I've met someone and I don't know how to finish this title.

[ProfessorPickles]

I apologise for the terrible thread title, but I didn't have a clue what to go with and could no longer ask your advice
I still like train edition but didn't want to use it incase it's terrible, which it probably is.

So here we are, part three of the 'I've met someone' saga.
The first thread was very positive and exciting, the second was mostly negative for all of us and here we are starting the third!

Let's make it a good one!

You can take the girl out of hull......

Pure class I am!

I also would give it until 9 - 9.30 I pray he turns up before then!

Yep I agree with 9.30 being the kind of cut off point.

Garage is closed. I'm so sad guys.

He could have left me a message.

Stop going out!! Just wait.. all is not lost

He is NOT coming!

Has he messaged you??

Nooooo, what did he say This?

No, that's the whole point. No message. No nothing. I really was absolutely nothing to him.

What a jerk. A no would have been fine. But nothing?

I'm sorry you are feeling sad This.

If he doesn't turn up or call then that in itself must be your closure - realising that he is not deserving of you. I know it's the answer you want, but it is an answer and in time it will bring you that bit more head space that was being taken up by wondering.

if he left so late (garage open a short while ago) he may still be coming but maybe he didn't go the same road as he is picking up something (wine?).
around 9pm still fine, so wait a bit more.

Please just give it 30 more minutes before giving up!

No guys. He. Is. Not. Coming.

Of course this is the answer. I must move on. But he has fallen in my esteem. Seriously. Plus, my Merc is still not completely fixed. Plus they still have my Jag.

I am so, so sad.

in France dinner is always so late - so 9pm not seen as late - but also if he's really too tired, I'm sure he'll text or call later.

no This just wait a while for him or his call - really you can't judge him yet (bear in mind he's exhausted and maybe just slow today).

It's so depressing. I really hoped he was a man of action rather than words. Obviously not.

This - seriously listen to us!

It is quite right that your view of him has dropped, respect and esteem are earned. Not turning up or calling would send him plummeting in terms of regard for me, I can't stand bad manners and lack of thought/kindness.

But it is also perfectly ok to feel sad. Finding out someone is not the person you thought they were is sad. Is your daughter around to give you a bit of support and cheering up?

As for the ongoing work with the cars - polite but not warm is the way to go I think. Businesslike and approach any work you need him to do as just a transaction to be carried out, which is what it is.

And this 'm- he was never going to be a Man of action?? Yoy know that?? You really must lower your expectations of how people are supposed to behave!

In Spain, things don't get started till around 10pm. You haven't commented on the cultural timing aspect, This?

Eeek - forgive me....

I'm sorry Crazy, but is it so bad of me to expect him to send me a message to say he's not coming,

Muddle is right as usual. Although I still have hope.

I do agree with Crazy about expectations. I think we tend to base our assumptions about others on our own thoughts and behaviours. Which is fine when they match but often they do not because the other person isn't as good