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Can't drive and I feel awful :(

106 replies

Pinklady0888 · 02/10/2016 07:48

Looking for some advice.

I'm almost 30. I had about 140 driving + hours when I was 19 and then gave it up as decided i didn't think it was for me!! I have always struggled since being a kid with practical / coordination skills.

After this I went on to get a degree, a high paid job and bought my own house near work and didnt need to drive.

My boyfriend bought a house too after a year of us being together as he felt it was too soon to live together. It is lovely but about 50 mins away from work by public transport. At the time I was sad he hadn't chose to live with me.

Our relationship did progress and we decided we would live together and I would give driving another go. I'm 6 months in and whilst I have made progress I honestly don't think I have what it takes.

I'm really worried that people will judge me if I give up and that I haven't tried hard enough but I really really have. I can do many things but driving isn't one.

On to the problem. We decided I would move in with him, as I would get a car but I don't think this will happen. His house is better than mine.

I will therefore need a lift to work and will get myself back. I feel so so sad that I will limit our relationship by not driving and feel shitty that I cannot do what most people can.

I know people will tell me not to give up, but after 2.5 years of lessons surely I know now and have tried hard?

Any advice or reassurance?

OP posts:
Yambabe · 19/02/2017 21:37

Gah, ignore me, I totally skimmed over the post where you passed! Congrats! Grin

IonaNE · 19/02/2017 21:39

I have only read the first page, but OP, I would keep at it. For one thing, why are you learning during term-time when you're a teacher putting in 10-hr days? Learn during the summer holidays and have a lesson every day.

The other thing is that yes, you like public transport, great. What will happen when you'll have kids, you need to take them to school; if you need to drive anyone (kids or husband) to A&E? If the family drives anywhere and you and your husband can't share the drive? How will you do the family shop for yourselves and 2 kids if he for some reason can't drive for a month? Will you bring it home in two shopping bags on public transport along with your school stuff and a toddler in a buggy?

Etc. Driving is not rocket science. Ask your instructor to practise more on dual carriageways and big roundabouts, and have lessons every single day.

memyselfandaye · 19/02/2017 21:39

Well done you Flowers

IonaNE · 19/02/2017 21:41

Just seen that you've passed. Congrats! Smile

Pinklady0888 · 19/02/2017 21:58

Thank you so much everyone 😬😬

OP posts:
TheStoic · 20/02/2017 00:48

That's a fantastic achievement, OP - you should rightfully be extremely proud of yourself!

Not just for being able to drive, but for overcoming your fear and doing it anyway.

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