Is this relationship doomed?

[ringaling]

Really really early days.
Been together 2 months now.
He lives 30 mins drive from me and is 31 with 1 child who is 11.
So far I see him twice a week Monday and Thursday.
I don't see him weekends as he has his son and it's still early days.
The thing is I don't think even after a while we can ever do anything together at weekends.
We both work Monday to Friday from 8 till 6.
The first few weeks we were going out for meals etc.
Now he says he is skint and would prefer to just come to mine.
So he gets to mine for 7.30-8pm then by 10.30 he is asleep.
Is it bad I want to go out for tea or just shopping or anything really.
Can it work?
Also he seems slightly lazy always in bed and he is on his phone on Facebook and that's even when he is with me.

Oh no. Ditch him. At two months in, if you're not out in swanky restaurants, or sharing a bottle of chianti at the dodgy local pizza place, or enduring long walks on the beach, you should be swinging from the chandeliers. If you're not going out, and you're not not getting so much action you've stopped bothering wearing knickers, then it's time to kick his sorry ass to the kerb.

77th person saying "dump him "

It's so hard meeting someone who isn't boring,isn't a creep,isn't a cheat etc etc
Maybe it's because I'm a bit spontaneous it's hard to find like mind people.
I'm off work on Friday,think I might drive to York and look around at their Christmas markets(can you tell I love Christmas)

Well..yesterday well he agreed to tonight going to Christmas markets and tea.
Text him asking is that still okay and he says he is off to Scotland with work dropping a car off (3 1/2 hours drive) so not sure if he will be back in time ..but will try.
Why am I surprised

Gain control and text back to leave it then.

Don't wait around wondering if he'll make it or not (spoiler: he won't)

And for gods sake dump him!!!

Op, he's not that into you.

Yes i would say this relationship is doomed. He sounds dull and not that into you i'm afraid.

It's always him ringing me and telling me he misses me and can't wait to see me so I just don't understand

I am the least spontaneous person in the world. But even I don't think it's radical to arrange to go out on a Monday night when you've been doing so for two months .

He's just using you for sex and a meal. Next he'll be bringing his laundry round and leaving it on a Monday to pick up on Thursday .

He may well miss you. Just not enough to shift his arse. You can miss someone and still be a waste of their time.

I think he's got too comfortable with me already

He's shit. Bin him.

Just sounds all too rushed too soon. He's trying to get his feet under the table after only two months, I'd bin him off.
Use it as an experience & next time wait at least 3 months for sex & stop overs etc. A decent bloke would wait & be doing what you should be doing after 2 months, which is dating & hVing a laugh

Tbh that's what I want someone to date and have fun with.
I've got plenty of time to do the boring old couple routine.
We did wait a month before any sex happend and before that he was trying hard and "wining and dining me"

So he made an effort until you slept with him.

BIN.

You sound great fun.
He sounds sooooo dull.
And lazy.
Honestly - and I don't mean this flippantly - I think you need counselling for giving him another chance. Why on Earth are you so desperate to be with someone who doesn't share your interests and sense of fun, and expects you to put in more effort than him sexually?
He sounds like a total loser.

I think I built him up to be something he wasn't..the beginning was him on his best behaviour.
He has just text saying he has no money for tea but will meet me and look around the markets but at the end said unless you want to wait till tomorrow ..I haven't replied.
He is draining my energy big style
I normally give people more chances than they should get ..I'm not sure why.
I do it with family and friends too

You are young and single and there must be so many lovely and lively guys out there who would love to date you. Bin him and spend time finding one of them.

You really can't stay with him because the next guy might turn out to be a cheat, that's really sad. You are 'settling' if you stay with this guy, honestly after just a few months in he's only going to get worse! You're a decade older than my twin DDs, I'd be horrified if they tolerated this in their thirties! He should be wining and dining you.

Being single and going out and painting the town red, yellow blue and purple would be better than the dull future that lies ahead with this bloke.

You sound fun and sparky, don't let this loser suck all the fun out of you, because he will lovely, he really will.

Don't reply and go to the markets yourself. Xx

He's draining your energy - ugh ugh ugh.

You're the same age as me OP. I wasted so much time dating guys that didn't want the same things as me, and didn't fullfil my emotional and physical needs.
I think it's fair enough after 2 months to know it's not working. Please please don't waste anymore of your time sitting around with this guy when you could be out cutting up the markets yourself and beyond.

Don't worry about meeting another guy. There ARE good guys at online dating. They're just a bit hidden away sometimes

It's draining my energy just reading about this guy. Please tell us you've ditched him already.

Went to the markets myself ..he snapchated me him in bed eating a pot noodle.
I don't have a clue how to put a end to it ..what do I say ? By text or face to face

Frankly, given what's happened and the relative newness of the relationship, I think text would suffice perfectly, OP.

IM sorry but I just spat out my Diet Coke at the pot noodle Snapchat I MEAN WHAT MORE COULD A WOMAN WANT IN A MAN