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Who has kissed a woman? (Inspired by many recent threads)

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Pome90210 · 24/07/2016 22:11

So, out of curiosity due to quite a few recent threads on the topic, who of those who are in relationships with men have kissed women?

Have just realised at middle age that I never have, but am not opposed to the idea.. what is it like in comparison to men?

admittedly I am quite drunk and have a bit of a crush on a female friend

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proseccowithastraw · 25/07/2016 14:16

lady, haha very true.

fastdaytears · 25/07/2016 14:22

No relationships with girls but kissing them is fun...

Do it!

0phelia · 25/07/2016 14:25

Yes in my personal life I have kissed women in experimentation. I admire women but love (erm) cock too much to give it up in lesbianism.

It was alright, if you fancy making a fantasy your reality do not hold back! Lucky you.

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Pome90210 · 25/07/2016 16:28

0phelia made me snort coffee all over my desk

Mixed bag of opinions. Have only spoken to one person about it in RL and she was aghast at why I would want to try (recently divorced and if he comes anywhere near my vicinity I swear to god I will put a screwdriver through his eyeball) she can't comprehend that after 10 years of marriage / 20 year relationship with the same man, I would want such a drastic change. Not entirely sure that I do on a permanent basis, but I don't really know? I think I am very attracted to this woman. Do you think Katy Perry would reply with some insight if I sent her a tweet

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KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 25/07/2016 16:32

I had a girlfriend for a year and kissed a couple of others in pubs.

These days it's all about men though. Big, strong, hairy, bearded men.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 25/07/2016 16:32

Pubs?

Clubs. I've never kissed anyone in a pub.

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Pome90210 · 25/07/2016 16:33

Have to say my local would probably find that a bit wild! It's mainly inhabited by men over 70 who think I should be at home making someone a sandwich.

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LondonStill83 · 25/07/2016 16:37

I have kissed a few (and a bit more too).

I liked it, but prefer men really.

Though women tend to be softer and more sensual somehow!

fastdaytears · 25/07/2016 16:38

Snogging girls in pubs did used to be a thing! As you say, does rather depend on the pub.

I think you should go for it.

ladybagpuss · 25/07/2016 17:18

What have you got to lose if she's interested? You're single, you're attracted to her, sexuality can be fluid so nothing has to be permanent if you discover you don't want it to be. You're in charge of you, you don't have to take a pledge of eternal allegiance to the Sapphic sisterhood you know lol. In the nicest possible way, I'd forget about your friend's comments and follow your heart.

DownstairsMixUp · 25/07/2016 17:22

I've kissed and gone the whole way with a few. Think they always seem softer and more gentle to kiss. I've always had fun anyway!

fusionconfusion · 25/07/2016 17:46

Yeah I'm with whoever said it was experimentation in college except not really.. Would absolutely if single now probably pursue a woman as much as and maybe more than a man.

Lisa Diamond did research on this at Cornell I think. In reality there are more of us who would than wouldn't.

In college I really thought I was a lesbian.. Not in some angsty am dram conflicted way, it just seemed from who I flirted with and kissed and slept with that label would fit. And now you know I am very rarely attracted to men. But dh was an anomaly and so there you go. Sexuality is a bit mysterious to me. I am not quite sure how I ended up living a straight life but I did.

fusionconfusion · 25/07/2016 17:48

Oh yeah sorry missed a line. So in your situation if I had my eye on someone and I was single... hell yeah

fastdaytears · 25/07/2016 17:55

So basically MN has decided it for you.

Put on some pretty pants and invite this girl round for a few bottles of wine.

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Pome90210 · 25/07/2016 20:49

Pretty pants 😱 Is that a pre-requisite? If so I don't think my Tesco briefs are going to cut it

Fusion do you have any DC? Is that why you chose 'the straight life'?

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Ineedmorelemonpledge · 25/07/2016 20:57

Three women I've had a proper snog with during love making...

I enjoyed the kissing most out of everything we did. And they've been the best kissers I have ever experienced.

There's nothing like running your fingers through soft hair too.

fusionconfusion · 25/07/2016 21:25

I do, three little boys.

It's funny I am not really sure I did choose. I just sort of fell into it. I met dh very young, at 20, through a group of friends that were on the fringes of my usual circle. It was a long time before we even socialised together and even after we were committed I spent a lot of my life in very different social settings eg all female or gay places.. And it evolved. I didn't know where it would go initially. And eventually he moved away and I followed after about a year.. And that was a shifting point and after that committing to one another seemed to become the thing to do. I don't think at that point kids factored in, it wasn't a strategic sort of decision. I just met this one great guy.. It has been hard at times though in ways that are hard to describe. Not our relationship. Just the whole social expectation around straight couples feels somehow different and less free in ways I can't quite put into words.

proseccowithastraw · 25/07/2016 21:26

"do you have DC? Is that why you chose 'the straight life'?"

I have a dc. I didn't choose 'the gay life'. I fell in love with someone and that was that. Assuming you're not saying gay people shouldn't have kids.....

fastdaytears · 25/07/2016 21:41

I'm pretty sure that's not what she meant...
I hope you don't encounter people who do think like that.

OP I'm sure your tesco pants are fine!

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Pome90210 · 25/07/2016 21:45

I think I sort of know what you mean Fusion. Met my DH quite young and staying together seemed the most appropriate thing to do, we fit well together and our plans also went well together. The 'straight expectation' was a lot of it too, my parents were Christian and I always aspired to be that married couple. It's only recently I've realised that a lot of my social circles outside of marriage (particularly in my 20s and early 30s) were gay women and it was hard feeling that I belonged there but at the same time on the outside it looked like I didn't.

So much confusion.

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Pome90210 · 25/07/2016 21:48

Of course not. I am a bit thick but not that thick. I suppose I was talking about myself, I had many reasons to leave my marriage but I didn't because the children were happy and it seemed wrong to disturb that, regardless of how much of an absolute dick my DH was. If we hadn't of had them, then perhaps I would have 15 years earlier.

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NeedACleverNN · 25/07/2016 21:48

If I hadn't met my dh, I don't think I would have been in a relationship with a man.

I prefer women over men by a long shot but at the same time dh is my perfect fit

Olddear · 25/07/2016 21:49

Never. And have absolutely no desire to.

Summerlovinf · 25/07/2016 21:51

Yes...why not? 😘😘💋

SarcasmMode · 25/07/2016 21:53

As a teen yes but not in recent years.

If I didn't have a DH then I would again to know what it's like as a sober adult.

Ii am not sure if I'm bisexual or just really go for someone's vibe rather than their gender.

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