After 10 years in a horrible relationship, I finally found the courage to leave. My Ex was abusive and did he best to keep me down. During the 10 years together, I often met lovely men I would befriend, but nothing would ever happen as I was loyal to my DP at the time. All of these friendships fizzled out as the men wanted a relationship rather than a friendship.
Very soon after I left my DP, I met a man who was very different to any man I had/have ever met. We instantly clicked and I foresaw a good friendship. He was/is in a relationship so I never entertained or thought about being with him. I just did not see him in that way. Because of this, I would often chase him down to meet socially (as a friend), but he would almost always decline. I felt nothing of it.
A few months into our very distant friendship (he rarely agreed to see me alone socially), we ended up at my place (after I had literally begged him to allow me to join him and his friends for dinner). I was extremely drunk, he was sober. Because of the alcohol, I was feeling quite frisky.
While at my place, he said he wanted to be with me and wanted to do things properly (wait till we are together before being intimate). I wanted fun. Because of this, he ended up leaving my house and we stopped talking, given we wanted different things.
Fast forward 1 year and I still think about him. I happened to run into him in town and we got talking again. Agreed to meet socially. And here we go again - he seems reluctant to actually physically meet. He sometimes proactively reaches out and tries to set time up, but he never seems to be able to see it through to the end.
If someone told me the above, i'd tell them to move on - he is not interested. But given I genuinely believe this man to be my soul mate, what do I do?