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For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people :)

My mum?? Ha ha makes me laugh she loves him when I do bit when she sees me upset she like a women on a mission!
She always says sees my point of view bit is that what all mums do?
I left a drunk person downstairs and think wtf when I look at him!
Tonight he kept telling me that e loves me ect I really wna believe it.

Thank u user y make me smile x

180 days!!! Am very proud.

Hugs choc. I would say, if you want to moderate, and think its ok to drink every now and then, join the brave babes. If you are still committed to try to not drink, you should stay here.

I can't imagine how tricky this is to do with a partner who begs you to cave in and drink. You have shown remarkable strength to get as far as you have in the circumstances.

New day, New Sober Start, who's with me, what's the plans for a sober day today????

I am just about to get out of bed, and make a coffee, ds still asleep - I have borrowed a leaf blower so clean up round the property.

Cinema with DS and couple of friends at 11:30am. DS has a party at 4.

Dinner then movie at home.

All alcohol free!!!!!!!!

finnish congratulations!! 180 days is brilliant - I remember when you first joined. That six months has crept up really quietly. Be very very proud.

180 days finnish wowers, really well done :) :)

Have a good weekend one and all!

Finnish. Well done, that's fantastic! I'm glad you're enjoying choir too, I find choir very liberating and made lots of new friends, but we have no leader at the moment and it's too far for me to go to a different one . Tried and didn't get on with yoga, but I have taken to knitting and crochet thanks to YouTube. Keeps me occupied in the evenings as there's not much on tv. Just made my first proper thing, a crochet poppy. It's a bit wonky but I say it's rustic ! How are you doing Gotta ? ....I think we started about the same time so I hope you feel like I do, better at being sober. Hope everyone's having a peaceful, sober weekend.

Massive well done finnish you were a big support in to me the early days.

KOKO and on and on.....

Well done finnish only seemed like yesterday you joined the thread!

Thanks everyone! I agree, although there were a few times when every minute lasting for hours, the 6 months have zoomed past. When I first started to read these threads (for an embarrasingly long time before I actually tried, lol) I never thought I'd be able to do it!

lizzy - thank you for saying that, it's lovely and made me happy.

I can't believe how far I've got, and I know I couldn't have done it without this thread (s), and the suport I got here.

We're all amazing

KOKO!!

finnish I owe you an apology for not congratulating you. Well done, I'm 4 months behind you but hope to never catch you.

Hi everyone. I have been lurking around these boards for some time. And have made the decision to stop drinking today. Any advice and support is welcome!

I gave up for 3 months earlier this year and started again on holiday with just the one! Back now down the slippery slope. Am in therapy (I have bipolar) to stop drinking and have been trying to increase alcohol free days and reduce the amount I drink. But in the last two weeks moderation has gone to the wall and I am drinking more than ever. Yesterday I drank from 3:30 pm until I passed out. Woke up in the early hours feeling like the biggest failure and a hopeless wife and mum but I am now done!

Have spent the morning packing all the booze up for my husband to dispose of somewhere and plan to take it one day at a time.

Tomorrow will be challenging as DHworking away until Wednesday and that's my biggest trigger- being bored and lonely- any tips to get through?

Thanks for reading if you made it to the end of this essay!

Can I join.

Once again I've embarrassed myself, have memory loss and passed out drunk on a night.

I need to get sober, I need to be the person I was a couple of years ago.

Hi Mn and Whoami

MN - there are lots of blogs to get through the first few weeks - my majorist tip is to not stint on the sugar in the early days. I think when I've tried to give up before it's been on a total healthkick way - it's stuck this time because I let myself smoke when I needed to, eat sugar/drink coke etc etc. I totally focussed on sobriety in my early days - the other aspects of self-care/healthyness have come in as I've grown more secure in my sobriety.

And Herbal Tea - Buy a lot. Making a cup of tea when you really want wine distracts you from the wine craving (I think the getting up and making it more than the drinking it!)

I obsessively read blogs in the early days too...

Hah user that took me a while to work out (it is sunday!) but thanks.

