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Do you believe in love at first sight?

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DetentionGrrrl · 27/01/2007 19:58

I fell in love with DP the first time i saw him, and i am still madly in love with him 8 1/2 years later.

Any other MNers had a similar experience, or do you think love at 1st sight is a load of cobblers?

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beckybrastraps · 28/01/2007 20:07

I'm not saying they weren't lucky Snafu...

My grandma's mum, on reading the letter informing her that her daughter was married (they were stationed in Trinidad at the time), wrote back saying 'I have looked back through all your letters, and I can find mentions of many men, but none of them are called XXX'.

Madoldcatlady · 28/01/2007 20:50

I met DH1 when my I went to a gig with my then boyfriend and my friend. DH to be was sax player with the band.

When I saw him I felt faint, literally. That night we didn't speak as BF was with me, but the next night the band were playing in another town near by so me an friend went to see them again.

I told my friend on the way to the gig that I was going to marry the sax player, even though we'd never spoken. I just new.

To cut a long story short, we met that night Jan 4th 1992 and married 19th December same year. DD was born 2 years later.

There was a video of the first gig I saw him at. A roadie was filming them. On it DH to never takes his eyes off me and his mates give him a ribbing about it. I leant the vid to DHs brother (also a band member) years ago and he lost it! I could cry just thinking about it. You could almost see the sparks!!

taylormama · 28/01/2007 20:51

yes - it was love at first sight for me and DH - my head spun when i saw him - i remember the moment like it was yesterday ... bliss

Heathcliffscathy · 28/01/2007 20:54

oh madcatlady that's a wonderful story.

my friend told me i would fancy dh. and i did. i was at dinner party (at said friends house) and i kept asking for coffee as dh to be was pouring. I CAN'T DRINK COFFEE AFTER ABOUT MIDDAY as i'm completely caffeine intolerant. at one point i went to bathroom downstairs and remember talking to myself in the mirror 'waht do you think you're doing...you're making a tit of yourself'.

just to have his hand nearer mine and his eyes on me as he poured the coffee ffs.

and he gave me a lift home that night. he said it was on the way. hmmmm, dinner was in shepherds bush, my house was wimbledon park, his house was brixton...on the way my arse.

it was sparkmungous.

Madoldcatlady · 28/01/2007 20:54

No, I'm not drunk. All the sps etc in last post are due to feeling all giddy at the memory of our meeting.

Honestly.

Madoldcatlady · 28/01/2007 20:57

It was magic Sophable. I know just what you mean about the hands.

expatinscotland · 28/01/2007 21:00

yes.

it can happen to people.

my grandfather saw my grandmother across a dance hall in 1939 and told his mates, 'that woman in the cherry print dress, she's my wife. she just doesn't know it yet.'

they married a few months later and lived happily together until he died in 1983.

she never remarried.

she died in 1995.

kickassangel · 28/01/2007 21:02

we were friends for a while but a little wary of getting together, although everyone was fed up of us being inseparable - HAD to speak to each other every day, even though we were just good friends! when we finally started going out, we were engaged within a week. we did think we were moving too fast & tried to cool things - we only phoned each other twice in 24 hours before meeting up again. that was 15 years ago & we're still happy.

kickassangel · 28/01/2007 21:03

just remembered how very very sexy his voice was on the phone!

Madoldcatlady · 28/01/2007 21:10

Oh expat! How wonderful!

expatinscotland · 29/01/2007 21:54

They had a beautiful life, Mad.

He was an excellent dancer - haahaa, that's how he won her, he could dance so well. Hey, he was the eldest boy and had 9 sister, so he got lots of practice growing up!

After he died, sometimes she'd dream him, and everytime she did, he'd hold out his hand to her and dance with her.

paulaplumpbottom · 29/01/2007 23:33

I believe it happens to people. I think some people just have an instant connection.

Thats sweet Expat

madamez · 30/01/2007 11:01

Given that, frankly, there are any number of individuals that any given individual could have a perfectly decent time with/marry/breed with, all that's happening is a fortnuate coincidence in that attraction is mutual.
After all, for all the happy stories on here (and I'm not knocking them, good luck to you all) it wouldn't take long to rack up just as many occasions when you (or any MNer) saw a face across a room and wen "oh, you're the love of my life" and the person turned out to be supremely uninterested/psychotic/of the wrong sexual orientation/actually smelled like rotting rubbish when you got close up.

When someone 'falls in love' that doesn't automatically mean that the person they've set their sights on is under any obligation to respond. Stalkers often think that they are their victim's true love and soul mate, after all.
Basically, there's nothing supernatural about "love". It's just a choice you make - this person over that person.

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DetentionGrrrl · 30/01/2007 11:25

Love isn't a 'choice' to me. I felt something electric, i knew my life would go down the wrong path if i didn't see him again...and i was relieved when he turned out to be fabulous!

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blossomhill · 30/01/2007 11:26

Yes I feel for my dh the minute I met him and told him I loved him after a week!
Still really happy 10.5 years later

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DetentionGrrrl · 30/01/2007 11:28

told mine in a week too. He took about 4 weeks, and i can still remember where and how he said it. Still makes me smile too

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OrmIrian · 30/01/2007 11:43

My experience with DH was almost exactly what foundintranslation wrote further down. He felt an instant attraction, I didn't but it grew. I've never ever felt love at first sight - I've felt lust at first sight but not love.

Bugsy2 · 30/01/2007 11:51

No, I don't. I don't see how you can possibly "love" someone on first meeting. I believe you can fall in lust with someone at first sight, but absolutely definitely not love.

Imafairy · 30/01/2007 11:53

Yip - when I first met my DH I KNEW that we would end up getting married.....have been together for nearly 10 years and have 2 DSs

Mumpbump · 30/01/2007 12:13

Didn't really clock dh when I first met him through mutual friends in a pub, but later in the evening, I was very upset (long story) and he came over and was so nice and made me laugh that I literally pricked up my ears, thought fck, there is this really nice bloke and I am blubbing my eyes out sounding like a hysterical twt, pulled myself together and started flirting with him...

So I think on some level (despite being horrendously drunk), I recognised him as a potential long-term interest... We carried on for a drink by ourselves, I bought him a bottle of champagne for his birthday (must have been trying to impress) and then found I'd lost my keys!!! Almost 4.5 years on, one ds, lots of ups and a few downs, still very happy and very much in love!!

bogwobbit · 30/01/2007 12:22

Yep, fell in 'love at first sight' with dh nearly 25 years ago. Still love him madly. Think he still loves me madly too.
Probably jinxed ourselves now and we'll be divorced within the year

Bugsy2 · 30/01/2007 12:51

OK, all you love at first sighters, please explain to me how you can genuinely love someone that you've just met?
I am not being fascetious - I just don't understand it.
To me, love is something that another adult has to show me they are worth. That takes time, trust & understanding. What is taking place for all of you "at first sighters" that I am missing?

expatinscotland · 30/01/2007 12:52

I think it's more of a kismit/connection feeling, Bugsy. Almost like you knew the person before. Or you just know.

It's not happened to me, but it has happened to some close to me, so there you go.

madmarchhare · 30/01/2007 12:55

Mmmm, I cant even remember where/when I first met DH .

lucy5 · 30/01/2007 12:56

I can't say I loved dh when I first met him I was only about 13/14 but I knew I would marry him. Can't explain it, I just did. Infact I told my sister who was with me, when we saw him walking down the road. Weeeeiiiiiirrrd!