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Original poster

i've just kicked dp out and could do with someone to talk to :(

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:15

Sad
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Snowboo · 18/02/2007 20:16

Oh Pink! What happened love????

gothicmama · 18/02/2007 20:16

what you want to talk about

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charliecat · 18/02/2007 20:18

You ok?

ishouldbeironing · 18/02/2007 20:19

hello??? Want to talk??

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:20

i'm shaking so hard i think i'm going to throw up.

he refused to get his ass out of bed again today til 1 and is generally a useless shit but then when i was putting dd to bed he shouted at me and called me names while i was holding her again, just coz i wouldn't let him go into ds's room fidddling with the baby monitor

i'm so sick of being spoken to like a dog

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:22

i've tried so hard to make things work and he just keeps pushing and pushing... and everything is my failt and i'm such a fucking bitch and i can't take anymore

i haven't even had a chance to get dressed today with 2 sick kids and he can't even get out of bed.

and i've asked him not to call me names in front of the kids.... i've asked so many times

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Snowboo · 18/02/2007 20:22

Try to stay calm love, its not worth getting yourself ill over.

Are the kids settled?

Original poster
PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:22

o god, i don't want to be a single mom and i don't want the kids not to have their dad around but i can't live like this

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ishouldbeironing · 18/02/2007 20:23

How long has it been this bad?

Original poster
PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:23

yeah.... for the minute anyway, ds will want feeding soon

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:24

too long. he's always been like this but i can't take it anymore

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Snowboo · 18/02/2007 20:24

Is he depressed? Seems like he's been this way for a while now....

charliecat · 18/02/2007 20:24

He wont realise what he lost till its too late.
Where has he gone?

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:25

yes.... i asked him to go to the doc a coupe of months ago and get help but that was me being a bitch too.

i don't know why he won't, he was on ADs before i met him but he just won't deal with it

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charliecat · 18/02/2007 20:25

Always? He wasnt calling you names for the first few months surely?

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:26

i don't know.... i don't think he has anywhere to go but if i tell him to sleep on the couch i'll be giving in again and every time i do things just revert to this

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:26

we've always had passionate fights but yeah, i think the day to day stuff has gotton worse.

hard to think straight

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charliecat · 18/02/2007 20:28

Nothing changes, I understand. I really do.
Deep breathes.

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:28

i do everything, all the washing and cooking and pretty much everything for the kids.

he thinks doing a bit of a tidy while i'm getting them to bed is doing his fair share. we had a blow up on wed because the house needed cleaning while dd was at palyschool and ds was screaming and he'd disappered upstairs to fiddle with his cd's.

how is that fair?

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PinkTulips · 18/02/2007 20:29

i love him

i hate the person he is some of the time but i do love him..... and dd will never forgive me

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ishouldbeironing · 18/02/2007 20:29

When you say that you have kicked him out - has this happened before and if so where does he go to?

gothicmama · 18/02/2007 20:29

stay strong for you and the kids think about what you want for them and you being a single mum may not look like a good option but if he can't respect you then staying with him will be a worse on, if there is a problem that is making him beghave this way will he take action to sort it