Brave Babes Battle Bus - Holding our heads up like thistles

[MaryMungoAndMidgies]

I bit the bullet - Come on in, excuse the faint whiff of dog!

The last thread

Jealous of mas afternoon of finger sandwiches and soldier ogling

Would have been better for the figure and more fun had it been sandwich ogling and soldier fingering!

ma
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Hello all,
I often pop in to read posts, helps me to put everything in perspective when I know its not just me that struggles.

Feeling very hungover and sorry for myself today, wasn't a very nice person to my hubby last night and in front of the kids (neighbours probably got an earful too!).
I feel like my health is failing and i'm treading water, doing nothing except the same old loop of making promises to myself that i don't keep.

I also have a massive purple lump/boil/new head thing growing on my back and can't decide if its worthy of going to the doctors which is not my favourite place!!

Anyway, looking forward to reading all your posts and hopefully cutting my drinking days down a bit. xx

Greetings babes on this beautiful sunny afternoon. Hope all are ok?

wry, poor horsie was looking super sorry for herself when I popped up last night to ride her mini nemesis... Didn't have the chance to catch up with the yard owner as I was dealing with a very tired and cranky mr l who came to pick me up, and I had lost track of time so was still bouncing around the school. He brought a bunch of roses for me with him though so he can't have been that annoyed . How is the little one today? Puplet was very pleased to see me, until I committed the cardinal sin of telling her I was just going to get changed and then take her to see her friend Mr Vet (aka hunky) for a check up. She is skulking in the corner muttering to herself, pretty sure it's about mean nasty owners...

ma, the engineers is dead posh. And as for afternoon tea with bojo? You are quite the socialite! Hope you got your ferry...

elba I absolutely recommend Cyprus. We used to go every year, beautiful weather, beautiful beaches and lots of historical stuff to do, if that's your bag... lots of lovely bars as well, and cheap vino, but let's just ignore that-

Everyone else, how are you doing? I need to go and drag grumpy to her appointment now, but I will check in again later and catch up with you all properly.

Xxx

Greetings all. Welcome "err"
Am on the ferry, MNing from the middle of the Channel!!

ma!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You made it!!!! What a boost!!!!!!! I am MNing from my sofa. Not as exotic, but damn comfy after a day on my feet.

Cheese. Bread. Wine. You lucky, lucky article! Fill your boots with sunshine and all things lovely, I'm that chuffed for you m'dear! You're on yer wey to a slice o' ma heaven.

Fit like err, welcome aboard! Right. Do me a wee favour and go and get that lump/boil checked, if nowt else it's one less thing to be worrying about. Secondly, we have all been there on the being mean to loved ones front. It's easier to lash out at those we love, it doesn't make it right but it happens. Take a deep breath, apologise if you feel you crossed the line and move on.

Treading water is better than going under. You just need to start kicking. (((((bosies)))))

Set yourself tiny, achievable goals to give you a lift. If it's an hour, if it's an evening, even 20 minutes, it's a goal. A bit of ironing, a chapter of a book, planning and cooking something just a little bit different for dinner. Keep your hands busy. Make a face mask with some honey, oatmeal and yoghurt. You don't want that shit all over your best wine glasses.

Make sure you have ice. Ice cool tonic, bitter lemon, sparkling elderflower or ginger beer/ale. A gorgeous glass, the clink of ice cubes, the adding of a sprig of mint, borage, fresh lemon or lime, or a strawberry all adds to the visual. Make it yours. Sometimes you will think fuck it and have a drink, and that's okay. It's a blip and tomorrow is another day. Never ever beat yourself up for owt you do. It will add to the spiral of negativity. Pick a goal, and aim for a positive. It will be okay. go and get that lump checked please xx

Right, going to post this and come back just in case it disappears, xx

Aww lala see he can be in a grumph and still think of you and bring you roses, and puplet might be grumphing now but she'll forgive you very, very fast one you head towards the exit door of the vets! A handsome vet eh? My vet came out to check bairn tonight, and is happy with her progress. Hope your wee girlie got on okay with her check up this evening, any word from the yard about your horse?

I've never been to Cyprus, might have a little gander on the awd t'internet for a look see. Hope you, puplet and mister l are cosied up watching bake off or summat, xx

ma!! missed the post about the soldier fingering!!

Can't be arsed making anything to eat. Might just have a bit of cheese on toast. Looking at all this fine loaf on BakeOff. the utter bastards. I only have oat bread. Laters, taters, xx

Me, looking all shiny and beyootiful in my imaginary trip to Cyprus.

The perhaps slightly more truthful reality.

Morning All

Errr Welcome to the Bus lovely, you're in the right place for support and we do understand and guess what, we don't judge Most of us have done it and alot worse!!!! Stick with us and take one day at a time. I second Wry please go and get lumpy thing looked at x

Ma soooooo glad you made it onto the boat, yay I am so have a lovely, lovely time - focus on you and your friend and enjoy

Wry so glad Bairn is healing as she should be, fab news. Cyprus is gorgeous, I've not been for over 10 years. Greece (Thassos) has become my all time fave destination - I just love it, it's as you'd imagine Greece 20-30 years ago. I've got post holiday blues and feel totally de-motivated Anyhow, I need to get a grip, I've booked Iceland in Feb but it doesn't seem real yet and too bloody far away timewise!!!!!!!
Wry you are doing so well, hugs to you my friend xxx

Lala I hope pup is all ok? have a good day lovely x

Have a good day y'all - one day at a time and PLEASE be kind to yourselves

Morning all, just a quick one. Just finished nights...I'm still AF (day 4) but not exactly ecstatic about it. I'm in bed with a mint tea and just realised I'm actually genuinely pissed off at it for not being wine. I'm angry at a cup of fecking herb tea...I may of finally lost it overtired and hormonal

Sorry not to name check...I will come back later and have a read back when I've had a couple of hours sleep and (hopefully) rejoined the human race. Night all ️xxx

Friend pulled out of holiday (not yet booked) for work reasons and I'm crying over it like a bloody child ...and of course thinking fuck it lets just drink then. Why is drinking my bloody default for any sort of upset or disappointment??? And also what do I do with two weeks off work and no plans (apart from sit at home and get drunk, feels tempting)

elba so sorry about the holiday, so disappointing, not surprised you're crying, I would be too. And I get the drinking as a default response to any sort of inset, it's mine too. Try to play the film forward, if you drink tonight, you'll feel a lot worse tomorrow.

