Is this relationship doomed?

[ringaling]

Really really early days.
Been together 2 months now.
He lives 30 mins drive from me and is 31 with 1 child who is 11.
So far I see him twice a week Monday and Thursday.
I don't see him weekends as he has his son and it's still early days.
The thing is I don't think even after a while we can ever do anything together at weekends.
We both work Monday to Friday from 8 till 6.
The first few weeks we were going out for meals etc.
Now he says he is skint and would prefer to just come to mine.
So he gets to mine for 7.30-8pm then by 10.30 he is asleep.
Is it bad I want to go out for tea or just shopping or anything really.
Can it work?
Also he seems slightly lazy always in bed and he is on his phone on Facebook and that's even when he is with me.

I think he lacks any lustre for life and you are the total opposite.

Run for the hills ..........

You think you're expecting too much to want to leave the house??

He's LAZY

Utter waste of your time. I expect you'll make all the effort over Christmas too. Ugh.

I've been single myself for two years and I thought finally I've met someone nice.
He was suggesting days away,weekends away,trying food in new places..
I guess people put on a act who the are at first....I'm nearly 31 myself so I'm not getting any younger.

He hates Christmas too ..tried to put a bit of shaky Stevens on the other night and he wasn't impressed ha ha

'without giving tmi even sex he likes me to do all the work'

Oh, dear god! You're 31, not 101. Don't waste your time. I'd cancel his coming over tomorrow and then just let it drift off, he won't make any effort to keep you.

If you don't dump him then you have to give up all your hopes for a more interesting life. Fancy doing that? All the things you want to do sound lovely and perfectly reasonable so you just have to wait until you find someone who shares your desires. This man doesn't. It shouldn't be like this after 2 months. You should still be exploring the world with one another and getting to know each other and enjoying the company. This is exactly why he is single!

If you hang on another month, please don't get the miserable sod a nice present.

So he lasted 4 weeks before his mask slipped?

Be grateful, at least you haven't wasted much time on this joy sucking Bore.

I've already told him I'm going to the Christmas markets tomorrow night (8 min drive from his house) so if he wants to meet me and go for tea fair enough ..he was saying it's so cold tho.
Whatever ..I've got plans
I don't even mind going on my own tbh..
I told him a few months ago I went to London for the day and his response "why did you go all that way on your own" emmmm because I'm a grown woman and I fancied a day away from the norm.
Plus I have no kids yet so why not do things spur of the moment.

Is it bad I was thinking "oh I wonder if he gets me a Christmas present ..ha ha and it's my birthday Christmas Eve"

Honestly the first 4 weeks he was fantastic....I don't know how he changed so quick...maybe because we started sleeping together.

I'm not sure you can try tempt him into doing things. I mean I wouldn't want to hang out with someone who didn't really want to be there. Go anyway and have fun

One month in and his true self comes out and he's lazy, boring and addicted to Facebook. He won't change. He could only fake it for 1 month! He's too lazy to even fake it for a respectable amount of time.

Thanks everyone ..I think I already knew I just wanted to make sure I wasn't expecting too much.
I'm not high maintenance and every meal /drinks I paid 50% so it's not as if I was taking advantage

Sorry Ringaling but I think he's gotta go. I can't really pull out any positive points from your comments and you're only a couple of months in.
Ditch, and go out with your pals. Lots of Xmas parties around now therefore potentially single guys out on the dating scene. You deserve better!

I have just text saying about the Christmas markets and tea tomorrow ..thought I would just see what response I get..I guess the saying "flogging a dead horse" comes to mind...

Run now! He seems dull and boring. If you ended up long term with kids it would destroy you.

Well he's probably not going to actually text back "To be honest, I couldn't be arsed", so it will be interesting to see how he rephrases that, lol.

Dump

Get rid, I'd rather watch mould grow than be with someone who sucks the joy out of everything and seems so boring!

He read my text And no reply ha ha

Where's the fun? Too much hard work. If he's not willing to make the effort now, it's going to be dreadful months down the line. Walk now. Go to the Christmas market and whatever you were going to spend on him this Christmas buy yourself something nice with it.

31 IS YOUNG.

Sorry for shouting OP but please don't waste any more time on this man. He may be perfectly nice but you can do so much better.

He read my message 40 mins ago,been on Facebook active since then and no reply.
That doesn't half annoy me!

You're young, single, no kids, why on earth would you settle for this? My elderly parents have more fun than you two!!

Have you ever been to his house? As your planned trip round the Christmas market is close to his, why not suggest you pop in after, maybe he could cook dinner for you for a change.

And why is he in bed lazing around on a Sunday? Does he have such a demanding job that he needs so much rest?