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social services took my beautiful children

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user1491683745 · 08/04/2017 21:41

it really is not fair to do it to someone who absolutely loves and adores them they really need me and are probably so unhappy i am so done with life and really really want them with me

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WorraLiberty · 08/04/2017 23:01

OP, when did this happen?

CashelGirl · 08/04/2017 23:02

If you ring the Duty Social Worker at your local authority then they should be able to explain how/why the Police Protection Order was issued. You will need to remain calm and polite on the phone, as hard as that may be, because if you ring up swearing and shouting and aggressive it will be noted. Do your kids have any special comfort blankets or toys that you would like Social care to come and pick up for them? Can SS arrange a supervised visit for tomorrow so you can see them? You need to find a good family lawyer in your area and you need to speak to them. And if you know that you haven't hurt them or out them at risk (even if you haven't meant too) then you need to have a sit down with your OH and ask him whether there has been anything going on that you aren't aware of. What about their DAd? Does he know about it? Has he been able to shed some light on what's going on?

RJnomore1 · 08/04/2017 23:02

It's possible to not know about court but it has to be a pretty serious situation then op. This is a screenshot from the citizens advice website. You should get paperwork within 48 hours?

social services took my beautiful children
MichaelSheensNextDW · 08/04/2017 23:03

OP, there will have been a court hearing where social services applied to a judge for the emergency order to be granted.

shirleycartersaidso · 08/04/2017 23:03

Op is this very recent? He must have made some kind of allegation. It's very difficult to give advice without knowing.

Graceflorrick · 08/04/2017 23:04

OP, were the children living with you full time?

Papafran · 08/04/2017 23:04

OP, seriously, the only thing you can do is to see a solicitor first thing on Monday. You are entitled to non-means tested legal aid. Look on www.resolution.org.uk to search for a childcare specialist.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 08/04/2017 23:05

Who is with you now? If you are home alone, do you have a friend who could come over? I'd need someone to keep me calm & focussed. Do you have anyone who could make some phone calls for you?

dowhatnow · 08/04/2017 23:06

Show ss that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get them back.
Try to help them help you by demonstrating that you totally understand what they've done if he's disclosed something serious and you'll help them to get to the bottom of it. Be totally transparent.

steff13 · 08/04/2017 23:07

I'm imaging based on the OP's posts that the police came and removed the children without a word to her as to why, but that can't be right, can it? Here, even in an emergency situation, the parents are informed why the children are being removed.

OP, I know it must be hard, especially at the weekend, but I'd contact social services and an attorney first thing Monday. I assume they do reunification plans in the UK, like they do here. You need to get one in place so you can get your kids back.

NancyWake · 08/04/2017 23:07

You said it was a 'court decision' which indicates a hearing, which you should have been able to attend.

Normally a parent is given one days notice from the local authority and you had the right to go to the hearing. In that case you can organise representation.

If you genuinely weren't informed that indicates a very strong risk of harm to the child either in from violence or that you may abscond with the child or children.

Gazelda · 08/04/2017 23:08

When did this happen? Did the social workers leave any info at all with you? Perhaps a contact number where you can access more info or find out next steps? Did they indicate what is likely to happen next?

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user1491683745 · 08/04/2017 23:09

i never said it was a court decision

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NancyWake · 08/04/2017 23:09

Childline are perfectly aware that children may fabricate stories for attention.

corythatwas · 08/04/2017 23:10

OP, have you absolutely no idea against whom the allegations were made?

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user1491683745 · 08/04/2017 23:11

the police picked the children up and then social workers or whoever they were came to see me i am feeling very dead right now i feel like i am never going to see them again something must have gone wrong

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NancyWake · 08/04/2017 23:11

Your post at 22.24 says 'court decision'.

LovingLola · 08/04/2017 23:11

Were you given any information at all? Do you know where they are right now and who they are with?

coolaschmoola · 08/04/2017 23:12

Yes they are - but they also can't risk ignoring a potential case of child abuse because it might be made up. That would be very dangerous.

Floggingmolly · 08/04/2017 23:12

What did the social workers say when they visited you? They must have told you why?

springflowers11 · 08/04/2017 23:12

Op I can't begin to imagine how horrible it must be for you right now, but it does sound like a big mistake .I am sure they will be back home very soon. I don't thgink the kids will be feeling a tenth as bad as you are, kids are resilient and adaptable.they will be OK

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user1491683745 · 08/04/2017 23:12

no people were telling me it was and i was answering about how it cant be but now i see people are telling me it can be an emergency because i was never given no date or anything like that

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NancyWake · 08/04/2017 23:12

When the social workers came to see you what did they say?

corythatwas · 08/04/2017 23:12

what exactly did the social workers say when they came to see you?

LettuceMash · 08/04/2017 23:14

So you don't know why?

But they should have told you.

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