DH'S repeated inability to read a situation

[lenorloo]

You work in the morning; you collect DCS from nursery just after lunch time, you get home, clear up the dishes from breakfast, take them to walk the dogs, arrive home and play for an hour, then it's time to get dinner ready.
you have already emailed DH during the morning to explain that you have an appointment at 5.30pm so need to get dinner on the table for 5pm. DH replies that it's fine and that he will be home by 4.45 anyway.

DH arrives home just after 4.30, DCS are squabbling and wanting attention, you are juggling pans of vegetables in a stressful effort to serve dinner before you needbto leave.
What would your DH do? (And what SHOULD your DH do in an ideal world?!!)

I am so about to give up on the future for women: what on earth are the posters who are suggesting 'work arounds' to help the OP deal with the for the inept man-child opting to achieve?
Is this kind of bollocks what you want your own daughter's to be putting up with?

I despair. I really do,

I concur bantycustards. I see that I was working to a tight timescale in hindsight. But it's hardly the point I feel.
Don't other people make mistakes like this all the time? Thinking you have enough time when you don't? And isn't that where being part of a partnership comes into play? The other person can pick up the slack? Take off some pressure?

It does shock me that some women seem to think that we always have to be the prepared, poised, organised ones of the household, telling everyone else what to do and when as if they've no common sense or mind of their own.
It's a bit weird actually.

Mine wouldn't have come home at all, he would have gone for drinks after work.....It's his right don't you know after working all day!

I would have sorted the children , dinner, bed , and missed the appointment.

He is now my EX !

Exactly, Lilo.

It's the whole entitled mindset of so many males that so many women seem to be sold on: it's really quite perturbing

Mine never tells me anything about his day. He will usually crack straight on with the kids though so I can finish cooking.

I would leave him to referee while I got ready to leave for my appointment and when I returned I'd sympathize about the shit show i had left him with but not really sympathetic if you see what I mean! and then I would share a drink and discuss our ill brought up kids !

Also I don't eat dinner at 5pm ever. Ur my kids do- so we'd be ok waiting as long as there was something mutually agreed to feed them.
Also I disagree with having serious expectations of a father or actually just another parent and rather than actually communicating with them about the kids Waiting til they fail then being pissed off ??!!! Bizarre