My husband has hit our daughter and she keeps getting constant UTIs.

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Would this make you question things?

He can be an angry man but not bad she is safe so I don't need to move away yet I was just asking

Not drinking enough water can also cause UTI's can't it? There isn't only one explanation for them? The book throwing and the UTI's could be exclusive to each other but since you have posted here making that implication there must be more to it?

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He can be a bit pushy with sex so it made me suspect I will leave this now sorry

I can't believe someone would come on and do this, I hope you are a troll because if this is your real life you need a lot more help than we can offer.

"she is safe"?? How do you know? Recurrent UTIs in female children are one of the leading signs of sexual abuse. If he's pushy with sex...

Look, OP, more than 1 in 10 girls is sexually abused by a man in their life, usually their father or stepfather. This isn't something just a few men do. You are RIGHT to be worried. You need to take your daughter to be checked.

People are making out like it is worse than it is I just asked like other people do and I'm not troll

hang on, leave the OP alone. It can be hard to stand up to your dh if they are abusive. op is looking for advice and people are picking on her language skills and calling her names. If you think using abusive language to the OP and calling her stupid is ok, then I suggest you need to look at your own abusive behaviour.

OP, its hard to know but I'd be taking DD to the doctor as soon as possible. I wouldn't leave DD with him and I would be seriously discussing the book situation and spelling out how out of order he is, and making plans to get out.

No - other people generally don't come on here and casually wonder out loud if their husband is raping their 9 year old daughter.

What do you mean worse than it is? You already implied it, how much worse can it be? You're not making a lot of sense OP. If you have suspicions you NEED to take her to the GP.

I don't understand why he would throw a book at her because of a Uti?
Poor toilet etiquette and dehydration are normally causes of a urinary tract infection.

Working with teenagers does not mean that someone is necessarily not abusive to family or children.

I'm not really sure what throwing a book and a uti has made you think about OP.

OP we have no way of knowing what your husband is like. But if he has hit her or thrown something at her, that is wrong, and she needs to see a doctor about why she keeps getting UTIs. If you have any concerns at all about sexual abuse, you must mention this to your GP.

who are you protecting here?

your husband or your daughter?

are you worried that the doctor might start asking question?

for goodness sake, you are a mother first in this situation.

Start again.

Use full sentences and explain what happened and what your suspicions are.

You'll get proper responses that way.

Are you OK OP?

And try a proper username instead of a troll name.

Evening all
Anyone need a link to the talk guidelines?

You've gone from mentioning an incident which could be just a one-off due to circumstances we know nothing about to a big jump implying that continuing UTIs could be down to sexual abuse. You are either wasting time drip-feeding, got completely the wrong end of the stick or are living under a bridge. Which is it?

Posted before the update - if you suspect any type of abuse at all then you need to get your daughter out of there.

I think you're getting an unnecessary hard time.

Yes I think it's reasonable to suspect something sinister related to utis if he's thrown a book at her and he's forceful with sex.

Dd needs to be safely away from dh. I know I would leave it my dh laid a finger on dc.

Leave not leave it!

I'm wondering what question it is that you want to ask OP?

I am trying to use scentances I'm sorry

I was given a username I put email into the bit where you register

I get the impression that there is more reason for your suspicions than the book incident.
What else is going on?