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Do you believe in love at first sight?

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DetentionGrrrl · 27/01/2007 19:58

I fell in love with DP the first time i saw him, and i am still madly in love with him 8 1/2 years later.

Any other MNers had a similar experience, or do you think love at 1st sight is a load of cobblers?

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ScoobyDooooo · 27/01/2007 20:00

I do i fell in love with dp from the day i met him, 2 kids later & 6 years on still very much in love

PeachyClair · 27/01/2007 20:03

Dh believes

I thought he was a nerd LOL

but Yes, it can happen

littlepiggie · 27/01/2007 20:05

I moved from the north west to the south cost after 2 1/2 weeks as dh was starting a new job.

bootsmonkey · 27/01/2007 20:10

DH was love at first sight - moved in after 2 weeks. Still together one DD & 16 years later... Have our moments, but he is still my soul mate.

Aaaaah

Dior · 27/01/2007 20:12

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melpomene · 27/01/2007 20:13

Of course you can be attracted to someone at first sight, but I think that 'love at first sight' is almost a contradiction in terms.

Love is a verb as well as a noun; it's something that you do, over an extended period. Not just something that you feel. Love means supporting the other person through bad times, being able to compromise, knowing them and being aware of their flaws but still loving them.

That doesn't happen the first time you meet. An initial feeling of lust or attraction when 2 people meet may subsequently be followed up and (with luck and nurturing) grow into love, but I don't think you can love someone instantly.

funnypeculiar · 27/01/2007 20:16

I beleive in SOMETHING at first sight - not sure if I'd call it 'real' love ... Defn had this - me & dh can describe exactly what each other was wearing when we met, oh, 16 years ago. God, just counted that, scary. I should point out I was wearing a duffle coat, not anything exciting/memorable, ditto dh

funnypeculiar · 27/01/2007 20:16

and I do think its more than lust, tbh ...

foundintranslation · 27/01/2007 20:19

dh claimed to have fallen in love with me at first sight... he says it wasn't electricity/butterflies etc., but rather just knowing 'I want to spend the rest of my life with this person'.
And me?

I thought 'nice bloke, but utterly unattractive'
He pursued me for 2 months, during which I began to gradually feel more and more for him. The rest, as they say, is history.

Pages · 27/01/2007 20:51

It was definitely mutual attraction the very first time we met and I knew within a couple of weeks I would marry him (we were married a year later). We have always had our moments (lots of them!) but we still have a deep love for each other 8 years on. The things that first attracted us to each other (apart from physical attraction obviously)are still the same things that keep us together - shared dreams and a lot of laughs. There isn't a day that goes by when he doesn't crack me up laughing over something. He also makes me feel very secure.

WideWebWitch · 27/01/2007 20:52

No but I believe in pheromones, dh and I def had some kind of chemical attractiob and still have them going on 7 yrs later.

auntymandy · 27/01/2007 20:55

Love at First sight? maybe..
I think my first H and I fell in love or whatever straight away. ok we seperated but were married for almost 18 years!!!
My DH and I had something, but not sure it was love. I was very flirty with him, despite him being so much younger and it kind of went from that to friends to..well where we are now!

lulumama · 27/01/2007 20:56

yes...met DH, went home, woke my mum and dad up, told them , 'i have met the man i want to marry!'...10 years and 2 weeks later, we are married, have two kid and are in lurve ! most of the time ! LOL!

we got engaged 3 weeks after we met, and i moved in 5 months later, we got married 17 months after we met.

foxtrot · 28/01/2007 09:06

yes, of course

Kbear · 28/01/2007 09:12

I went to infant, junior and secondary school with DH, so not exactly first sight!

BUT when we met again I was 22 I thought "I'm going to marry you" and two years later I did. 15 years this year!

oxocube · 28/01/2007 18:48

Well I did all the 'love at first sight' stuff. Dh and I got engaged within weeks of meeting and married not that long after. We are still married after 15 years but looking back, I think were we were barking. Not that we are are unhappy, but we must have been extremely lucky to have got this far, given the circumstances.

Now, I would say I don't believe in love at first sight but I do think that couples can have a good idea, in a very short space of time, whether they are compatible.

beckybrastraps · 28/01/2007 18:51

My grandparents became engaged the night they met. It was a coup de foudre and they married 3 weeks later. They were happily married for over 50 years.

I didn't even like dh the first time I met him...

Sobernow · 28/01/2007 18:56

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Frizbe · 28/01/2007 19:01

Both dh and I knew we liked each other the 1st time we met, on the 3rd occassion we kissed and now 6 years later we're married with 2 kids

Heathcliffscathy · 28/01/2007 19:01

i believe in total and utter lust at first sight. which if you are extremely lucky can grow into love.

SnafuOutOfHiding · 28/01/2007 19:07

Yes - coup de foudre, exactly. I believe in that. But that's not love

missmapp · 28/01/2007 19:07

DH says has always said he knew he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me after our first datew, he even found a friend up and said 'ive just met the girl im going to marry'! I didnt fall in love at first sight, but over the next few weeks. were coming up to our 8th anniversary so.... so far so good

Heathcliffscathy · 28/01/2007 19:07

after many trails and tribulations it became it for me....[heart, followed by pucking emoticon]

missmapp · 28/01/2007 19:08

Soory i meant phoned a friend - he didnt have to find one first!!

ShowOfHands · 28/01/2007 19:15

The first time I saw DH I knew that something was about to happen- we walked past each other in a corridor, both slowed down, both stared, stopped, stared some more. And this guy was wearing white jeans. Usual behaviour would have been to point and laugh but was very aware that something else was happening. It was a bit like I already knew him but we had never met. Not something I can equate with love though. He describes it the same way and we did very quickly realise that we would be together indefinitely. 8yrs on I am thankful that I walked down that corridor when I did.

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