My husband has hit our daughter and she keeps getting constant UTIs.

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Would this make you question things?

Physical abuse is enough to get her and you as far away from him as possible.

Do that now.

Once you've done that, get proper advice (GP for starters) if you suspect sexual abuse.

Is this a troll game? See how few words you can use to get MN up in arms. Your score is 6 well done

By 'safe' I hope you mean that he has no possible way of contacting her.

Take her to a GP.

Is English not your first language, or do you need support to explain what is wrong? Because if not, its you who needs questioning.

No not a game at all I'm sorry if it seems that way I'm just trying to get advice without it being too obvious, he's a nice person and works with teenagers. He's a good bloke the book was a one off thing but I was always surprised by the UTIs but because of that it makes me think

This doesn't make sense. If he threw a book at her I wouldn't assume she's safe. Do you think she's being sexually abused? Why are you asking people online? Do something about it. Ffs don't be so stupid

You clearly have your suspicions that it's not only physical but also sexual abuse so why the heck are you a) asking complete strangers instead of seeking GP and professional advice and b) not ensuring your DD's safety?

Please take your Dd to your gp asap.

Please also ask your husband to leave immediately

I am finding the link between the UTI's and throwing the book.

Been physically abusive doesn't make someone a paedophile. ( really hard to understand what happened) is this a one off.Did he chuck the book and it hit her?

I suspect you have concerns before the book incident and you need to speak to a professional about your concerns

" he's a nice person "

yet you suspect him of sexually abusing your daughter?

right OK then.

OP if this is not a wind up, you know what you have to do dont you?

I'm sorry "good blokes" do not throw books at their children

I wouldn't assume that a man who lost his temper and threw an object at a child was automatically likely to be sexually abusive.Having had a DD who had constant UTIs I would consider abuse as a possibility,but unless I had other suspicions my first thought would be a medical problem that wasn't getting sorted properly.
But really it all depends - is this a one off? Do you have other concerns? Is it obvious why your daughter is getting the UTIs?

You need to protect your daughter - get rid of him, and get to the doctors for the UTIs

suspecting your DH of sexual abuse is not something you normally have a little chinny reckon about.

you've been given pretty good direct advice v quickly. If you pursue this as a thread without taking any action then it does all look trollish. Follow the advice and stop involving strangers on the web?

He's a nice person and he works with teenagers?
He bloody isn't and shouldn't be anywhere near children if he's abusing your DD fgs!

Throwing a book is abusive. You should leave him and seek advice from the Police.

The recurrent utis needs investigating, take her to the GP. Do you have reason to suspect sexual abuse?

OP predators may choose to work with teens not because they're a nice person. Because they're a predator.
The fact that you have now seen a different side to him (the book) has shocked you I believe. But you're right to question it.
Take your girl and leave now if you can, if not get in her bed for the night (say she's upset.. something) then GP in the morning. This I serious OP.
I can't help but think your strange, short posts are because of shock.

Well I wouldn't have him under the same roof tonight if he threw a book at her for starters

English isn't my first language no sorry

Jesus Christ, there's a massive leap between throwing a book in temper (which is absolutely not on) and what you seem to be implying. If you have even the slightest reason to suspect your h, you need to act to protect your dd immediately.
Get her out of the situation and start talking now.

unless you have real reasons to suspect him, no, i wouldn't think they're related.

He of course shouldn't be throwing books at her, one off or not.

UTI could be because she isn't wiping properly, not necessarily anything else.

Chuck him out? Are you for real?

Lived life isn't that simple and neither should it be.