Is this relationship doomed?

[ringaling]

Really really early days.
Been together 2 months now.
He lives 30 mins drive from me and is 31 with 1 child who is 11.
So far I see him twice a week Monday and Thursday.
I don't see him weekends as he has his son and it's still early days.
The thing is I don't think even after a while we can ever do anything together at weekends.
We both work Monday to Friday from 8 till 6.
The first few weeks we were going out for meals etc.
Now he says he is skint and would prefer to just come to mine.
So he gets to mine for 7.30-8pm then by 10.30 he is asleep.
Is it bad I want to go out for tea or just shopping or anything really.
Can it work?
Also he seems slightly lazy always in bed and he is on his phone on Facebook and that's even when he is with me.

You don't sound compatible at all. It shouldn't be this hard so early on.

He lives with his friend and his wife.
So basically he rents a bedroom.
He has agreed to tomorrow ..lets see if he follows it through.
He works as a car valeter..

I had a similar short relationship. He'd come to my house and just get out his laptop and play football!

He was also very needy and couldn't take no for an answer.

Couldn't be doing with the crap. Sounds like you deserve better.

What happens when he has his kids at his friend's house? Where do they sleep?

Sorry, just one kid.

See what happens tomorrow, if he cancels then I'd dump him for sure. I don't like lazy men, that would put me right off.

His son sleeps in the bed with him..

Why are you even bothering with this? It's not funny. He's lazy, he's joyless, he's boring, he's shite in bed, he's a grown man with a kid who rents a bedroom in someone's house. And you're still waiting to see if he cancels? You're burning daylight here. Get a self-esteem and get rid.

Oh good god it gets worse! Run for the hills regardless if he comes along.

Why are you waiting OP? Do you have a low sense of self worth?

Bet he'd love to move out of his bedroom at his mate's and move in with you OP!! please bin him now. You can do sooooooooooo much better.

He sounds very dull. This isn't what you're looking for and you know it!

You sound quite enthused by life and doing and seeing things, and he isn't. If he's like this so early into the relationship there's no hope.

Just remember, this is the best it'll ever be. Can you live with that?

Argh!!!! Get rid!!! Immediately!! Seriously, why naff around? Christmas is a great time to meet someone else

I don't think anyone on here has suggested staying with this guy, OP - so what will you do?

OMG. Dump, dump, dump!!!

He sounds like a joyless fucker.

Even the sex sounds shite.

WTH?! You say you're 31 but you're acting 50 years older. Get rid of this lazy killjoy.

I just think it's so sad OP that you're cooling your heels til Monday and Thursday roll round, and you could have more interesting company on your own.

My tuppence - you're young and have a lot to offer someone who has a lot to offer you. Relationships are about new experiences, learning (about each other as well). He doesn't sound like he's great company.

And on a side note, his son is only going to get older, I think it's getting a bit beyond sharing a bed.

He is lazy in bed and in doing anything, just run for the hills!

Omfg. Boring, lazy, poor, room in his mate's house, no weekends free and shit in bed.

What a catch.

I thought having a boyfriend would man weekends alone would be a thing of the past..is there any point having a bf who you don't see on a weekend?

NO!!!

Seventy-three people can't be wrong....
And Christmas/New Year is a good time to meet someone new. Do it, ringaling!

You sound fun I think you won't have much trouble meeting someone new

Nah get rid, you should be having weekends away, going out and about....sounds like a boring old routine already