Is there someone else you could go with? Or go somewhere on your own? I'd love a week or so on my own somewhere - thinking Shirley Valentine on a Greek island here 😀 Maybe something you've always wanted to do?
Or can you postpone your leave until your friend can make it too?
💐🍰🍫 for starters.......

Thanks crochet. Was going to go and stay with friend with baby twins for a few days anyway in the second week, might try and go for longer...just left there more tired than I arrived last time (in a good way of course!).

I just feel really tired at the moment and wanted to lie on a beach for a week and do nothing. Don't want to go alone, spend enough time on my own (single and live alone) I wanted the company. Arghhhh that makes me sound lonely and pathetic I am Might see if anyone's around for a weekend away or something, or break up baby visiting with a couple of nights in a hotel. Or failing that save the money and do some locum/agency. Just don't want to sit around for two weeks getting drunk Its made me feel embarassingly lonely.

Still in bed, debating if it would be awful and lazy to just stay here till tomorrow. Still want to drink though, I know it won't help but don't know what will

Sorry, that was probably hugely negative

elba could you join some sort of group holiday? Does such a thing exist?! Who knows. And it doesn't sound pathetic at all, wanting some company. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. What about booking a city break somewhere in Europe? Or even in the uk? It's getting to that nice time of year when Autumn is kicking in, lots of orangey brown leaves and still some sunshine! You can borrow the puppy for some lovely long walks if you like DO NOT JUST SIT AT HOME AND GET DRUNK! easier said than done, I know. Like you and crochet, my default reaction to things gone wrong is to drink. Or things gone right. Or just things in general. I am the pathetic one, not you!

Hard day at work today. Lots of tension in the office while I have to act as the go between. Sigh. Trying to summon the energy in the next ten mins to get up to the yard and ride for a bit. Really not feeling it.

wry glad pup is on the mend, and those pictures made me laugh. I am certain there is nothing whale like about you!!! You are definitely channeling picture 1!

spanna pup is good. Had to leave her for a few hours alone as dog walker was only available in the morning, but she waited obediently until I got home so she could go outside for the loo, and barked so manically and jumped about on the doorstep like a loon when I opened the door. Pretty sure my neighbours think I am a cruel and mean owner.

How is everyone else?

The view from my window...

ma that is gorgeous!!! You lucky lucky thing.

I have sacked off riding, sat on my bed all ready to go and literally couldn't get up off it. Would be no use on a sodding horse. So going to take the dog for a leisurely stroll, pick up some dinner, have a long bath and await mr L (who decided to have a lie in today tried his best to persuade me to do the same and call in sick, he is a terrible influence, I went to work on time like a good girl).

Feel a bit rubbish as riding always cheers me up, but this evening I just do not have the energy or the mindset to feck about catching the evil pony, trying to get the mud off her, tacking her up, then actually having to get on the bloody thing, etc etc etc. I am a wimp. Trying to stop my eyes from closing. Why the heck am I so abnormally tired? Nearly fell on my computer keyboard a fair few times this afternoon as my head drooped forward... Not been this exhausted for years!

So, cheer me up babes, and inspire me to walk to the shop. What shall I have for dinner before my bath?

Ps ma, is that some sort of church type thing in the skyline? I love a good church I do. Not religious in the slightest, but I find them very peaceful and comforting for some reason... Yes I know I am weird

Oh and here is the view from my window just now...

Not lonely and pathetic at all elba, can see why you want some company, but probably best if it's not a bottle! That would be such a waste of a holiday.
Good idea to spend a bit longer with your friend with the twins, I'm sure she'd appreciate the help and you get the company - even though it'll be knackering.
Could you do a bit of shopping with your holiday money?
lala you're knackered too. Give the pup a cuddle from me.

Busy here as had a decorator painting the front of the house, and a builder doing buildy stuff, my role has been chief tea lady. Same again tomorrow, but I gave a dentist appt in the morning so def AF, don't want to be breathing stale wine on the poor woman.....

crochet you have the best ideas. Consider pup cuddled on your behalf. She has just taken a toilet roll hostage though... And is yapping her little heart out as she wants to get into the bedroom. I am not even in there! By Jove, she just managed to open the door... Now she is eating a manky make up remover wipe from the bin. I give up. Free to a good home??

elba, treat yourself to something nice with the holiday money. Some new perfume? A new bag? A nice coat in preparation for winter? Maybe arrange a shopping day in your nearest city? You are more than welcome to the period puppy/mini wolf... Pic attached to tempt you...!

Gorgeous pup!

Here's mine......

crochet Oh my goodness!!! Beautiful!!!! Wish I had a 'proper' dog... Everyone either coos at her or judges me for having a small dog. She doesn't care either way, just pootles Labrador??? I always wanted one... So jealous!!! What's her name? Or is that too outing??