Oh god, you're all so kind and wise. Thank you for sharing your advice, thoughts, condolences, experiences, ideas. My heart aches for all those of you who have had to experience similar losses. I am so going to write everything in a notebook. I've said it before - at least I hope I have - the fact that strangers take the time to reach out to another stranger really restores faith, and is so incredibly comforting 
. I'm sorry not to namecheck everyone individually - I promise I've read every word of every post, and every word has helped.
Drama - thank your lovely ds, and Raahh thanks for coming over! daisy, how indescribably painful it must have been for you registering your dh's death three short years after your marriage in the same place. Somerville, I'm so pleased for you all that you have found your way back to happiness - as you say, right now that seems impossible but it's good to hear that you, and others, have walked that path ahead of me.
Today has been long and difficult. Registered dh's death this morning. I sat there thinking what a difference a week makes - if you'd have said to me last Wednesday I'd be registering my husband's death in one week's time I would have flat out refused to believe you. Dh always always said never to take your loved ones for granted and to let them know how much you cherish them. He practiced what he preached. I tried to - but from now on I will make sure to.
Also today I contacted the undertaker and began the process of arranging the funeral. We have a date and a venue now. I have an appointment tomorrow to speak to the ITU doctor who attended dh when we first got to A & E, and who oversaw his transfer from A & E to the ITU.
We have been inundated with cards, flowers, messages, texts, calls, visitors bearing food and condolences. We have done lots of practical stuff, and lots of emotional stuff like talking/crying/remembering/sharing memories/committing to memory and paper exactly what happened on Sunday and Monday. Ds2 has written a tribute he wants to read at his dad's funeral, dd is working on hers. I have tried to let as many people as possible know that we want stories and memories of dh shared at his funeral.
Dd has had nearly 600 comments on the FB tribute she wrote. Again and again certain words and phrases recur - clever, incisive, bear of a man, gentle giant, talented, formidable, brave, funny, kind, astounding intellect, heart bigger than his feet, a good Johnny Cash (well, that one was only said once and isn't necessarily true but still ..), colossus, approach to life a lesson to us all, positivity, humour, warmth, love of his family. I hope I don't sound sickeningly gushing - all those things are true but he was certainly not perfect and could be your archetypal grumpy old man :)
It doesn't feel any more real yet. A stupid stubborn part of me still thinks he's on one of his many hospital stays, and will be back in a few days. Seeing his name on the death certificate this morning felt like a physical blow - the process of making it official is stomach wrenching. I have put away the clothes he wore in the ambulance and the clothes I had on when he died. I put some washing away earlier and broke down at the sight of his newly washed underwear - now that's a novel experience!