Help me put this into perspective and stop me making a tit of myself

[Alfiemoon1]

I have no reason to be suspicious of dh and know I am being irrational but
To cut a long story my sister bought dd a horse for Christmas no I am not a troll. The yard we are at is very friendly mainly all woman. Dh has taken this surprise horse extremely well he loves being at the yard and goes most days after work he works night shift so it in the morning he poo picks mucks out etc. The yard has gone to being diy so we have come to an arrangement starting this week that v will put out our horse while dd is at school and we will bring hers in. So obviously there has been texts between v and dh why she doesn't text dd I don't know.
She seems to be constantly texting surely it can't be that difficult to sort out. He was late home the other day as he went looking for wire for her rabbit hutch which annoyed me as I have a few jobs round the house that need doing when I question what takes so long at the yard he's always helping her do this that or the other. Dd got a text to say the rabbit has escaped after dh fixed it. He never mentioned he had been round to fix it. I would of expected a text saying he was going to do it or even him to mention he had been to do it or a picture of it as I love animals
So I have been a bit niggly all week oh my jobs will have to wait as u are to busy
Well fast forward to last night and she starts texting her at 11.30 when we were in bed I was giving him a cuddle with the possibility of it leading to more but no he jumps up and starts texting her back. It was to do with horses but doesn't involve our arrangement or us plus she has a partner she can discuss things with
So I ve had paddy accused him of all sorts and attempted to sleep on the sofa last night. I am over thinking everything driving myself crazy and am forcing myself not to text her to say stuff the arrangement I will put our horse out and stop texting dh which of course I will regret on cold winter mornings. Someone give me a slap and tell me to stop being so daft

[EmeraldIsle100]

Great news OP. Maybe this was the wake up call that your marriage needed and the start of real communication between you. Best of luck.

[FatOldBag]

I really hope things get better for you OP.

[ohdearme1958]

Here's to your happy ending Alfiemoon

[Alfiemoon1]

Had a bit of a wobble today the whole point to the horse arrangement Is that dh won't need to go in the morning after work but as I was working late and my sister was taking dd to bring the horse in he went to muck out etc I knew v would be there and he seemed a long time so I got stressed he doesn't have a set time finishing work as he's a lorry driver but apparently he went did the jobs spoke to v then came home we chatted did the kids pumpkin together then had a quickie before I went to work sorry tmi but I feel more up for being intimate as he's being more attentive. Will he still be chatty and attentive now he's had sex I guess I will find out over the next few days. It's weird for me dtd in the middle of the day I have housework to do but for him working nights it's bed time lol. Hoping we can work things out because the last week has been horrendous

[Alfiemoon1]

Well it's all kicking off again sorry to bore u but our arrangement with v is she puts the horses out in the morning as dd at school we bring in in the evening simple a like for like arrangement except dh has agreed we will do all of it at the weekend I work Saturday he works permanent nights dd doing her GCSE this year and also wants to spend time with her friends we have another lady at the yard who will bring our horse in but not v horse as she kicks anyone will bring ours in but nobody will bring v horse in. Dd not happy iam not happy so he's saying he will go just to bring v horse in even if he's working that is just mad. I said before they started talking about arrangements I wasn't being landed with every weekend as that happened at our previous yard but I've been ignored and now dd is annoyed with him as well. Told him to sort it out or I will text her its either we do every other weekend for each other or just Monday to Friday arrangement and sort our own horses at the weekend gggrrr

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

I'm sorry you are having a dofficult time.

Not dure what else to say though as it's nithing you'd like to hear!

[Happybunny19]

I think your main problem is the horse, not v or your husband. It's clearly too much to manage so why are you continuing to struggle and actually put your marriage at risk. It's crazy!