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Who has kissed a woman? (Inspired by many recent threads)

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Pome90210 · 24/07/2016 22:11

So, out of curiosity due to quite a few recent threads on the topic, who of those who are in relationships with men have kissed women?

Have just realised at middle age that I never have, but am not opposed to the idea.. what is it like in comparison to men?

admittedly I am quite drunk and have a bit of a crush on a female friend

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OvariesBeforeBrovaries · 26/07/2016 23:49

Some get quite nervous about it once they realise they're actually kissing a girl

I don't mean that in the sense that I have a beard and balls and halfway through the kiss say "Surprise! I'm a lady!", I mean they are drunk and halfway through they come to their senses a bit and think "oh shit I'm straight and I'm getting off with a girl" I'm not that manly

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Bloopbleep · 26/07/2016 23:56

It's interesting so many like the softness of kissing a woman, it's the perception of soft and squishy that has really put me off considering kissing a woman. I like the stubble rash - good exfoliation :-/ - I always felt a bit abnormal for not wanting to 'experiment' as most of my friends are bi/curious.

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horseygeorgie1 · 27/07/2016 00:03

I have kissed a fair few and slept with 2. I had fun and liked it but would consider myself mainly straight with a bit of wiggle room! Very soft and sensitive. Plus I think women's bodies are just so much more beautiful than men's! Men turn me on more but women are more aesthetically pleasing.

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Pome90210 · 27/07/2016 02:40

The 'soft and squishy' bit is a bit confusing, was hugged by said woman a few days ago and am always intrigued at how strong she is. Not at all masculine but is quite muscular/sporty (rugby player, so makes sense) yet still very soft and gentle. I now feign "oh! So upset today slight weep" periodically to get another one I'm going to get found out eventually, and it will serve me right for being a middle aged confused perve. Imagine if I were male with a younger woman (she's 9 years younger), I'd be the office perve

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Pome90210 · 27/07/2016 02:48

Fastdaytears you know I like the sound of that rumour sadly he told the entire firm (we work in the same building) that I threw him out (I did), somehow justifying nailing his 25 year old secretary (he's 42) which he had been blissfully doing for 12 months prior. Lesbian lover makes me sound much more interesting and attractive than the reality of 'middle age mess in Tesco pants'. A bit like on Shirley Valentine where she convinces Gillian she's going abroad for sex (you youngin's won't get the reference!)

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milpool · 27/07/2016 04:33

I had a drunk one night thing with a friend.

I've never been in a relationship with a woman but I've definitely had feelings for them.

OP, if you want to explore your sexuality, a bunch of strangers on the internet telling you about the times they kissed women isn't really going to help you. If you feel like you're attracted to women then don't force it.

And for the love of god stop talking about Katy Perry like she's a good thing.

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HooseRice · 27/07/2016 08:16

Yes, and I liked it.

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sonlypuppyfat · 27/07/2016 08:26

Never have, women don't appeal to me at all

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Surferjet · 27/07/2016 09:03

I must add - men are a 1000x sexier. It's the fact that they are ( usually ) bigger, stronger, more rugged etc, & men's aftershave is always better than any perfume
Kissing a woman was a bit meh.

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TheDuchyOfGrandFenwick · 27/07/2016 09:06

Never, the idea of doing so turns my stomach.

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mammmamia · 27/07/2016 10:17

I have, on a drunken university night out. Too soft for me! I can appreciate women's beauty but not attracted to them at all, and no desire to experiment. Married to DH for 13 years.

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RubbishMantra · 27/07/2016 11:21

Like a PP said, women's bodies are more aesthetically pleasing, but I couldn't imagine having an actual relationship with a woman.

DH was tall, and slight of build, and maybe a bit fey. Exactly my type.

And yes, I have. And I didn't dislike it.

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ShelaghTurner · 27/07/2016 11:48

No never. Opportunity has never presented itself. I lead a very sheltered life!

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tattoosandteadresses · 27/07/2016 12:25

Yep quite a few when I was younger but would never have classed myself as bisexual. After a few disastrous relationships with men I found myself single for a few years and my feelings for women getting stronger. Now I'm in a proper relationship with a woman, came out to my parents at nearly 40 . I still am attracted to men too so definitely bisexual but I do find women sexier.

Sexuality can change throughout your life, go with the flow and as a pp said don't force it.