What's up with this guy?

[Princessmollygolly]

I've posted about this guy before, a few weeks ago. We have been seeing each other a month now and had 7 dates, including 2 sleepovers/sex - but mainly just lovely stuff, loads of long conversations, questions, him initiating dates 1-2 times a week, all pretty good. He hasn't been a big texter, I generally hear from him every 1-2 days between dates, and he never calls. But he does consistently set stuff up.
We had a lovely evening on Sunday. He initially invited me to his but I declined as was pretty sure it would lead to sex and it's hard for me to get to work from where he lives on a Monday morning. So we met in town, had a lovely dinner and drinks, chatting/kissing for 6 hours. He put me on a bus home and said he would text me.
And since.. nothing!
I don't know when I'm next seeing him. He intimated that he was busy tue/wed/thu/possibly fri/sat all day, which I brushed off at the time but in conjunction with me now not knowing when I'll next see him feels a bit odd. He used to set up the next date right after the last one. I've initiated contact more recently and am usually the one to text after dates to say I had a lovely time. But this time I didn't and he didn't either. It's on the 2nd day of no contact now and after a date with some deep chats about our families etc and lots of affection it just feels a bit off.
I don't want to be needy etc, or mess this up. I don't know what the normal level of contact is at this point or how they should be between dates. When I am with him it's great then it's like whenever we get slightly closer he disappears for 1-2 days and comes back totally neutral. I'm getting worried and it's awful! Friends I have asked have said "yeah that's bit weird" that he hasn't been in touch.
Any opinions very welcome!

No relationship should be this complicated so early on. I know others have said don't overthink it, but in my experience, the only relationships I've ever found myself overthinking are the ones where the balance is off and I don't feel secure/don't know where I stand.

The whole texting thing seems odd and a bit like you're playing by some kinda rules, rather than just being yourself. His response to you not getting a babysitter is positive, but that doesn't devalue how his intermittent communication makes you feel. I don't go in for all this playing hard to get nonsense as it's just way too much like hard work, and I don't think someone who gets off on that kinda thing would be my sort of guy anyway. That said, I've always had a hectic career which sees me heading abroad most months, as well as a busy home life which I guess prevents me seeming too needy/available. But I couldn't be one of those girls that says they're busy when in reality their watching netflix or something as if I like someone I want to spend time with them.

OP..please don't waste any more time with this man. He could be 1) A player..2) Not into you..3) A complete knob..either way it doesn't matter..you're worth more than this.

DON'T sell yourself short. A man will move mountains to be with a woman a wants.

Turn it around..don't be so available. See how he reacts to that. In the meantime cast your net;)

There is option 4) He might not just be into texting between dates. However, if you are, and you need this to feel happy in a relationship, then he's not the one for you. Also, if he has changed his communication pattern then it's generally not a good sign as I said above.

Is he still coming round tonight? I would talk to him when you've got him there, explain how the lack of communication makes you feel and see what he says and then does about it.

Let us know how tonight goes.