Dh has died - the MN Aunties are helping me keep on

[JuanPotatoTwo]

New thread, not very imaginative title sorry! I can't remember how to link - having a blank moment.

Oh Woolly that's so lovely thank you. I love the thought of your Ds praying hard for crisps :).

Hey magi - I'm sure you're right about the tears being healing and a necesssry evil. I just feel so out of control - I seem to not know when I'm about to break out! book my mn Aunties are a source of great comfort to me :)

Juan a good cry can sometimes help,

Sending love

Thank you unborn. I went with Dd earlier to get our nails done and I ended up chatting to the lady in the next chair. Turns out she'd heard about Mark through her Dd who's the same age as ds2. Small town.

Hope your nails are looking lovely Juan.

I'm mostly okay when I'm with other people, it's when km on my own that I fall apart.

We are away at the moment - the boys and I and my mum. A good day today, we went to Stonehenge on the way and now in a lodge with a hot tub - ds2 is in heaven. Not sure on whats planned for tomorrow.

What colour did you get? I never do my fingers but my toes are currently baby blue.

Ooh I had mine done this morning Juan how funny.

Hope you enjoyed having them done.

Chasing I'm pleased you have your mam with you.

Squirrels hope you, your Mum and boys get some peace and rest on your break.

I always go for some shade of red but I asked the nail lady to choose today.

Ooh pretty. As you can see I like the natural look

Having a bit pamper always makes me feel a bit better, hope it's done the same for you.

Evening ,
glad that just being here helps
what gorgeous nails and elegant hands Juan and Unborn.
( I have old and battered gardening /cooking/ knitting hands.... )
Chasing - hope you have a nice break , and also get some peace
(hugs) to all

Ooh lovely nails ladies! I'd love to have nice long nails, but I have to keep mine short, they get ruined at work.

Oh I really like yours Unborn. If I continue being brave and stay away from red I might even copy you!

book my hands aren't great - you'll notice the pic is a bit blurred! Gardening/knitting/ cooking hands sound lovely.

Drama I thought long nails might impede computer use but I seem to have grown used to them. I feel a bit bare now if I ever go short.

I have nails like bookbook's.

I suspect she & I have a lot in common! (No shit, Sherlock!)

Your aunties & granny muddled will be here for you for as long as you need us.

Hope you get some sleep tonight.

(((xxx)))

More than likely magi :)
well, I will say good night , and hope you all get some refreshing sleep.
I have a whirlwind DGS tomorrow ...
x

Evening Juan, just popping by to see how you're doing. The tears will catch you unawares sometimes but it's ok and totally understandable.

Almost 51 here and nails not fit for public scrutiny- the minute I try to do anything to them the skin peels at the base which makes work agonising. I just cut them quite short. To be fair, my toes are always immaculate -I mainly do them in deep blue shades- as I wear sandals all year round for work. Yours and unborns hands look very glam

Evening people, I had both DGS this weekend so have been like a whirling dervish a little busy. I am still a novice at remembering how awfully tiring (both physical and mental exhaustion!) it is to have two small people at the same time. Littlest guy has taken a fancy to ripping from my hands my nails. Just keeps grabbing at them.

Won't show my feet. Love them done, but at the moment they are dreadful - winter white with half grown out navy blue polish. This week if all goes well.

Morning

Just popping my head in, off to take DD2 (bigger DD has been awol at a friends since Friday) to the surestart Easter craft morning.

2017 nice nails. I don't think I could keep up with two little ones now - well done!

Unborn hope the craft morning is fun .

I'm meeting a friend in town. She's late so I'm sat on a bench listening to my playlist. Mama Cass has just come on and I'm sat here with tears streaming down my face :(

Just popping in.
((hugs)) Juan
I adore Mama Cass - Dream a little dream is one of my all time favourites xx

Loving the nails, mine always get to a certain length then break off drives me mad so I dont even bother painting them now except maybe in the summertime.
Bookbook, think I have the same hands as you despite handcream by the bucketload Old age doesnt come itself as we say up here.

Juan,
Tears are natural, they show how much you care, dont try and stop them, let them come and go as you need to.

Happiness is relative. People can be deleriously happy over the smallest thing when a huge thing has no impact on another person. You will find your level of happiness for today, this hour, tomorrow, next year, it will change and evolve depending on your circumstances, your mood, where you are and who you are with. Nobody can say what you should class as happiness. It can be a small smudgy feeling, a few moments of just peace in yourself or complete elation and everything inbetween. You/we all define it for ourselves, nobody else can do it for you, whatever it is you will recognise it because it is yours and yours alone.

Those are very wise and comforting words Willow, thank you. I met a friend on Friday who lost her dh 10 years ago. We were talking about happiness, and she said that for most of the ten years since he'd been gone she thought happiness was about laughing and smiling, and simply couldn't get there. But in the last few months she has come to realise that, for her, happiness is about feeling safe and secure and she finally feels she's achieved safety, security and therefore happiness. So, as you say, different things for different people, and different things for each of us at different times.

book Dream a Little Dream is what did it! I always said I want that at my funeral.

Roy Orbison (yes, I'm ancient) It's Over - the line 'You won't be seeing rainbows any more'.

That's me straight off in a wobbly heap. But tears are words, unspoken but heartfelt words. So be it.

Oh bugger, nobody ever said I was wise before

Oh btw can you tell my kids please?

Hello Selena, how are you?

Certainly I'll tell your children Willow :)

Evening ,

• everyone has left, a half hour with a cup of tea, and I think a good hot soak for me .

I can totally understand the tears . - Wise words indeed from friend and Willow xx

Hi Juan, doing OK-ish, thank you for asking. That interim, interminable, draining time until the next Oncologist appointment in 3 weeks - but every day together is a real bonus .