Dry 15

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For all those sober, or would be sober, warriors. KOKO (keep on keeping on) lovely people :)

Ours isn't hidden tho,but do want to hide it as everyone gets involved!
People in his family have told me they don't know why I put up with it then turned there back when we split.
My lb keeps drawing me cards and singing to me lol bless him. I told him I'm just tied but he must know.. Going to get myself sorted and take him playgroup.
Sorry for ranting!

If members of his family are going to turn their back when needed, do you really want/need them?

User - regarding putting another drink in a wine glass or having a becks blue etc. Yes I have heard the same and I would probably agree in general terms, however for me it has been one of the only reasons I have got up to day 58 this time.

It is a difficult one as with smoking it is widely acceptable to use a nicotine supplement but I personally really didn't want to go down that route. Although I did use a tablet prescribed from the doctor to get me off the cigarettes I was absolutely adamant I didn't want to continue to be addicted to nicotine in another form as I knew I would end up going back to the cigarettes at some point.

The difference with this though is that the becks blue or whatever you use to help you through does not contain alcohol so it's slightly different - well in my view anyway .

I have more of an issue with the advice that is trotted out that people should eat loads of sugar/sweets etc to curb cravings. I am positive that a lot of people addicted to alcohol are actually addicted to sugar and by eating loads of sweets/sugary things and drinks as a replacement is actually going to make things harder in the long run. I would rather have a becks blue than a big sugary drink!

Each to their own though and whatever works for the individual

I put schloer in a wine glass or tonic in a nice tumbler I used to use for him. It doesn't feel triggery personally. I consider myself a non drinker now

For gin not for him!

Cravings kicking in guys!
Stressed is a understatement!

Why stressed choco, anything we can help with or same as before?

Choco - sorry only just see this, why stressed?

Why do you think the cravings kicked in so early in the day?

Choc for you, stay strong and look after yourself.

I didn't drink! Just cried and cried! Had horrible row with dp.

Today's a new day let's see what this brings! X

Well done choc that is a huge achievement !

Hi Choc, well done- when stressed or annoyed Is the time most likely to lift a drink or as I've heard before HALT hungry, angry, lonely or tired.

Kudos on not lifting the drink. It will make you feel stronger moving forward. Posting on here (no matter if no one is on) also helps.

Well done Choc! These little victories are amazing and proves how strong we can be.

It would have been so easy to have slipped up yesterday. All power to you girl!

If you are reading Jojo, hope all is okay.

Wishing everyone else a calm and peaceful weekend X

Hello all, thank-you lou and vxa and finnish and anyone I have forgotten. I am struggling on - still sober - but this week has been horrific. My mother is very frail and I thought we'd lose her too at one point, she has rallied a bit but is very weak and distressed.

The worry over her future is actually worse than the grief for my Dad at the moment - or perhaps it's just that her problems are more immediate and I've put the grief aside to try and deal with what to do. She has agreed to come to me over the winter but we have a lot of decisions to make about the longer term.

I have flown home (my parents house is a 9 hour drive from me) and am driving back up with dh and my children tomorrow. Funeral is on Monday.

I feel much better at home and able to cope - I was losing my mind on Tuesday with anxiety and panic attacks. Priority now is to get back there and get through Monday. Thank-you all for thinking of me, it does help. x

jojo I don't know what to say other than we are here to listen. You're going through such a tough time and sound very strong.

Crap day today. Got a virus and feel apathetic about everything. Luckily DH has been really helpful with school run and I've made dinner so can just go to bed at 7pm. Tomorrow I'm going out with a friend for the day which will be lovely.
Have a good weekend all x

Does anyone do yoga? I'm thinking of trying a class. Would be nice to meet people too. I'm coming to feel that being sober is the norm for me (77 days) and I'm ready to try something new- whilst staying sober of course!

I joined a yoga class! I love it. It's the second best thing that sobriety has given me (after choir)

I even cracked and bought proper yoga kit recently!

Hi everyone! I'm puzzled into what to do, I have caved I have drank a bottle of wine tonight! Shall I leave you bunch and go onto brave I really want to stay alchol free but I always do 3/4 week them cave?

Jojo you should be so proud of ur self! For not drinking well done xxx

Choco, one day at a time works for me. I didn't drink yesterday and I'll not drink in the 1hr 6 mins left today.

Tomorrow is a new day for you, and me, when you get up in the morning just think, "im not going to drink today" if a day is too much break it down to minutes if needs be.

The other thing is just don't lift the first drink, if you don't lift the first drink you can't get drunk!!!!

Im not drunk! I followed suit if u will, that may seem that I'm passing blame.
Dp rang and said u fancy a drink tonight??? I felt pressurd into it and watch him drink a bottle of brandy while I nursed my wine, he noticed I wasn't really drinking! Said just get pissed let ur hair down. He fast asleep now! I'm here feeling mad at myself x

Ps that was me tryna ur a end to our argument. I sound so fucking weak.

Oh my god!feel as if I will rip his head off! Repetition, then being vulgar! Km not enjoying being with a drunk person.

Hugs choc. I think I've completely cocked things up with DH. Argument about him accusing me of being stressed out all the time. I've been ill and came into kitchen noticed milk was spilt and offered to clean it up, he got really shitty saying why can't you relax... if just woken up from a sleep and it just came out, I wasnt accusing him of being messy. anyway big argument. I let slip that is asked my mum for advice ehih he didn't like at all. Ugh. I'm still sober though

Well done u gotta u made me smile my mu came round too!!

gottalove just think how stressed he would be if you were back drinking!!!! What did you ask mum about that he didn't like????

choco see that big stick you took out to beat yourself up with? Put it back in the cupboard and calm down. First thing in the morning start cleaning the house, hoovering works best to annoy someone with a hangover!!! What's mu btw?