Crying

[pinkpixie83]

My silly boyfriend has flown off on holiday today without me.

Over two years together, no discussion and off he goes. We haven't even had as much as a weekend away together.

But it's ok because is parents booked and paid for it. So why should I be considered after two and a half years!

But if she was annoyed that he was going when he told her a month ago, then she should have finished it then. Not waited until the day he leaves on a family holiday. That just smacks of childish teenage behaviour.

Anyway, this relationship is not a good one, the two of them hardly speak. So best it's over.

Behaviour like that - waiting til he's away having a nice time (with his little girl, by the way, whose good time seems not to register on your list of priorities) to enforce consequences on him for doing something without you - is reminiscent of an EA boyfriend I had when I was younger. Chucking him by text on the first night of his holiday after two years? Nah. That's not on. If a woman posted on here saying her fella was cracking in like that everyone would say to get himself felt and rightly so.

I'd be interested to know why you kicked off about this last year too. You had been together only a year then, so it would be normal for you to not have had a joint holiday at that early stage.
Why were you hurt and upset about it last year?

If my boyfriend of a year took the hump because my parents paid for me and my child to go on holiday with them, I'd be hearing alarm bells.

I am hearing them now. Even if others don't agree.

Pink's upset is largely based on him not wanting to ever go abroad with her, their combined families, or even for a weekend away together. Why on earth this is not being acknowledged by some is beyond me (bangs head against screen).

Anyway, she's come here because she's clearly very upset, and WHATEVER everyone's opinions are on this, some of you giving her a good kicking when she's down is way below the belt.

No one has been rude or harsh here. If you don't want to know, don't ask.

It's quite common for you to ignore certain posts.

No it's not. I just have a different take on it from you, that's all.

I wasn't aiming the kicking at you.
Yes, we do have strong different opinions, and that's fine by me, it's what it's for.
Just feel it's not on people giving someone looking for advice a bit of a kicking - I am not the only one who acknowledged it.

It's fine for him to have a holiday with just his daughter and parents. Very odd that he didn't tell you it was happening till last minute.

How are his finances op? Does he have debts? Do you live together? Did his parents pay for the holiday? Have you met his daughter? How well behaved are your kids? Does he like your kids? What reasons does he give for not going? How committed is he day to day?

Lots of my friends have holidays without partners. I do about 4 weekend breaks without my partner annually.

I do get why you're upset op.

You have had to see him getting excited about a holiday with his daughter and parents, when he won't discuss or plan even a weekend away with you.

I expect that you also feel a bit jealous of the holiday itself if you haven't managed to get away this year.

But I don't think he's done anything wrong in accepting a free holiday with his daughter, and you were told about it a month ago.

Wrong to break up with him by text on the first day of his holiday too. What did you say you 'couldn't forgive him for'? Accepting the holiday? Not inviting you? Only giving you a month's notice? You don't live together, so all a bit unreasonable IMO. Maybe you wanted your text to prompt an apology or promise to take you on holiday? Has he replied? Have to say, I wouldn't have replied.

Move on. Plan a little break for yourself & your DC.

Pink, you have children.

Practically speaking, were you hoping that you and your children could join the holiday?

You've looked in to weekends away and trips to do as a family, but he's never wanted to do them. Why on earth don't you do these things for your children? Even if it means going alone.

I'm a single mum. It's kind of liberating to do stuff with your children entirely on your own terms and agenda. Go for it!

And as for the texting on holiday and tears, you need to draw a line under that. Easier said than done, but you're a parent. He isn't a priority. Pls try not to spoil your children's half term by mooching around. The activities you wanted to do as a family, with him, well, do them without him!!