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Is honesty the best policy here?

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Applesandpears86 · 26/08/2016 16:14

I'll try to keep this short as possible.

I have been dating someone for coming up to 6 months now. He works away a lot but I am pretty independent so this has never been an issue.

I've started to fall for him in a big way. I know he has feelings for me too but I was confused as to why he wasn't taking the relationship to any new levels (e.g. meeting friends, making medium term plans). A couple of weeks ago I initiated the 'what are we' talking he admitted that he is moving abroad in a couple of months for work (likely 2-3 years).

I didn't think that he wanted to do long distance so I finished things with him. Since we've been back in contact, I saw him yesterday and I think he is pretty gutted about it but has resigned himself to never being able to have a relationship (he moves a lot)?

I have thought a lot about it and I really would like us to give it a go.

Is it worth being honest with him to see what he says or to just leave it and move on?

OP posts:
adora1 · 31/08/2016 15:28

9 times out of 10 your gut is always right, I thought right away he's not interested in a LTR with you, he had a chance to pursue you and never, sorry but it was obviously just sex and nothing else.

When a man or a woman for that matter is so cool about things, it usually means they are just not that into you. We are always learning OP.

Howlongtilldinner · 03/09/2016 07:16

OP..I think HE is the crazy one to let you go...you would've eventually become resentful of your compromising...you WILL recover...promiseFlowers

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