one. If it's her birthday and you give her a unicorn as a present 🦄 Or you give her Dorothy's Ruby Slippers as a swap.

I dare say even then she'd snatch them back and click her heels three times so she could disappear in a big pouf of smoke leaving you with a little flurry of empty green wrappers...

guggs!!!! lovely to see you, keep drinking the tea! Your little diva sounds like she keeps you entertained/busy/smiling! I used to look after my niece and nephew at that age. They move like Usain Bolt, take full advantage of your blind spot, outsmart you at every turn and make more mess than a twister. I truly have no idea how people manage it full time. I found it incredibly stressful. Always petrified they'd break on my shift. Flowers Brew Cake Star for you. And a big bosie. Grin it's not a job for the faint of heart! X

CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 17:15

42 that was such a thought provoking post. I'm glad you feel better for visiting your past, you've moved on, and up. Memories are just that, happy, sad, full of remorse, full of hope. We can only keep looking between the ears as we forge forward.

If we'd all done our pasts perfectly, well, we wouldn't all have met on this marvellous bus. I believe were all drawn to this bus. We all need Gerald and Barrie in our lives.

You have escaped. Take heart and hope from that. That was A Good Day. Flowers

CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 17:19

Och made just read back. The humphy face was for the bairn having her eye on the pasta/china fusion food.

Not because you were having a treat on Friday Blush Blush

Sorry petal xx

CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 17:27

elba come away in for a blether quine. as my lovely old Granny would say, 'what's worst wi ye?'

How did you get on last night? Has something happened to throw you off your stot?

Focus on your holiday, are you going with friends or on your own? Check back in elba if you can.

Don't scare yourself quine, we are here. X

dementedma · 25/05/2017 17:32

Well, the board meeting wasn't great. They need a full cash flow projections by Monday and then will look at cutting costs.....
However, I took a punt on applying for a job on Mo day and they phoned today and said I have an interview on June 9th for the first round of interviews. Am shitting myself. It was a long shot and way beyond what I am capable off I think and a MUCH higher salary. ....fuck me, it's all up in the air!

dementedma · 25/05/2017 17:33

And it's hot here

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CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 17:43

ma I bet you 100 green opal fruits you are more than capable! You have an interview!! That chuffed for ye!!

Though I will say shitting yourself won't endear you to them in the interview process. X

dementedma · 25/05/2017 17:45

Thanks dubh I should be all shitted out between now and then.i haven't had an interview for years!! Am fecking terrified. The bloke said they have 57 applications so far and will be shortlisting 18 for the first round. It doesn't actually close u til May 30th so I was surprised they contacted me already

CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 17:48

It is roasting here as well. I've been off today, back tomorrow though.

My hair turned out lovely. A strapping young lad with beautiful tattoos did me. It was like watching an artist. My usual wifie takes the thinning shears and a little shaver to it and is done in 5 mins.

He took just over an hour and used three kinds of scissors. It's so good I haven't needed any product or anything. I love it. I feel Up to date again.

His forearms were lush. Blush

CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 17:52

Ah ma the fact you have an interview squeaks to me they are interested.

Don't sell yersel short quine, you have impressed them.

Look at all the hard work you've put in these last few years, under all sorts of pressures and deadlines. That won't have gone unnoticed. X

dementedma · 25/05/2017 19:26

Out argued by a 15 year old. DS has had his allowance but wants me to pay for him to go to the cinema. I said no, that is having your cake and eating it. He looked at me and said" Isn't that what cakes are for? I mean, there's no point having a cake and not eating it, is there?".
Erm.........Confused

thingscanonlygetbetterrrr · 25/05/2017 19:51

Thursday fail.... 3 days AF so I think 'oh yeah, I've got this under control' and then 'oh it's such a lovely evening, a nice bottle of muscadet will make it perfect'. Trying to upcycle a sideboard while a bit pissed...

guggenheim · 25/05/2017 20:27

Oh I'm sorry but I'm laughing a bit at the thought of painting while pissed or a bit tipsy anyway. Hope you don't mind!

I wrote a post early this am just after madein but the internet ate it. Oh well. I had an af night last night and am having another one tonight. Am still on the tea.

dubh ah I see that you have met my daughter! She would get on well with your hound 😎 The little beast has wrapped us around her pudgy fingers and apparently she cannot be sent to a place of correction until she is much bigger. Nurserys aren't like that, apparently.

ma why wouldn't they want to interview you? G'on give us one good reason...

Lovely to be back here and to see the strength and care shared. Some really thoughtful posts. Hope I don't come across as being too flippant or not thinking about some of the really painful thoughts being expressed here.

Love and tea to all.

Oh wait, why would Lenin never put the kettle on?

CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 20:37

I'm stumped guggs ...... Grin

guggenheim · 25/05/2017 20:52

Because all property is theft 😎

Proper tea geddit?

You'll be pleased to hear that it's my bedtime now.

dementedma · 25/05/2017 20:58

Groan guggs go to bed before someone slap you with Barrie!

I feel old. Dd1s best friend from school has just had a baby. She's kind of our "adopted" daughter so dear Lord, I almost have a grandson!!! Archie William came into this world this afternoon. Welcome, child!

CuileanDubh · 25/05/2017 22:33

😀 guggs

I am fair puggled wi this heat. Off to bed with my giant fan for company. Night night all

stilllearnin · 26/05/2017 05:09

Morning! AF and sleepless. absolutely loads to do today too. A bit early for a run so I'm going to tidy my office til the world wakes up a bit more!

dubh great news on the hair. I put a colour on mine yesterday. Picked up the wrong box and I hate it! Semi- perm so not a disaster.

My dc and ex are at a festival. I'd have normally been there too before the split and ds keeps ringing me to tell me who's asking after me.

Anyway yoga tonight and planning a trip to London tomorrow. What are our plans for the weekend?

stilllearnin · 26/05/2017 05:17

Tea anyone? (Actually a bit measly by my standards- think I need a top up)

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thingscanonlygetbetterrrr · 26/05/2017 07:05

Work in progress!

The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Swinging Into Sobriety!