There is going to be a convicted peadophile at BIL's wedding

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BIL is getting married in the summer, his fiancé's uncle is going to be there but at the minute he is serving a sentence for abusing his own children.
I don't know what sentence he recieved or how long it was for but I do know the basics of what allegidly happened as BIL's fiancé is a close friend and she confided in me when the court cse was going on.

Her family genuinely believe he is innocent and the children are lying about everything.

I never liked the man before I knew about any of this and now it is making me feel extremely uncomfortable about attending the wedding.
I don't know whether he did what he was accused of or not but it makes me feel very uneasy knowing he is going to be in close proximity to my children and alot of others. I know it is irrational as it is quite unlikely he would abuse anyone's child there and then but I just don't like it.

What would your thought be in my situation?

How tragic, NQC.

Obviously, a court either believed the children or he pled guilty.

Either way.

Convicted, sent to jail for it = paedo

(I feel I must point out, my niece had a lot of bad things happen to her, the abuse, and the not believing was only a small part of it all. )

Me too NQC, they are burying their heads in the sand - if he is innocent why does no-one talk about it and its such a big secret.

Cod, it was sexual abuse on his own children, I also think there was an accusation of him ineterferring with nieces too (both brothers haver children with same woman, therefore 2 different set of children living under same roof)

BIL's fiancé is from the "he's totally innocent" school of thought too, and she's got 3 children too

I couldn't marry a person like that.

But obviously, someone can.

Doesn't mean I had to go to his wedding w/some paedo scumbag at it.

ARRE THE CHILDREN HE ABUSED GOING TO THE WEDDING

Oh dear. What a mess. I worry, more than a bit, about your BIL's stepchildren.

Where are the children who were abused now?

A bit odd, the two brothers having kids with the same woman, isn't it?

Find out for sure if the peado is going to be there & then make up your mind.

Though, I feel obliged to point out that because he was convicted you all know what he was guilty of...

there may be others wandering about all around us, not convicted yet guilty, of the very same thing

sorry trying to feed DD2 so one handed typing .

His wife believes him and not her own daughters - she is in the process og having her kids removed from her care for child neglect.
ALL PARTIES ARE INVITED TO WEDDING, YET THE UNCLE HAS BEEN TOLD HE IS ALLOWED NO CONTACT WITH HIS CHILDREN.

I DON'T KNOW COD, I HOPE IT IS HIGHLY UNLIKELY HE WILL BE THERE BUT THEY ARE ALL TALKING LIKE ITS DEFO POSSIBLE

Expat.... it's not the paedo's wedding.. he will be a guest there (think I read that correctly).

Themoon, I think expat means she couldn't marry someone who takes the side of the peadophile & not the victims.

he will be breaking the law then if he is in the same room as his children?

Yes, I realise that, the moon, but I'm in the same camp as RubyRoja.

By the time most paedos are caught, if ever, they've abused a LOT of children.

IMO, convicted paedos are NOT rehabilitated and should never be realised back into society until we can come up w/a proven way to rehab them.

So therefore, I wouldn't want to be around a convicted one for the same points Ruby brought up.

no, no, no...i dont care who i would upset, i would not go to any kind of event if one of the guests was a convicted peadophile..you 'can not go' because you dontt want to be in the same room with your children as a peadophile..your not going to be shamed, your not being racist or predjudice you are being a parent!..why the Fck are they inviting him!, why the Fck would they ignore a group of children who say he has abused him???

thers no way id go, especially with my kids and id be very verbal for the reason too!

poor kids, to go through that then have the family not belive them

there mustve been evidence or else he wouldnt be there now in jail

I PRESUME SO NP - IT IS ALL JUST SUCH A BIG MESS AND I FEEL V. UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT IT

i keep thinking about the girl who nipped to the toilets in sainsburys and got raped while her mum was outside

could easy happen at a hotel too, while a wedding reception continued outside

i wouldnt be going

how old are the chilren he abused?

I'd put my foot down, sorry.

I understand DH might feel torn, but that doesnt mean you have to go yourself or take your children.

NO WAY I'd take my children.

THERE was evidence kittylette, very convincing evidence too

I certainly wouldn't go. It's a no-brainer surely?

and if im going to be honest i wonder why you are even questioning going??

why would you even think of allowing your kids in the same room as a convicted peadophile??

that is if you are planning on taking your children,

if not i still dont think id go, seeing him would make me sick

Obviously enough evidence for him to be found guilty by a court.

I wouldn't take dd

well obviously there was evidence if he was found guilty