Daughter has turned into a little shit, since starting Uni

[HuskyLover1]

I am so upset. And fucking bewildered actually. My DD started Uni recently (well they are still on Freshers), in a city about 2.5 hours from me. She's the last child to go, so it's not me being PFB or anything!!

We have had a very emotional year (on her part), as her offer was conditional and we didn't know until 9th August if she had a place. One subject was crucial for her to pass, and she was struggling, so I found a private tutor and she had tuition for 6 months every Sunday morning (bloody early), so it was quite demanding.

I bought absolutely everything she needed for her flat, and I moved her in last week. I don't earn a lot, but I paid for it all. Her Dad (who earns £130k per year contributed zero and did not help with the move).

Prior to moving in we got on really well. I probably spoiled her, tbh.

Well, now she is there, she's turned in to a bloody cow! I am totally perplexed. I have only spoken to her twice in this first week and her attitude was very much along the lines of "what do you want". She called me tonight to tell me that she has broken her Iphone 6 screen, and given that I had her on the phone, I asked how things were going and she was so rude and dismissive of me. For eg: Me: how are you. Her: "Fine why do you want to know, I don't have time to talk to you".

Bloody horrible. I was going to drive up and see her later this month, treat her to lunch and take her shopping. Don't think I'm going to go now :-(

I always considered my daughter to be my best friend but I am getting upset because she won't add me on FB. ( I admit to being a bit of a snooper, so I suppose it's my own fault.) Probably more upset because she is FB friend with her best friends mum and even some of my friends. Last week, I actually felt more 'grief' than when I lost my Mum a couple of years ago. My heart ached, literally. I had been crying all week leading up until she left on Saturday 17th, ironing her clothes to pack was tough!!! I never felt like this when my son left for uni years ago, I think it's because my daughter is quite petite and without makeup on, she looks about 14. It's hard for me to relate to her being an independent young woman. (And my big problem was we had had lots of issues financially as my husband is self employed and that had dragged on for years since the crash of 2008. Plus we had become embroiled in a very, very expensive court case. The stress had a huge impact on our family. We felt we had let her down, even though we had done nothing wrong intentionally. We felt so guilty because her childhood wasn't as happy as it should have been. And you can't bring those years back.)
When we said goodbye and I said 'I love you', she just hugged me, I so wanted to hear her say 'I love you' back but she was probably putting on a brave face for me. As she walked away her dad and I got in the car to leave, a van drove past blocking our view and then she had gone. There was no final wave, nothing. I'm not sure if she even looked back.......driving home seemed like a surreal nightmare. BUT, after ringing her and having a 2 minute conversation yesterday I felt so much better. I don't think you can expect much for the first couple of weeks, just the odd line here and there. As much as we want to hear everything about their new adventure. Thankfully she is only two hours away and her dad is insisting we visit every month, if only to go and have a pizza for an hour, just to catch up.