Is this relationship doomed?

[ringaling]

Really really early days.
Been together 2 months now.
He lives 30 mins drive from me and is 31 with 1 child who is 11.
So far I see him twice a week Monday and Thursday.
I don't see him weekends as he has his son and it's still early days.
The thing is I don't think even after a while we can ever do anything together at weekends.
We both work Monday to Friday from 8 till 6.
The first few weeks we were going out for meals etc.
Now he says he is skint and would prefer to just come to mine.
So he gets to mine for 7.30-8pm then by 10.30 he is asleep.
Is it bad I want to go out for tea or just shopping or anything really.
Can it work?
Also he seems slightly lazy always in bed and he is on his phone on Facebook and that's even when he is with me.

I would text him and say look sorry but this isn't working. Good luck to you

Text!

All you have to say is that regrettably, you don't think you're best suited and you wish him well.

Decline to be drawn into details he can argue against - it's not a discussion, just a statement.

Fuck. Now I want a pot noodle

Yes just say it's not working as it's clear you want different things.

( ie a life!!! )

Find someone with no children who wants to go places and do things together and spend quality time with you !

You have energy and are positive, he seems to be the opposite

Enjoy yourself, I am sure you will meet someone new soon

He is not the right person for you

he is showing you who he is. don't give him more chances to carry on showing you. that makes no sense.

text him and say it's not working out. all best for the future. block. next!

Get rid now. You obviously enjoy Christmas markets, ice rink etc. Just go and enjoy life and the things you want to do. He does not care about your enjoyment or happiness does he, only his own. He really does suck the joy out of life. So much better to be by yourself than with a waste of space like this. Have a nice Christmas without your freeloader. God, I feel sorry for his son stuck with him at weekend.

I agree, don't give him any specific reasons so he will argue with you. Just say it's not working .

I hope you find a lovely man who is more compatible with you.

I may get shouted at and I deserve it but stupidly last night he said il head into town tonight to meet you ..go for a hot chocolate and browse the shops.
I agreed..text him today confirming time and he says he might have to work overtime.
I angrily text back saying "stuff you,I'm done,delete my number"
Prick
We had a long chat this morning (he rang me)
And thought maybe I judged too quick.
Nope just a mug!

So he's dumped?

Ringaling is it worth doing some reading about moving on/dumping etc. It sounds like this is something you struggle to do and will mean getting stuck with another loser like this one if you're not careful.

Bombay Boring Boy

If you love a good Christmas market, get your self to Lincoln Christmas market if you can, it's the dogs bollocks :)

I don't know why on earth you would consider giving this more time. Glad you've dumped him!

You sound like a lovely woman with a zest for life. Get rid of him...he will drag you down! I was in a similar situation. I wanted to someone to do things with such as Christmas markets lunches etc. I started attending "meetups". I did come across tons of weirdos...but I also made some great friends and I was able to do all those things. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve.

Please please dump this loser. He can't keep his word, doesn't value you, is lazy and just doesn't want the same things in life as you.

Do you want to spend all your free nights eating pot noodle on the sofa..?

I assume not so dump his sorry ass!!!

Even if you ask to meet face to face, he'd probably make an excuse anyway!

He sounds tedious, the whole situation does. He's not for you Op.

Laughed so hard at image of him in bed with a pot noodle while you are out hang gliding, mountain climbing, clubbing, ice skating...

Op he is not going to let you go because he wants to move in with you so that he can have a place he can bring his son to and then you can take his son to all the fun activities you like, you can cook and clean and provide for them both as he's effectively homeless and skint.

You are fun, have a roof over your head, money, you are kind and are good in bed so no wonder single , homeless, selfish dossers would want to keep you!

Wake up op. You are being used.

Ah well, so you have him the benefit of the doubt. That just means you're a nice person. Now you can be totally sure that you're better off without him. It'll be easier not crumble next time.

I am in TEARS at the Pot Noodle! Every woman's dream. "Come to bed, my darling. Let us feast on this chicken and mushroom Pot Noodle'.

I can't believe you are entertaining this bloke when there are single well off blokes like me around everywhere, get on the dating sites

So you’ve revived a nearly 2 year old thread to tell us that removalizer

Indeed what a prize you must be