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Dh 44, on Gonewild girls in 20s

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unrealisticor · 28/02/2017 00:47

I know I'm probably overreacting, but any support or advice right now would be hugely appreciated.
Found out dh has been looking at gonewild sub Reddit posts, (women showing off anal and boob pics) particularly 20 /24 year olds. He's 44, I'm 39, been together since I was 16. I've recently noticed him looking at younger early 20 something women but he's denied aggressively every time, so I've given up even mentioning it, as he just won't admit it. Our eldest dd is 22 as are all her friends and this is just freaking me out that these girls are younger then his own dd. I'm realistic and know that some men look at porn/ sexy pictures, even though he told me he wasn't interested in looking at any type of porn on the internet and much prefers to use his imagination, I had said to him at that time, I'd be uncomfortable with it but would understand that it's something he did and that would be that. He's a very private person and rarely lets me know what he's thinking, so he's lied to me on top of it. He's said he looks at the "nudes" but that he's not particularly interested in younger women, but from what I seen the majority were that age.
To add insult to injury I'm 38 weeks pregnant, as big as an elephant, so appreciate I'm feeling very hurt and betrayed due to bad self esteem and suffering from really bad antenatal depression and anxiety, and have felt very desperate this last few months, I don't know what's wrong exactly, but ive never felt so low.
He has said sorry, he won't do it again and basically said to get over it or separate over it, it's up to me, but not to drag it out, because he's had a bad enough year coping with all my other shit. In fairness to him I've had trust issues due to a bad child up bringing, and those issues have effected my marriage and he's fed up now. Sorry I know it's rambling, just trying to explain as much as I can.
I just need some help to put my feelings into perspective. Am I overreacting to this and should expect that this is just what some men do?

OP posts:
FritzDonovan · 28/02/2017 21:13

Flowers sadly, as you seem to know yourself op, once you know you've been successfully lied to about something you deem important, you can never be sure what is a lie again. That's what he doesn't seem to appreciate

fridayrain · 28/02/2017 21:15

In relation to him starting a diet and trying to look good, maybe he's concious about having two small babies at his age?!

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