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[dementedma]

We are a bus load of Babes all battling alcohol and trying to resist, reduce and get our lives back under control. Whatever you have to say, we will have heard it before and no-one will judge you. This is a warm, friendly,supportive place with tough love when needed ( slap round the face with a wet squid called Barrie). Join us here.

thanks Lux and Bibity I have thought about speaking to her about it but can't be sure that she won't go to him and say Spanna upstair says this and that etc. I know I've got to do something because I can't live with my conscience! I think I might go into our local cop shop tomorrow and speak to them. I just wish she'd kick the fucker out

My girl came 4th out of 11 in her group so she didn't qualify for Nationals in Birmingham. I am proud though

How's everyone doing?

If you mean on the drinking/not drinking thing? Fine thanks! I'm not drinking for Lent, and that's that. Went to a party last night and had two cokes and drove home. All good.

Oh Spanna, that is so hard, but I agree that you should do something otherwise you wouldn't forgive yourself if something happened. Bibbity's idea is a great one - can you speak to the woman on her own? If not, I think maybe call the police next time it happens...best to err on the side of caution, especially with kids involved.

Carte I found your comment so thoughtful - thank you. When you don't have a DM anymore then Mother's Day is tough. Thinking of you Mouse, and anyone else in our situation.

Bibbity - well done! Amazing.

I drank Friday, didn't drink yesterday, drank today. Am still miserable and more worried about my mental health than anything. Holiday in 2 weeks and desperate to get there.

I know I've got to do something because I can't live with my conscience!
Lots of people wouldn't. Proud of youspanna
Let's hope you can make a difference to her life.
Hope you all enjoyed the weather. It felt like beer garden weather today. So I had my fake gin and tonic sitting in the sun knowing that I wouldn't have a hangover tomorrow.

spanna I would suggest phoning the NSPCA helpline. They are very well placed to advise, and will link with child services etc if needed. Horrible situation to be in though.

Hugs to margie and anyone else finding today hard. Did you manage to get to the GP?

I've not been posting and consequently drinking way too much. Meant to be running a bloody marathon four weeks today and this is not the way to go about preparing. AF tonight for the first time in a week, but only as tomorrow is long run day (18 miles- absolutely dreading it). I really need to drink less and eat more over the next few weeks, or I simply won't get round, but I'm being self destructive as ever and the temptation to skip meals and drink instead is often overwhelming. So I'm going to try and check in more, and get back in control a bit more. The thought of failing (at anything, but for now it's the marathon) terrifies me so that's my motivation for now.

Having a weird day as I have a very difficult relationship with my mother. Doing Mothers' Day sober isn't easy!

spanna I hope you manage to get some help for your neighbour. How awful to hear that through the wall...

You did it though Elf that's the main thing.

Hope everyone else had a good day or at least coped.
I had a nice day, good food, sweet card. OH is drunk again and I find myself curling my lip a little. That was me a matter of months ago, maybe I don't like my reflection.

This week is project low carb. My diet is rubbish at the moment and summer approaches and I want some nice new clothes in a lower size. Going to step up the luxing

Thanks all I saw the bloke who lives next door on the 2nd floor (flat next to mine) on my way in from walking skinny dog. I asked him if he had heard the argument and he said he slept through it but that it woke his GF up. She also nearly called the police! I'm still dithering because she may not want my help IYSWIM - if I speak to her on her own, she might think I'm an interfering busybody!
Elba thank you.
I will do something but I'm not sure what! It's really bothering me, I've spoken to a good friend in RL and her advice was not to get involved, ie do nothing. That doesn't sit right though.
Urgh, I just don't need this......

I think the fact that your other neighbour's gf was on the verge of calling the police tells you that you weren't over-reacting. It's awful to feel the responsibility spanna, I do feel for you.

I haven't made the most of today's sunny weather, am ashamed to say. We went out to a party last night and I got to bed at 12.45 which was of course 1.45. I've felt absolutely useless and a bit hungover today, even though I wasn't hungover as I haven't had a drink for weeks. Bit of a blip from feeling relaxed and rested, as I have since I've been alcohol free.

I was thinking today ( don't laugh) if someone told me I had to give up tea, I'd find that incredibly hard and it would truly make me feel sad. I would think about tea a great deal and look at other people drinking tea and feel jealous, I would not know what to do with myself from 7 am to midday (when I usually drink 3 big mugs of tea). This made me feel a bit better about why I would feel sad if I could never drink wine again. Wine is just another drink while I'm not physically addicted to it, and it's ok to want it and enjoy it. The not ok bit is drinking it every day!

lux I seriously need to lose weight too!It was such a lovely day I went for a walk at lunchtime where I work...

