Dry 15

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For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people :)

Morning all, finnish, vxa and everyone, thank-you again for thinking of me. I think about this thread in the wee, cold hours of the morning at the moment and it does give me strength. The funeral did go well yesterday - I managed to say what I wanted to at the service which I'm glad about. My mum got through it which has been in doubt all week and I'm grateful for that too. She is in crisis now though and I think it will end in hospital. I've been listening to her in pain for the last hour and thinking about the fact that my brother has to leave today and I have to go on Thursday. She just said that he and I need to have a 'case conference' about what to do - mentioning people that she hopes can stay with her overnight. But they can't and it's breaking my heart. Have made myself a coffee, come on here and am listening to the clock tick. Must stay calm.

Hugs jojo. You are doing so well.

The time after a funeral can be very daunting, especially when being left alone for the first time. I feel sorry for your mum but it's one of those things that needs to be done, she can't hand you all there 24/7

Hugs jojo

It's so good that you managed to speak at the funeral, that will be something to hold onto in the days to come.

Are you getting any support from social services with your mum? You can ask for a care assessment, they may be able to provide some level of care to help to keep her out of hospital...

Thinking of you...

Happy birthday user - what sober treats do you have lined up for yourself today?

Thanks finnish nothing spectacular planned, going out for lunch with a girl from work, not for bday but just happened to fall on it when looked at the date.

Mate has asked if I want to go see a show in the local theatre if there is one on so that's a possibility- if it I'll prob just fall back to the old faithful if an AA meeting.

Not even do much as a text from DW to say happy birthday though. DS (10) didn't even know in Sunday my bed was coming up. More chance of dsd wishing Hitler Happy bd

Bd not bed was coming up

Letting u guys know I'm still watching thread just to keep me on track!
I hate the fact that I do so well then slip again. I plan on having a alcohol free life dp has said yet again he doesn't want to drink any more.... I told him he keeps on initiating it and then I cave in. I shouldn't pass the book tho!
Thinking of you jojo! X

Welcome newcomers :) (blimey feels odd saying that! I am hardly an old timer myself!)

Jojo - everything is so raw for your mum at the moment bless her but yes you are going to have to rip that plaster at some point as you can't be there 24/7 for her I am sure.

Thinking of you as this is going to be long haul my love X

Hello everyone and total unmumsnetty hugs for a tone having a tough time.

Day 3 now, on an early shift. Roll on 2 o'clock, my sleep last night was rubbish and I've got a banging headache. Hoping I get through tonight and start to feel better.

I really do recommend lots of treats - it is hard for us to stop drinking. Yes normies can do it easily ( and often they don't understand why we have a problem doing the same) - we can't do it easily and that is why we have an issue with alcohol!
So we need motivation to stop drinking, and lots and lots of sober treats is a good one. Reward ourselves for doing well rather than beating ourselves up for not being able to do something we think is easy because the normies can do it. Its not easy, it really really is not easy FOR US. So when we do stop - we need to feel very proud of our achievement and reward ourselves.
I just had a cuddle with a cat while sitting down with a nice cup of coffee - that is a sober treat :)

I got through my shift. Ended up in tears halfway through as someone was just vile towards me.

I've ate a nice healthy lunch, and had a nap. Just got to get through this evening. Normally I'd have wine and read while dh has a beer with the football.

I don't feel any better that eating well and no alcohol has meant I've put on weight this week.

Prob residual from before you stopped drinking, but no matter what I would stay away from the booze, booze will cause a lot more damage than fat will.

Re the person who was vile.....their attitudesays a lot more about them than they could say about you.

User, I know you're right a few pounds won't hurt as much.

The "d"h has had enough of me being miserable after 3 days. I've got to buck my ideas up and stop mithering to him.

who no - he has got to buck his ideas up and be kinder to you! You are doing a hard thing and you need support and empathy :)

I remember when drinking that I thought there was never anything else to do but drink...he might feel the same, but get up and get out there when he's drinking and being a dick, go for coffee, go to the cinema (yes alone), go for walks in the woods...the. Let him know how much Orla of a mothering DICK he is sat in front of the TV

Of a - not Orla

Who - I "bet" you haven't put on weight at all. More likely you are hydrated and all the time you are drinking you are dehydrated. Whenever I stop drinking I go up a couple of pounds and stay like that and if and when I used to go back to drinking after a period of time off, the next day I would always be a few pounds lighter due to be dehydrated again.

It is not fat!

Aaarrrrrgggghhh. Had planned to go to a AA meeting tonight, DW said bringing son over because it's my birthday (more for him to celebrate than me).

They haven't arrived, can't let DS down but now going to miss meeting. What the fuckity fuck? - not going to get to a meeting the rest of the week either as DS is staying over until Monday.

Thanks for the words of wisdom. I left h downstairs watching football, I went and tried to clear a cupboard out upstairs and had a shower.

Day 3 complete and all I've drank is posh squash and fizzy water. Now to bed for another early tomorrow.

I hope you had a nice evening with your son, user Did you have a nice time with your lunch yesterday too?

well done on day 3 Who - day 3 is one of the hardest, I think!

Hi Sober - How are things with you at the moment?

Waves at Choc - you know that this thread is here, and you can post and get support

Hey lou

I've foolishly booked a big party out thing for my birthday - with another person who shares a birthday and is a massive drinker. Am feeling really wobbly about it - most of the time I'm feeling confident that I can have a really great time sober - but there is a bit of my that is very fearful!

Thanks Finnish, yeah, it was a quiet evening, lunch was good too, treading very carefully though.

Re your party thing, just take it easy and if you are uncomfortable step away from it. It's victories like that that make us stronger.

Hi all,

I'd like to join you if that's ok? I realised today that I have drunk 33 units in the last 7 days :( This was after a 4 day break which I took because I drank 20 units in one night and felt horrendous the next day. In 2014 I stopped drinking for a year because I was concerned about how much I was drinking every evening and now I am back where I started. I'm bored with my life and stressed and have been using drinking as a crutch. Clearly it wasn't a good idea because I look and feel like crap. I'm 4.5 stone overweight, tired all the time and a bit depressed. I just tipped the rest of my vodka bottle down the sink after realising how bad I am getting :(

Titsywoo. WelcOne as a fellow newbie your reasons are the same as mine. But no time like the present to start.

Well day 4 is nearly done. I feel so much better than yesterday. I slept a little better and have been less irritable. The whites of my eyes are starting to look clearer and my skin has a pinky tinge that I've not seen for ages.

So I'll raise my ginger ale and lime to day 4.

Hi everyone- can I rejoin. I did nearly 4 months sober over the summer- felt great, got lots of support on here.

I also did a lot of running- ended up tripping during a race and broke my foot! So I was laid up, felt down and started drinking again. No disasters but hate the anxious feeling I get the next day.

For me now being sober made me happier, healthier and more productive. So I want that back. So now I'm day 4.