Hi folks,

Getting sober and stopping drinking is easy,, it's one of the most natural things to do.

The big problem is staying sober and living sober (and happy) mnaaddict you have already learnt a valuable lesson, that one drink will set you back down the road....and the other lesson is one day at a time.

I'm not religious but every day I say the serenity prayer used by AA (it may be something you both want to think about in relation to getting sober)

The trick is saying to yourself that you aren't going to drink TODAY or for the next 6 hours or minutes etc. - if you think of it you are halfway through the day already.

I hate to tell you but the first 3 or 4 days are the worst. (Also be careful if you have been drinking for a long time not to do withdraw on your own) but the bad times will pass.

Keep in this site and post at anytime, there is usually someone to give some advice.

The other thing is - don't lift the first drink and you won't lift the 3rd or the 4th

Thanks user and Finnish.

I will keep checking in on here to keep me going

No excuse of a hangover though this Sun Finnish

Hi patchwork I'm ok. Going AD does make me feel much better physically and mentally. But it's like taking off rose tinted spectacles relationship wise. Working through various issues with DH which are quite deep seated so no magic answers.
user I asked my mum, aibu to expect DH to get up before 8.15am 3 days a week to help get children ready for school. He works from home these days and I look after 3 year old. 2 days a week I work long days and we take one child each to nursery/ childminder. weekends we are all together. I don't like the way he stays in bed until 8.15 wheilst I'm up at 6.15 to shower, get ready, get kids dressed, breakfasted and teeth brushed, meds given etc and clear away kitchen, unstack dishwasher etc whilst he is in bed. I find getting them out quite hard as 3 y o isn't doing too well with potty training. He accuses me of being too stressed but won't help.

Yesterday I went to a food festival thing. It was great, lots of nibbles of lovely food, went with friends. There was so much free alcohol though! I didn't have any but I did sniff some and pour for friends. Wasn't tempted at all!

I am just checking in, nothing major to report. 13 AF days. Skin looks much better now after the initial breakout. No more shakes.

It's been a lot easier than I thought it would, considering I hadn't had an AF day for, well, years probably

I had lunch with a friend yesterday and neither of us drank. I know if I had suggested a drink, she would too. It's amazing how powerful that peer pressure is. I am wondering how I will navigate my way through Christmas, but keeping it to one day at a time, and just focusing on that.

Definitely losing weight too...........

Hi thanks for the tips.

I've spent the day making up for waking the kids and behaving appallingly last night.

I'm not going to get rid of the little bit in a wine box that I have drank this weekend. I feel that if I'm desperate that one glass is better than going to the shop and buying a whole bottle.

But AF today, going to have a bath in a bit. Going to take some magazines and books up to the bedroom and have a snuggly evening in bed. Rather than sitting on the sofa mindlessly sipping wine in front of the TV

Welcome who . I would say if your intention is to stop drinking, chuck that last bit in the wine box away. If you get desperate post here, have a bath, read sober blogs, watch rubbish tv, go for a walk but don't drink. Keeping that bit just gives you easy access to a drink and if you are anything like me, it wouldn't take much to decide to drink it. Obviously it's up to you but that's what I would suggest.

who I'm with vxa on this one. It almost sounds as if you are holding onto that bit of wine and planning to drink it in the future?

Re above - I said don't take the first drink and you can't take the 4th/5th/10th or 100th. You are making the first drink easy to get at, then after that it will be "sod it ive had one I might as well have more "until.....

The other way to think is that if you have to go to the shop for a bottle etc your thinking might change on the way there!

Thanks. I'm going to freeze the rest of the wine and it can be used for cooking.

I know in my heart I can't drink again. I know I can never have a just one glass relationship with drink.

I'm a little apprehensive of how I'm going to feel physically this week. I've probably not had a sober month since 2007. But then I was a shared bottle maybe twice a week drinker.

At the moment I'm a 3 large glasses a night when I'm not working a morning shift the day after and more on Saturday, up to 6 large glasses. I just don't have the inbuilt stop button.

who how much wine is there? Is it really worth keeping? Would you risk a month of being sober for that glass of wine you have left?