Hello, hope everyone is ok not name checked (been a little busy) but thought it best to check in. Have had a lovely day on the beach with the dog, had a nice kfc for tea, a shower and just settling down with Mrs Brown's Boys on laptop. Not slept too great - ran out of co codamols so finding it a bit difficult to drop off - but the fresh air and days out are helping with that

Fell over on my run today, two bloody miles from the end. Feel like a bit of an idiot for ever thinking I could run a fucking marathon. I don't have control of my drinking, I smoke, I struggle to eat enough for day to day life let alone enough to get round 26.2 miles...so what the hell was I thinking trying to do this?! Hate failing at anything, hate giving up but really don't think I can do this. Sorry for the whinge, feeling knackered and miserable.

Of course you can do it Elba so you fell over, that doesn't mean you give up, you just shake yourself off and run again. I've fallen over quite a few times running, it's upsetting, annoying and makes you doubt you can do it. Don't let wobbly legs get you down. Just look after yourself, drink water and eat, have a good sleep. Tomorrow's another day.

dementedma
What a wonderful view!
Thick frost and fog here this morning. It's shaping up to be a beautiful day.

bibbity I love your tea analogy (especially as I'm not human until I've had my huge mug of Tetley in the morning ).

Elba how far had you run? I can't run any distance at all, not even a few hundred metres, so even thinking about a marathon is totally beyond me. It seems to me that you are very hard on yourself. You haven't "failed" at all. Even if you decide not to do this particular marathon, there will be others... if you want to do them. It must have been horrible falling over - always leaves me feeling shaken if I slip on ice in the winter. Hope you slept and feel a bit more human (if bruised) today.

Just going to quickly slide past and say ...

40 days

Have a brilliant day, everyone!

Elba I hope you're feeling a bit better today. You're not an idiot at all, having a fall is rubbish and can really shake you. Give yourself some time- progress doesn't always feel linear. I think it's great that you're aiming to do a marathon, it's a big goal and maybe yesterday was just a dip in your journey towards reaching it.

Hey all. Trying very very hard over here not to sink back into my old negative thinking patterns. I'm a champion brooder, I can dwell and dredge up old memories and endlessly feed the nasty beast inside that just wants to hate everything and give up (and drink a lot). Argh. Have really been working at it and seeing progress but the bad habits have made well-worn grooves in my mind and they're very comfortable to settle back into. Must stay busy. Change is bloody hard.

Oi oi everyone.

Just checking in, sorry not to NC everyone. Been abroad for the last few days on a nice little holiday, feeling refreshed and with new mental resources. Drinking at the moment but not disastrously, will be AF tomorrow and hopefully Thursday.

Spanna I called social services once because I saw my neighbour pushing and shouting at an elderly disabled man (I guess her father). It was a difficult decision to have to make, but it was the right one. These things are horrible to have to deal with.

And when I say 'at the moment' I mean over the last few days. Not right now!

My luxury today was me getting stupidly excited that one of the girls in the gym is an Avon rep so I can get my glimmerstick eyeliner. 😁

Hey lovely babes! I didn't manage 4 days last week but I've just joined weight watchers so I'm going to have to actually watch my intake. 2 weeks til the move so I need to save the pennies for pretty things aswell to be honest.

Hope everyone's well I've been away from here for a week so need to read all the happenings

Really down today, for no reason at all. I think I'm tired because of the clocks changing. That sounds really pathetic when I write it down - but I honestly can't think of a reason to feel so low.

Hmm. Need to pull myself out of this! carteblah I totally get what you mean about "endlessly feed[ing] the nasty beast inside" and "bad habits have made well-worn grooves in my mind". I need some new, cheerier, habits and thought patterns... distraction! or something...

Elba you can totally do it!
Elf 40 days!
Mint ooh, what colour eyeliner?

Evening all, sorry to see some are feeling low right now.

I am hyper busy with loads going on so not posting much but am reading.

I will be back once this crazy time has passed.

Wishing you all strength and happier days.

Love the photos

Elf you know it is ok just to feel low sometimes - there doesn't have to be a reason, there doesn't have to be something you can do about it. It's ok to just notice that you're feeling like that and to let it pass. Because it will. And 40 days (and 40 nights) is brilliant. Well done you.

Elba, you can do this, I know you can, I believe in you. You have been doing long enough distances to stay on track, you have got this, don't give up .

Carte, think we might be the same person! You put it much better than I could though. I have very similar thinking patterns to you, I brood, I get really bitter and I have been so close to giving up on everything these last few weeks. Don't really know what to do about it but good to know we're not alone.

Elf, 40 days is amazing, you're an inspiration, I hope you start to feel better over the next few days.

[Waves] to all other babes and a very Un-MN type squeeze for the goddess that is Venus.