thanks guys. I think me and DP will be okay. It's the sort of argument that has brought a lot of home truths to the surface - on both sides. His recent behaviour makes more sense to me now. He's not done anything terrible, neither have I - I just feel very sore and bruised (emotionally, I mean - he never laid a hand on me!) and still very wobbly that I came so close to drinking when I thought I had this under control. I don't think I've had a full picture before of how much he hated my drinking, and what a massive effect it had on his emotional and practical life. I mean, I know it did - but I don't think I've ever felt it before. I've been so happy that I'm getting back on track - and I don't think I've noticed him quietly seething at my 'smugness'. I don't feel smug, but I can see that me being so happy about the benefits while he's still battered from my years of emotional neglect of him and physical dropping out of our lives - would make him angry. I can see that.
I've been doing my absolute best: I'm doing 50% of the housework and supporting him in all the practical ways I can, but I am not sure what else to do to show him that I am sorry and that I want to repair the emotional connection between us.
Still, at least I didn't drink that wine. I think that would have finished us off.
choc that sounds terrible. It's really hard when you're doing something together and he decides he's going to go back to drinking. I suppose he's not in a state to tell you if this is a one off, or he's decided to start again. I'm no expert here, but I think the advice generally is not to enable people or protect them from the consequences of their drinking: which means not showering him, leaving him dirty, leaving him to sort himself out. MUCH easier said than done, especially if you are sharing a house with him.
How are you? Did you get much sleep?
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