Dry 15

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For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people :)

Don't think about the week. Take it by the day, hour or minute. Don't drink for NOW and forget tomorrow or next week or next month etc.

I would say that the most important thing at this stage is self care. Do as little as possible. Eat as well as you can but if you crave sugar just go with it. Early nights if you can, warm baths, sober blogs, anything which makes you feel better. Just don't drink. And plan, plan, plan. Think about how you are going to get through those triggery times - 4.30-7.30 for me. Change your routine, post here, whatever helps. Have you got any support IRL ?

^^ yes to all of the above! I've been reading Hip Sobriety recently. Really good blog.
Hot water bottle, blanket, Sunday paper colour supplements and nice chai tea this evening. DH cooked a lovely roast and apple pie. Feeling ok. Day 79.

Welcome mn. Three months is brilliant. You can do it again. How has today been? Have you planned what you are going to do while your DH is away. For me that was also a major time to drink. There was no one to see what I was doing, I was lonely, tired and bored - not a good mix... x

I have been talking to dh. He understands he's got to listen to me.

I'm passed my trigger time for this evening. Had a bath and in pyjamas so can't go out. I'm now eating left over roast potatoes and drinking fizzy pop.

Welcome newcomers - I'd suggest to get fully stuck into The Crown on Netflix, I am really enjoying it.

It's a funny old time..as December draws closer, I can feel myself getting more nervous.. and it dawned on me today, it's because it's going to be my first dry Christmas for a long time.... anyone else in the same boat? No pre dinner champagne, white wine first course onto red wine then port then god knows how many beers.. never mind I'll actually be with fairly light drinkers, so thats positive (except my husband).

I felt amazing for those 3 months vxa. My mh was the best it's ever been, lost loads of weight, hit the gym hard. Then that one glass of wine on holiday ruined it!

I have not drunk today and that's as much as any of us can hope for.

I know I can never be a moderate drinker. I just don't have an off switch. So I have to quit and not take the 1st drink.

My plan while my husbands away is to watch something on Netflix he wouldn't enjoy (the queen as recommended) and I may even remember what I watch! Take baths. I could get my crochet out, though our puppy likes to unravel the wool. Get to bed early. Trigger time is between 5&7 pm so need to focus on something then. I can actually engage with my kids perhaps!!

I am nervous but am determined not to give in to the craving while dh is away.

Will pop back in if I am struggling though.

Forgot to say today has been good. Clearing out the booze was cathartic. Dug out my old aa books. Went for a long walk, roast dinner. A good day to start

misscookie first sober one for me too, I've also split with DW. Nervous about it but determined to be sober.

Hello All!!

May I join again? Hopefully this time I'll do better than 7 days 😞.

They do those adult colouring in books in pound land. Maybe I'll get some of those...

Welcome Back BFB

Yes to fears about Christmas! First sober birthday and christmas coming up - and first single one too...

But I'm trying not to think that far ahead when it comes to drinking. Today I'm sober

x

Jojo - thinking of you today. You can get through this (and all the days to come)

I hope the funeral is a good celebration of his life, and you feel supported by the people that attend.

Take care my lovely

Hi BFB welcome back!

• in the exact same - birthday tomorrow- split with dw and son is with her so will be strange to see what way dw ignores handles it.

Dsd is in London, and has never asked for new address so not expecting anything from there.

Always thought birthdays were shit anyway - no different this year! Although will be happy I'm sober.

Thanks for the welcome back, it is much appreciated.

USERFORMALLY, happy birthday for tomorrow!

Day 2.

Last night I slept surprisingly well. Took myself off to bed at midnight; I couldn't get up this morning. Dh got the kids ready for school.

But a productive day ahead which I'm facing sober and rested.

I've also got a couple of hours free this afternoon and I'm going to look back at the old threads and read some of your stories. So forgive me if I come across as self absorbed.

who not sure where you are but think about going to an AA meeting, there's no pressure there and you might get something out of it, if it's not for you just don't go back!

Hi I've looked at my local aa meetings and they are not doable with my work and family commitments.

I'll give it this week alone and if I struggle then I'm going to see the gp and see if I can access any nhs support.

Welcome back BFB.
who have a look at SMART recovery. They might have a meeting that fits in. Also you should be able to self refer to your local drugs and alcohol service, Google it and it be listed. I am in Birmingham and they have been great. X

My first sober Christmas too. I am feeling ok about it. I don't really like Christmas but I think some of that was down to worrying about drinking.

Waves to everyone else.

Thinking of you Jojo.

Thanks you vxa.

SMART recovery looks positive. I'll give them a ring tomorrow, my only fear is with the meeting being 3 miles from home that there will be someone I know there.

Sounds funny but I've been good at hiding I'm a drinker. I often don't drink at events, I'll happily be the designated driver. I do most of my drinking at home.

AnyHow I made a breakthrough today. This is the week for various reasons I buy the Christmas alcohol. I've been into the supermarket today and bought just food and soft drinks. Normally I'd have bought at least 6 bottles of wine, baileys, a case of cider, bitter and lager, some spirits and a bit of fizz. By Christmas day most of it would be gone.

My Christmas drinking would last most of December with maube 1 sober day.

Hi all, had my first sober family event yesterday. It nearly went wrong - I asked for a glass of wine (why???) but then smelled it and it smelt horrible so I didn't drink it. Was really proud of myself. Slept well for the first time too (over a week for me!). Hi everyone. Off to cook tea

We are well into my trigger time now so I have been keeping busy doing homework with the kids (nice to get it out the way early), cooking dinner and pottering with a cup of tea. Day 2 almost done!

Who, I know what you mean about hiding it. I often drive or stay dry on a night out. All my problem drinking is done at home alone! I guess no one would know I have a problem either!

Welcome BFB I’ve always quite fancied the adult colouring in books
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